To think this is rather petty.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

The baby doesn't understand about taking turns. PResumably you do though? You should have apologised and got the baby out of his way.

Personally, if I had been the man in front of you I wouldn't have been particulalry bothered. In Crazy Golf, you don't lose the balls or anything do you? I think he was a bit grumpy.

However, up thread you say something along the lines of "if he'd been a bit older I'd have told him to wait his turn but he was too young" - no 21 months is not too young for this to be explained. He maight not have taken it in, but it's just one of those behavioural things you reinforce over and over again from a young age.

I also think that given your extremely defensive responses on this thread, it's possible that your behaviour on the day was similarly defensive/antagonistic which may explain his repsone to you/your nephew.

As I say, your nephew hitting one ball out of turn wouldn't have bothered me. It wouldn't bother a lot of people. Continually doing so would though. As would "an attitude" so I do wonder whether this man has picked up on other things?

I would love to see the reverse thread.

But I bet the man hasn't given it a second thought.

Why oh why can't I stop refreshing this thread, reading and reading while my frustration levels rise ever higher...

You owed him an apology for not keeping DN out of his way.
And why weren't you prepared to tell the child to wait his turn? E should be able to understand that.
You are even more unreasonable for refusing to accept your lack of Attention meant DN was getting in the way of others.

Beeyump - me too loving this thread for its delusional properties.

To be so aggressive over a very minor incident which happened days ago must be exhausting. You'd be doing yourself to huge favour to just let it go.

lighthouse what were you hoping to get out of this thread? Genuine question. Were we all supposed to agree with you?

To summarise some of the points on this thread:

• no blame is attached to your DN.
• the man was talking to you, not your DN. It was a polite, if slightly PA, way of telling you to remove him from 'their' area.
• if you're going to take a toddler to play type of game where people of all ages play and one of the principles is taking turns, you don't let them go ahead and spoil somebody else's game.

But I don't really know why I'm bothering.

However, up thread you say something along the lines of "if he'd been a bit older I'd have told him to wait his turn but he was too young" - no 21 months is not too young for this to be explained. He maight not have taken it in, but it's just one of those behavioural things you reinforce over and over again from a young age.

I also think that given your extremely defensive responses on this thread, it's possible that your behaviour on the day was similarly defensive/antagonistic which may explain his repsone to you/your nephew.

Yes...uh huh...this.
OP - your toddler does not get to go first because he's a toddler. Your job as caretaker is to supervise him appropriately according to the conditions. Observing queueing etiquette is basic.

Yabu for all the reasons stated above, please tell me that this is a reverse as no one can think that they are so special that the world revolves around them and their family.

But, in case it isn't a reverse, using your logic I could have taken my children somewhere when they were toddlers like the theatre, the cinema (at a showing not for juniors), a school play etc let them disrupt other people, ruin their enjoyment, let them get in the way and do exactly what the toddler wanted without trying to teach them because they had a right to be there - true, a right to ruin the experience for other people - hardly.

If it had been one of my children, I would have stopped them and apologised to the people in front and distracted the child while waiting for our turn.

Only on mn

Oh and Op, my kids are not perfect. I wince when I remember a bowling alley incident . But, I was mortified and apologised profusely to the family whose game had been interupted, who to give them their due, laughed about it. I can imagine if I'd shrugged and said "kids eh?" they might not have been so forgiving of the stray ball that got chucked down their aisle

Look hen. No one is saying they expect a 2yo not to queue jump at the crazy golf. What they are saying is if your wean runs in front of a man wielding a club you pick them the fuck up and shift them out the way. HTH HAND.

Rules of crazy golf - you go round as a group, each person in group takes a turn until all group members have got ball in the hole.

Group behind wait patiently at the hole they have just played until next hole is completely vacated. Age of group in front is irrelevant - crazy golf is fun for everyone big and small.

Your nephew did not wait for next group to vacate the hole - yes he is to young to understand the rules but you are not - you should have been holding on to him - you say he was stood in front of you - so he could not get close enough to hit the gentlemans ball.

You should have stopped him, or apologised to him for your nephew interupting their game. It's called basic manners.

My turn first is not rude, or grumpy - its stating a fact.

YABU

See I thought it was Crazy Golf Etiquette to only have one group at a time on each hole.

So I don't understand how the OP's DN got in the way - he shouldn't have been at that particular hole.

Also were did I make out I was special and entitled, please.
In every single post where you have not backed down and said, you are right, perhaps I could have handled it better.
Judging from your postings on this thread, I feel sorry for the chap. You are rude and selfish and seem unable to countenance being in the wrong.

I'm just wondering, if the OP took her DN into somewhere like a cinema and he wanted to run around and bang the seats up and down and generally annoy everyone else would she feel he should be allowed free run? After all she's paid her money.

Yep. He's going to be that child that runs around the restaurant and god forbid that the staff should ask that he kept under control; otherwise his mother will go nuclear or ballistic or whatever phrase was used.

First Rule of Crazy Golf: "crazy golf" is the name of the game, not an instruction.

I'm getting more and more frustrated by this thread. The op clearly is slightly bonkers, and is putting words in other posters mouths to make it sound like they are the unreasonable ones.
At first I thought this was a reverse, but now sadly I think that the op is just thick.

'He's a baby!' I don't know why, but suddenly this seems the MOST ANNOYING THING I'VE EVER SEEN/HEARD

It is also called minigolf and it can be taken very seriously, although it is appealing for children. There are world championships and governing bodies.

I find that some courses can be pretty challenging and really not for young children.

francesdrake "crazy golf" is the name of the game, not an instruction" Arf!

That's the second time today I have directly addressed you because you've made me laugh. Could you please cease and desist amusing me because I have work to do

My dad sustained a very nasty black eye in the 70s in a freak Crazy Golf accident in Llandudno. It can be a contact sport!

Someone did ask early what would you have done if the gentleman hadn't noticed your nephew and carried on playing and accidently hit your nephew - I expect that would have been his fault as well not yours for not keeping him with you.

Guess we would have seen 'nuclear' reaction then!

Also would love to know why nephews Mum and Dad would go nuclear for someone else asking their child to behave resonably. Good luck to them when he hits school age!

Sorry just seen your post Sixgeese.

Cross post.