Well. Not exactly lying, more exaggerating. Please stick with me, it's quite involved.
So we have ds conceived easily and naturally but have been TTC dc2 for 2 years, our issue is extreme male factor (hardly any sperm usual shape).
We've had two failed rounds of icsi Ivf where we got to transfer but have never had any embryos survive to blastocyst. However both times they gave us about a 35% chance of success.
Both failed and at my follow up appointment the consultant advised me to have a laparoscopy to see if the c section I had with ds has caused endometriosis. I did have some problems following my c section (retained product, sorry tmi) and the consultant said that scar tissue may be stopping embryos from implanting. I personally think that the embryos have just stopped developing since none of the ones we didn't transfer did brilliantly but he's the expert I guess.
Anyway a laparoscopy costs £4k privately. The only symptom I have of endo is extremely painful ovulation which I have been to the gp for previously even when we weren't TTC. It is much much worse since having ds and sometimes makes me cry with pain and lasts for several days. Other months not so bad but definitely painful every month. The gp basically said that the nhs would just give me progesterone treatment to stop me ovulating and hence stop the pain but that is no good when TTC. The nhs won't help me with anything fertility wise because we already have one child. Fair enough.
We have private medical insurance which we've paid for a long time but they won't pay out understandably for fertility issues or I think for problems caused by childbirth, which possibly mine is. I have to be honest and say I probably wouldn't go for a laparoscopy if we weren't TTC and I wasn't worried about scar tissue affecting implantation, we will never get pregnant naturally because dh's sperm is so poor.
The private consultant has advised me to tell the gp that Im suffering painful periods, bleeding between periods, painful sex and pain on ovulation. It just doesn't sit well with me and I'm a crap liar. The only bit that's true is the painfuld ovulation. He said to ask the gp to refer back to him and as long as the insurance don't get wind of fertility issues it'll be ok. I've spoken to the insurance and told them that we've had fertility treatment for male factor infertility and they said that was ok, it wouldn't affect this claim. But it still feels wrong.
Otoh god I want a baby and we've already spent £10k on treatment and don't really want to spend another £4k on something that may or may not help. The sensible thing would just be to except I've got one child and live with it but it's so hard. I'm only 31. I don't want to feel sad about this for the rest of my life.
WWYD?