To be sat here bloody seething

[BlahBlahYeahYeah]

Have had a normal day as usual, picked dd1 up from school, dropped and picked her up from another after school activity thing, just as the two girls are finishing off dinner and getting ready for bed, DH arrives home from work.
His mood is perfectly fine, although he looked really tired (and has been working long hours for the past few days and finished at 11pm yday). As soon as he comes in, he says hello and a chat etc, Hthen sits with dd1 for abit while she chatters about school and then gets up to get the nail clipper to cut her nails. I can hear them in the other room talking about the holiday which is booked for the half term. Dh is telling dd1 'when we go on holiday, you can buy anything you want'. I come in and

Fair points, rooty.

Give give him a hug like I said! he's like a bear with a sore paw, he needs some TLC and is going about it all wrong.

*Go give

Ok, I'll call it a night on this, and will talk to him tomorrow and maybe say sorry for being nitpicky with my comment and that it wasn't intended to undermine him, and wasn't even fully serious -
Thank you all for the helpful perspective

He sounds like a 2 year old. Leave him to his tantrum. Perhaps he could phone the dentist himself and explain how much pain he's in.

Cross post rooty! Yeah, I think you're right... I can be a right stubborn mare an all though so dunno about a hug right now

Make yourself! you can do it! then you can nick his chips

I prefer the or even but definitely not
Is their one for a grip.

Sometimes when I'm really pissed off and stubborn always I just sort of boink my head against DH's shoulder He knows what it means.

Rooty speaks sense

Or you can kick his foot

Gently mind!

Person, I don't mind making the appointment for him. He is a bit of a workaholic and is very focused on work, he wouldn't look after himself if I didn't push him to go dentist/doctor whatever and only goes if I book the appointments and then remind him several days before, and on the day!

Rooty I'm actually dying for a chip! The smell is wafting from the kitchen and weakening my resolve as I type

OP reading this you're more of a problem than he is. Try to relax - you're far too demanding and it's really not attractive to think that you're always right.

Er, what exactly have I 'demanded' forty

Or is it too much to expect to have a quiet evening with dh and no huffs , just some quality time when he's been working long hours and I've been alone with the girls.
Really how unattractive of me

Seeeeeee, we are similar you and I. Go and kick his foot, and nick a chip. Poke him in the tum. A wee smile will help. You'll be on the sofa watching your programme and scoffing this dinner in no time.

Door slamming and silent treatment really not attractive

Oh bog off Person, we're all human and OP has admitted she could have been more sympathetic

OP, I hope this means you're in the kitchen with him. Tomorrow is a new day. One of you get that dentist appt sorted!

I remember my dad told me I could have anything I wanted on a day out once in London. I wanted a pigeon all of my own after feeding them corn. He asked 'the pigeon man' (who upon reflection was probably a random stranger) and asked how much a pigeon was. The man said and amount, my dad was like, oh nooooo Hoot you've only for 50p! Shall go buy ice cream instead?

The end.

But I think mostly children ask for toys and the like and if they want ridiculous things well then let him bloody well deal with it and maybe he won't make such grand promises in the future!

Gah sorry Person, that was aimed at forty, got myself muddled

He's been working stupid hours and got carried away talking to DD about the holiday. What's wrong with that? Just let him have the conversation next time then forget about it!

Infinity8: Poor guy is working long long hours, and is in pain. I think it gives him the right not to be perfect sometimes, and sulk. (I know I am no prize after a week of 9am to 9pm).

OP seems to have normally a lovely relationship with him, but sometimes sparks fly!