I got my boss arrested

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I know this isn't the right board but I have no idea where to put it.
I'm nervous about sharing any details but the general gist is that I called the police on my boss after overhearing them beat one of their children.
Social services have called me asking for all details of them previous to this and they asked so many questions and didn't seem to believe me - asking why I hadn't reported before (boss has been bad before) etc.
I'm really worried that they don't believe me (even though I have evidence) and that I lost my job and part of my sanity for nothing.
If anyone on here is a social worker - or knows a social worker - could reassure or advise that would be great.
I'm sorry for the vagueness but I don't want to make things worse.

I agree with lowcrabdiet and everyone else who has said what a brave thing you have done, you really should be very proud of yourself indeed.

I have also been in the situation of needing to report both suspicions and disclosures of abuse. It is never an easy thing to do and the sad reality is that too many people keep quiet. But I always remember a little boy I worked with, right at the beginning of my career, who had suffered terrible brain damage after being shaken by a parent. You could well have saved this happening to one of the children you worked with.

And please don't be concerned about returning to work for another family. You sound like a lovely nanny and the circumstances of your departure would encourage, not discourage me from employing you.

Bless you for doing the right thing. You have been very brave.

Thank you, lowcrabdiet, that's the information that I have desperately been trying to get for weeks now. No one would tell me what was going on.
I have spoken to two detectives (not including the Sergent on 101 and the officer who took the statement) seperately over the phone and now the SS lady. The police have photos themselves apparantly so I presume they took them at the scene which is a "relief" as I was concerned the marks may have not looked so serious by that point (several hours after the incident).
(I say relief from an evidence point of view, my heart breaks for the child).

A previous nanny to the family (left to start a family of her own in the spring) is also making a referral and she has evidence herself. And knows other people willing to disclose information.

OMG those poor children

Hats off to you Help what an amazing job, I hope your example will be followed by other nannies and people in similar situations

You are a good person op. Some people may not be willing and turn a blind eye for the sake of keeping their job. It's up to the ss and police now, but either way you have done the right thing.

You have SOOO done the right thing here. Applause from here (states) for reporting and also to other nanny making a referral. Too often wealthy people get away with horrible things because no one will take the risk of reporting them.

I understand you must be scared and worried but you are a wonderful person for doing what you did and are so, so brave. Stay focused on the kind of live you have saved those children from having, the poor things. You should be proud of yourself for how you have handled it

Well done OP.
They will likely talk to the school and GP as well. It sounds like more than one person (ex-nanny) will support your statements. And the marks will speak for themselves.

Bastard boss.

No problem.

It sounds like the CPS will have a good case. One of the worst parts of my job is seeing how many children are brave enough to disclose abuse, and yetvthe case beer even darkness the doors of a criminal court. But with physical evidence and adult witnesses the case is so much stronger. So I share your relief that there are photographs (as awful as that sounds).

I'm glad the other nanny is coming forward and I hope that helps you see just how brave you have been to be the first person who was willing to take a stand for these poor kids. You are a hero

God, sorry for my predictive text madness. Just imagine more appropriate words and slot them in amongst the chaos!

Wow, well done you.
Theres not enough people to stand up and make a difference, I'm really pleased the previous nanny is going to stand up as well. Your going to make the difference for those kids. Well done.

Well done op, those poor children x

Well done for trying to protect those children. Sadly you may be right about you ex boss, better educated abusers find it easier to evade the system. Thank goodness for the photos. Good Luck with your new job.

Well done op
Hope the agency finds something else for you soon but you absolutely did the right thing x

Thank you, I feel much better now - I'm a very paranoid person and worry a lot!

Well done you, standing up for children is heroic. Not sure about this but, if leaving has caused you financial difficulties perhaps there's a way to get some recompense by claiming constructive dismissal or something? I have no clue but maybe a solicitor from your union (if you're in one) could advise on options?

Bless you, you did the right thing.

You have saved those children years of pain. You have done exactly the right this. Well done.

How are things now?

Awful, I'm not being given updates about what is happening and the whole situation is seriously affecting my health.
It's affecting my job hunt too because families want references.
Apparantly I've been having panic attacks at night (says OH) and today I just spent the whole day in bed, which is pretty pathetic

You are probably in shock and you must find it difficult to comprehend why an adult could do this

I echo what lowcrabdiet posted . I've had to go to court for a CP case , I wasn't kept in the loop , and didn't expect to be .

Try and rest now , knowing you have done the right thing and let the police do their job

Well done in reporting.

Go to the doctors, you need help. The doctors will help ask DH to come with you for moral support if you need to.

As for reference then ask people you have babysat for.

Wrt references I would be very short and to the point 'I had no choice but to leave my last job as one of the parents was abusing the children. I have other excellent references though'

Don't go into details. Or discuss how to proceed with your agency and take their advice on how to handle it, they might discuss it with future employers before interview so you're not put in the position of justifying your actions.

Op I was a nanny and started a new job through an agency for a very wealthy family, both parents in top, professional jobs.

On my second day one of the children told me his dad had pushed his mum into the fridge, the child actually showed me where his mums head had hit the fridge.

I left that day and called the agency to say I wouldn't be going back and why- she actually shouted at me!

Told me I was unprofessional and that I should re think my career- every family has tiffs etc.

I never reported anything to anyone(mixture of being Young and due to reaction of agency manager) but I often think of the kids and hope all was ok.

A month later I got a fabulous live in job with a family away from home- best job I've ever had.

Well done for reporting and fingers crossed you get a fabulous job next time round

I have huge respect for you, OP - you protected these children even though it came at a personal cost to you. That is the definition of brave.

BTW you didn't get the boss arrested; people who don't want to be arrested shouldn't commit crimes.

Please continue to remind yourself that you have done absolutely the right thing.