To think this is rather petty.

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I took my D.D and nephew out the other day and we had a game of crazy golf. My nephew is 21 months old. Anyway we were behind this family. Now keep in mind my D.N is 21 months old a baby doesn't know any different or about patience ect which no-one would expect him to.
Anyway to get straight to the point D.N hit the golf ball and this grown man turned around and went (to a baby keep in mind). It's my turn first. I looked at him like he had 10 heads and said. "He's a baby". He just gave me a look and carried on playing.

YANBU. Very petty indeed OP.

good call mrsfrumble.

I suppose what I am saying is that I just don't understand why anyone would take a game of crazy golf so seriously tbh.

From the person who thought it was serious enough to start a thread about it.

You're pissed off because someone said it was his turn first?
Your bil and sil would go nuclear if you told them?
Are you all unhinged?

Jesus.

It was probably his passive aggressive way of telling you to let his family play their game in piece. If you chose an activity that involves taking turns then as the adult you are responsible for making sure everyone in your group follows the rules. If that isn't possible then yes they are too young for the activity.

Petty? When someone's child is disrupting the activity you've paid to enjoy, and you're supposed to just smile sweetly and say 'aw, isn't he cute?'

Fuck that.

Keep your kid under control, it's your fault, not the 21 month old's. You.

Sorry, and yabu. There is a height thing you have to be above to play at our local mini putt, a toddler would not have been allowed into ours.

Most people know you are supposed to wait your turn, and keep children away from people playing ahead (or behind) you.
You, I gather, are not experienced in the game rules, so felt the man was a bit mean, when in fact, you should not allow a toddler to toddle away from your own little group and your place in the queue. Now you know to either not bring a baby in there, or to keep a hold of him in future.

Crazy golf is a fun game designed for children. Anyone expecting an orderly and civilised day out should do something else.

Yes, yes, keep an eye on your kids etcetc. I hear you baying.

It's a bit like expecting your kids to wait their turn for a slice of birthday cake. Every now and then, one's gunna slip through the net. This does not mean one is selfish, negligent, pushy, entitled or bolshy.

The man was being a dick.

He wasn't a dick. He simply told the child to wait for his turn.
He would be a dick if he screamed at the child, or swore at the child.

On responsible adults who don't even apologise, on the other hand...

Well, that would make him an abusive dick.

Honestly all this talk of letting a toddler disrupt a game, not having control of kids, kids being disruptive. It's a bit much isn't it? We're talking about a toddler. They're slippery little suckers. They get away from you sometimes. It's not generally because people are being negligent.

I've taken my kids and nephews to play crazy golf. It was mayhem. Not just because of us, but because of ALL the other kids there.

It's mini golf. Not the British Open.

I don't disagree that an opps sorry would have been in order.

It really isn't hard to hold your child back for sixty seconds or so until the people in front of you have finished.

No, it isn't. But like I said, sometimes they get away from you. You have a bunch of little people playing a game involving sticks and balls. That's crack cocaine for a kid.

I fail to see what the problem is. He didn't scream at your nephew, just told him it wasn't his turn. What was he supposed to do? Let you all go first?

Your attitude on this thread has been appalling and you sound a bit thick to be honest.

YABU and massively entitled.
Of course you have a right to take a 21 month old to crazy golf, but
you then have a responsibility to ensure that baby doesn't spoil the game of others who have also paid their money and have a right to enjoy the game. If you want exclusive rights to the whole golf course, buy the golf course - otherwise you're got to share and as obviously you know a 21 month old isn't old enough to understand and follow rules that means it's your responsibility to keep the kid from being a nuisance. The apology owed to this man was not "apologising for a baby being a baby" but for YOU failing to do this responsibly.

Yes, crazy golf is for children, but NOT babies.

A 21 month old is probably all over the place still, zooming off in all directions and not responding to instructions because he is a baby.

It is not the man's fault that you chose an unsuitable activity for your nephew. Even if your nephew pointed at it, so what? Distract and move on. Go to the swings/slide etc. a child of that does not understand turn taking, or the concept if a 'game' other than the one in his head which i assure you will be nothing more than walloping the ball with a stick.

YOU were the problem here - not your nephew, not the man.

YOU were the adult in the wrong. The man owes you nothing.

As for your nephews parents going nuclear.. Jeez. I suggest you all Get A Grip.

Why wouldn't a 21 month old not understand "it's my turn first" ???

Am I missing something? My DS wouldn't understand it at 8 with severe disabilities but my 18 month old niece would. She might go to hit the ball but then if told by me not to, she wouldn't and if another adult said "it's my turn first" she would understand that as well.

It's hardly like he told him to fuck off is it? What is there to go nuclear about?

I'm struggling to see what your problem is.
You weren't paying sufficient attention to your nephew to stop him interfering with another family's game. The man told DN in fairly age appropriate language it wasn't his turn.
Why didn't you apologise and look after DN better? Of course a 21 month old should be taught about waiting for his turn, sharing toys etc.
you owed the other family an apology. Your DN is too young to know any better but needs to be taught and supervised so he doesn't go around disturbing other peoples enjoyment.

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. I have always told my kids to wait their turn and never to get in anyone's way - especially when someone might be about to use a golf club in their direction.

Babies do run about and haven't learned about taking turns- I can't remember if DDs played crazy golf at that age, but I know they weren't interested in playing more than a few holes until they were five or so.

People can be nasty and unreasonable towards children but this wasn't one of those occasions.

This was a few days ago. You should have apologised at the time and put it out of your mind.

Toddlers cant help being toddlers, that's why thy aren't allowed to wander about freely. They need adult supervision. This involves not allowing the toddler to disrupt other people's enjoyment of an activity they've paid for.

I can't understand why on earth you thought it was ok to let the toddler push in. As for his parents "going nuclear" they sound as irrational as you.

He's not a baby he's a toddler and capable of learning if your consistent enough. He at least must understand the word no. Your using his age as an excuse to not even bother trying. Yabvu.

mrsfrumble exactly. I have a daughter around that age and while she doesn't fully understand turns yet, I do talk to her about it else how will she learn? Last time I took her to toddler group she was merrily shepherding the other nearly-2-year-olds on the slide 'Fred's turn. Jane's turn. Mine turn!' Before barging all the others out of the way to have her turn.

And for what it's worth, she came along and 'played' crazy golf with us, I kept an eye on her so she didn't disturb anyone else, she had a couple of goes at hitting the ball and thoroughly enjoyed herself. However, I wouldn't be annoyed at someone telling her 'my turn first' even if they didn't smile! Apart from anything else, if someone smiles at a toddler they don't realise they're being told off, and the man probably wanted the adult to hear and didn't want to approach you directly and say 'will you stop this child from annoying us!'

Having your baby nephew's back - going nuclear - my money is as good...

You make it sound like life in post-apocalyptic Britain rather than crazy golf. I urge you to lighten up a bit yourself, OP.

He had every right to object to your poor supervision. It's not the child's fault though that you appear to have no manners. I play crazy golf occasionally and I expect to pay for a game and not have it disrupted. In his position though I'd have been speaking firmly to you, not your nephew.

He probably said 'it's my turn' cos you didn't. It's moments like that that are the opportunity to start teaching about taking turns etc. you missed your cue and got huffy instead.