To be sat here bloody seething

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Have had a normal day as usual, picked dd1 up from school, dropped and picked her up from another after school activity thing, just as the two girls are finishing off dinner and getting ready for bed, DH arrives home from work.
His mood is perfectly fine, although he looked really tired (and has been working long hours for the past few days and finished at 11pm yday). As soon as he comes in, he says hello and a chat etc, Hthen sits with dd1 for abit while she chatters about school and then gets up to get the nail clipper to cut her nails. I can hear them in the other room talking about the holiday which is booked for the half term. Dh is telling dd1 'when we go on holiday, you can buy anything you want'. I come in and

I know, book. I should have. She'd probably have moaned all the way through the bloody holiday. Like last year, she wanted everything in sight! Dh has this idea in his head of when on holiday, absolutely spoil the girls rotten, and I just think it's a daft idea.

Pretty I didn't undermine him, it wasn't said in that way, I was almost half joking, but he got all serious on me.

Something to be discussed later, not dressing him down in front of the five year old when he's trying to have a sweet if misguided moment. Probably a way for him of rationalising how much work he's having to do, with a grand gesture of generosity.

As for you being snappy with him because you missed him and the reunion isn't going according to the script - also textbook .

Go and give him a hug and explain.

tbf I can see how it's frustrating if he is always making promises he can't keep but you need to stop policing him and being the bad guy. Let him deal with it whether it be buying stuff on holiday or getting a hamster (as long as he knows he'd have to look after the latter!)

Ah leave it. You're both tired :)

You mean she can't have a camel?

Will no-one think of the kids?

Oh - and YANBU to be seething. He's being an idiot.

Its the fallacy that is the two fun parents rule - you can never ever have two fun parents!

One always has to bring a degree of realism to proceedings, if not then a child comes to school with a £50 note for tuck money whilst wearing clown shoes.

Do you have wine?

He's come out and watching a movie and doesn't want to eat.

I'm going to bed, can't be arsed with his stupid mood and bloody knackered an all.

ok so he is making pie in the sky promises and you have to be the bad guy. not fair.

Time, no wine but I'll make a cup of tea and take it with me

Thanks for the replies all

YABU to expect support on here when you are tired and have had a shitty day.

Shame on you lady

I hope you get a good sleep and things seem better tomorrow

Ahh, thanks fanjo! I wasn't actually having a bad day before he huffed off, it was a normal day although I was tired (but that's to be expected with a 5 year old and 21 month old).

Can hear him in the kitchen making burger and chips.

Can't even ask him what his issue is when he's in a mood because he just ignores me like a nob. He's taken extra-strength ibuprofen, probably for his tooth which has been hurting.
Just feel like he's ruined my evening.
And there's no bloody telly in the bedroom so I catch up on the programme I missed yday !

He sounds like a child himself and the huffy 'I don't want any tea' stuff sounds childish too. Leave him to it and just ignore any more huffiness.

Toothache is prob making him ratty. Push him towards dentists tomorrow :)

Fanjo I've booked him in already, earliest they had was 26th.

I thought we were gonna have a lovely cosy evening and now he's gone and ruined it.

Oh no..maybe keep trying for a cancellation..I work for a dentist and they do come up. Or if he is really sore they should be seeing him sooner if it's an NHS dentist.

Oh, I didn't know that fanjo. I'll call back tomorrow and maybe explain that he's in a lot of pain and not very good company

YANBU, it does seem to be a mega-sulk for something so trivial, especially when he won't make the effort to talk through whatever he's so cross about.

Yes, they shouldn't make him wait that long with toothache

He's got toothache, working all hours, and you got picky with him over a throw away comment.

Yeah, I'd be grumpy too. YWNU to make your comment, but YABU not to have a little sympathy.