To think this is rather petty.

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I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

All the really successful people I know weren't allowed to take their turn before an adult, not to win a game if they hadn't really won. (Even 'Snap'.) This means they are expected to think for themselves, take responsibility for themselves & work at something. You can teach this from a very young age. You are not doing them any favours by indulging them but it's easier in the short term, isn't it?

That's what the older guy was trying to tell you ... but you haven't the capacity to listen to anyone. Him or us.

So if some snapped at your child or D.N. You would not be peeved.

No, if he had misbehaved.

But I would do more than look at you if you told me "he's just a baby" than apologise.

So he definitely snapped? I wonder why you didn't say that in your OP

And it depends on what they "snapped" for. If my child had been in the wrong I would've said "oh sorry!" and been embarrassed.

My reaction. Lewiji. You're making out I ran a mock around the golf course. Shouting and screaming. All I said was (Said btw not snapped or jumped down his throat) was "He's a baby!.

YABU. He was probably saying it to the child to make his point to you, which isn't ideal but which isn't outrageous either.

No one is saying your nephew is the worst child in the world. In fact I think the thread is petty unanimous about there being no blame to attach to him.

You, as the adult, should have apologised –not for your nephew being a baby, obviously not, but for the inconvenience of his behaviour, for which YOU were responsible.

You sound rude, and boorish going on about how your money is as good as anyone else's. That's not the point.

I think you made a mistake by referring to your nephew as a baby. That would make the man think he was being reasonable because obviously a baby would be too young to play golf as they can't stand up or hold a golf club.

It would have been better to remind him your nephew was just a young child and learning about patience and turn taking.

Again, I did not say you run amok. FGS.

I would have told you to make sure he waited for his turn and that you should apologise rather than excuse him.

And I still don't understand how he got to hit his ball first.
Crazy golf courses have clear demarcations and they contain the balls.

It really sounds like your DN (possibly all of you) were too close and invading his space.

Your response of "he's only a baby!" would have got a shrug from me. Not my baby, not my problem.
Interesting that your sister would "go nuclear" under those circumstances. You say that as though she would be entitled to.
She'd get a short shrift from me.

Yep, really petty, OP.

Of you.

O.K fair enough. This perfect man owes me nothing but equally I owe him nothing either.

I know you were meaning baby as in little child not meaning an actual lying in a pram/carseat too young for anything baby.

Again, nobody said he was perfect!

Are you being this defensive because you know you were wrong?

I think you need to work on being less touchy! (and I know being told you're touchy when you're feeling touchy is really annoying - sorry!)

I think he was also touchy over a game of crazy golf.

YABU - just because he is delightful to you doesn't mean he is delightful to everyone - especially strangers. I would be annoyed too if the situation happened with my family. Stop invading his space - you are not special - this sense of entitlement boils my piss.

Perhaps he thinks you were a bit touchy over his comment?

OP, the man should not have said it was his turn to you DN, he shouldn't have needed to. YOU should have. YOU should have apologised for allowing your DN to get in their way and YOU should have kept him under better control. YOU. Nobody else. YOU. If you really can't grasp that then I don't think you're mature enough to have responsibility for a toddler in a public place.

This perfect man owes me nothing but equally I owe him nothing either.
Other than to observe the widely recognised queueing system we all adhere to, of course.

This perfect man is trying to teach your nephew manners and waiting his turn. A valuable life lesson.

Invading his space. I wouldn't want to invade his space. Invading his space would be following him around wanting to be his best mate. Also were did I make out I was special and entitled, please.

I give up!

OK, so you don't think someone should expect you to ensure that a childin your care does not behave in a way that they find disruptive.
fair enough, if that's how you view things, what do you think should have happened?
you brought a toddler to crazy golf, clearly a toddler does not understand and cannot play crazy golf, so the toddler just wanted to hit balls.
we agree so far?
there is someone who does know how to play, can play and is playing and now they have someone elses toddler hitting balls around them.
is that right?
and instead of alerting you to the fact that they were being interrupted, you wanted what?
in your mind, what should have happened?
the man and his family step to one side and let the toddler hit balls until he got bored?
you dont feel that as the carer of the child it is your job to guide and manage them, you wanted other people to prioritise the toddler in your care?
why? I mean, I get that he's important to you, he's your family and you love him. But to them, he's a minor irritation that the adult with him was not managing.
Why do you feel a toddlers wish to hit balls is of more importance to strangers to him than their wish to play their game and get on with their day?

You can choose to think that strangers to you should make you and yours their priority or you can choose to accept that people generally like to go about their own day and we all rub along together better if we keep out of each other's space.

I realise you arent the parent, so maybe this isnt something you know, but the world does not dote on the children of strangers we all just want to get on with our own shit.
he wanted you to effectively manage the child.
that was not unreasonable.
I realise you will disagree.

Invading his space is staying too close to him while playing, is putting balls on the course he's playing on.

And, sadly, you made out that you were special and entitled throughout the thread.

Supersoakercrazygolfgold.

He He He BitOut - its impossible, opinion asked for, opinion given, opinion ignored.

OP, your posts pretty much all make you sound as though you think you're special.

You expected to be able to push in front of someone else with your nephew without repercussions.

Because your nephew is too young to understand taking turns, you let him push in instead of keeping him under control.

You don't think you owe another person an apology for taking their turn.