Friend visited me with a rotten cold... And gave it to my five week old

[Moulesvinrouge1]

How do I approach it with her? I'm really cross, should I be a bit more forgiving as maybe she didn't really realise? I'm actually really upset about it. She held her for an hour before mentioning it!

I wouldn't mention it, but I would never have visited a friend with a new baby if I had a bad cold, let alone held the baby for an hour. Very thoughtless.

I hate to be the voice of doom, but there is a chance your baby might have caught RSV (Respiratory Syncitial Virus) from the visitor. In adults it shows as a cold, but in tiny babies it can be more serious. My Ds was 5 weeks old when he caught it from my MIL's cold. Within a week he was in hospital and stayed in for 4 days until his chest improved.

I hope you babe will be fine.

Thanks all- I think it is the thoughtlessness which upset me, and I'm a wee bit over tired. I wont say anything but next time she visits I'll check with her ahead of time and hopefully that will make her think twice. Thanks again.

And thanks for all your good wishes too.

Yeah, I did everything I could to protect DD from germs before her 8 week shots. Didn't let anyone outside family hold her, sick people wore face masks if they were sick. 7 weeks old and she got sick anyways from DH who carried a bug home from work.

It's futile.

If it wasn't your friend, it would have been something else.

id be really fucked off if that was my friend. The last thing you all need is to be ill.

Im not sure what you can do now, but I would be seething about it

Actually, id probably write a message and say thanks very much for giving my tiny newborn your stinking cold. #passiveaggressive

I think it was very inconsiderate actually, I can't believe it didn't occur to her that she could give her cold to a newborn baby. She must have thought her cold wasn't that bad.

My DH's friend's wife wanted everyone to have their annual flu jab before coming into contact with her PFB. Her DH shot that down in the end. She is a very annoying person so I excused myself from the baby worship event saying I thought I had a cold ;)