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To not buy DS2 (who will be less than a month old) any Xmas presents

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mrsHawk1ns · 12/09/2014 13:42

Before I get flamed for bringing up Christmas, I KNOW its only September but I'm trying to get a bit organised...

Ds2 is due on 2nd December... AIBU to consider not bothering with presents for him even though it is his First Christmas? Last year was DS1 first xmas, he was 6 months old and had no clue what all the fuss was about, this year he will be 18 months and way more into l everything. And I had the thought that if perhaps we still made it all about him and less about there being a brand new baby then it might make him less jealous. I'm sure DS2 will still get lots of bits from other family, and he doesn't really need anything at that young age anyway (plus we have so much of DS1s stuff we've kept already) I just wanted other opinions I guess!

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Iggly · 12/09/2014 13:43

Dd was born on the 2 December. I wasn't going to get her something (she's my second) but in the end I did as felt guilty!!! I got her clothes.

NameChangerNewDanger · 12/09/2014 13:44

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Iconfuseus · 12/09/2014 13:45

YANBU

You will probably be inundated with stuff from other people anyway.

I would just buy one little present from Mummy and Daddy and wrap it up so you have something for the baby to open if you want to take any photos of his first Xmas.

MrsPnut · 12/09/2014 13:45

I'd buy them a babygro with baby's first christmas on it or similar and take a photo of them surrounded by their sibling's discarded wrapping paper.

Then they can't throw not getting any presents back in your face when they are a teenager. :o

5madthings · 12/09/2014 13:46

Yanbu.

Ds3 was born 23rd Dec, we didn't buy him any presents. I think grandparents got him a small gift, cuddly toy etc.

Dd was born 5th Dec she didn't get a present from us either, again small gifts from grandparents.

Why would you spend money you don't have to?!

Might be a nice idea to take ds1 shopping so he can choose an Xmas gift for baby? And get a gift from baby for ds1.

nousernamesleft · 12/09/2014 13:47

Santa brought my twins a rattle each last year (they were 5 weeks old) and I only bothered with that because the older two asked Santa for something for the babies. That was all they got, as they really didn't need anything.

AbsintheMakesTheHeart · 12/09/2014 13:49

I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You'll be busy (and knackered) enough without extra, needless shopping. To avoid feelings of guilt/accusations if unfairness in later teenage years, I might consider writing DS2 a letter, saying how his first Christmas was just all about love Smile

haggisaggis · 12/09/2014 13:49

Since your ds1 is still quite small you probably don't need to get ds2 anything - but when our dd was born ds was about 3 so was more into Santa and would have been confused if Santa had brought him presents but not dd.

jeee · 12/09/2014 13:49

I did a stocking for pfb who was about 6 weeks old at Christmas - it basically comprised Johnson & Johnson wetwipes/bubble bath/baby lotion.

I carefully wrapped everything up (yes, let me repeat, she was my pfb). And I wrapped DH's present up, placed it in her stocking and let DH unwrap it. He looked completely bemused and asked why DD needed a watch Hmm.

If your DS1 was a bit older I'd say that DS2 needs a stocking or else DS1 will worry about why DS2 was forgotten by F. Christmas. But as he's only 18 months, I don't think you need to worry about that.

ballinacup · 12/09/2014 13:50

DS2 will be 5mo, he's getting some of DS1's old baby toys that I will get down from the loft. I'm also toying with the idea of getting him a secondhand jumperoo.

DS1 will be a few days off 3 so would notice if Santa didn't get his little brother anything. If he were as young as your eldest, I wouldn't bother.

Gen35 · 12/09/2014 13:50

I don't think we bought much ourselves for dd until she was 3, she couldn't remember before that who got her what and she was inundated with stuff from family. Dd2 is due soon and I am not going to be losing much sleep about her presents, maybe a token gift so dd1 can see Santa's left her something!

RainbowRabbit33 · 12/09/2014 13:50

DD will be five months at Christmas - we're not getting her anything. Maybe a bottle of gin wrapped up with her name on. I'll think of an excuse nearer the time!

gamerchick · 12/09/2014 13:51

My middle kid was just a small baby when Christmas arrived.. I didn't bother with stuff other than a Christmas outfit. There's no point.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 12/09/2014 13:54

DD was six days old on Christmas Day. She got a set of nice festive pjs (well a onezoe) to wear to bed on christmas eve and a nice outfit (another onezie!) For christmas day. I also bought her a nice red spotty pram blanket. Nothing was wrapped, she just got those to use on and around christmas and all were used long after too.

My parents said (we were at theirs for christmas) "wake her up so she can see usopen her presents" - errrrr shes not even a week old - she cant see past her nose!

PrincessTheresaofLiechtenstein · 12/09/2014 13:54

Mine were each a few months old on their first Xmas. They just got a Xmas outfit from us.

MoominKoalaAndMiniMoom · 12/09/2014 13:56

DD will be 8 months old at Christmas. Think we're just going to get her essentials - nappies, wipes, some nice baby bath stuff and clothes she needs, plus a couple of toys - and wrap them up for the customary baby surrounded by wrapping paper pictures

HappyAgainOneDay · 12/09/2014 13:58

If you want to give your new baby a present because you feel you have to but don't need anything really, why not open a savings account with the same amount of money that you spend on DC1 down to the last 1p?

Tinpin · 12/09/2014 14:00

My September baby is now 20. He was given one tiny present from us for his first Christmas so that his older siblings didn't think FC had forgotten him. He has survived the trauma of this very well and doesn't hold it against us. In fact he wouldn't actually know if I hadn't bothered to tell him!

isambardo · 12/09/2014 14:01

My ds2 will be a few weeks old at Christmas and will not be receiving gifts from us, I expect family will get him something though. Ds1 will be (just) 2 and this is the first year he will receive a stocking and presents from us. My husband and I don't do gifts for each other generally so we won't do the for kids until they are old enough to enjoy them.

MrsWinnibago · 12/09/2014 14:01

YABU. It's his first Christmas! You should mark it with at least something! A nice book for when he's bigger, a classic toy of some kind which will last...and a christmas ornament.

isambardo · 12/09/2014 14:03

Also, don't feel bad about bringing this up in September, with a December due date I am hoping to get Christmas shopping done this month too!

Peppa87 · 12/09/2014 14:04

Yanbu, its your choice. There is no need to go nuts buying lots of presents for a baby who doesn't need anything.
Maybe just a keepsake type present? Personalised baby blanket or something?

Messygirl · 12/09/2014 14:05

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jellybelly701 · 12/09/2014 14:07

My child was born on December 7th, we felt we needed to get him presents so we just brought things that would come in handy and need to be brought anyway such as baby towels, blankets, sheets, muslins etc.

Sootgremlin · 12/09/2014 14:08

Of course YANBU you big meanie

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