Aibu to be fed up of little girls chasing my "hot teacher" dp?

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My dp is a secondary school teacher and we've just moved house. A lot of the kids here go to his school and they continuously hang around outside our front gate. You would think someone out of one direction lived here. It's like the novelty will never wear off. It's been months and he's like a local celebrity. As soon as we drive into the road the kids start shouting his name and going all giddy. I can't fucking wait for winter to come when kids no longer "play out".

Yesterday they were hanging around our front gate and harassing him when he was carrying our son inside. So my dp took him up to bed and put him down, and then about 8.30 pm there's a knock at the door asking for him and if we want our car washing. I mean I'm fed up of it to no end but it's driving him insane. The front garden got no attention all summer because the one day he tried to do it there was a gang of year 8 girls there within seconds harassing him so he came inside thinking they might get bored but they never seem to. Why are so many teenage girls obsessed with him? It's driving me crazy!

my SIL is a teacher and she refuses to use our local supermarket as she is constantly spoken to by parents and kids. Nice that they love her, but she just wants to get on with her life on her time off.

Wow, running down the path and openly looking through your windows is blatant harassment, as is gathering round the gates and pestering. The school needs to lay it on the line to them that this is criminal conduct and will be reported to the police if it persists.

If the path is private property, its also trespassing.

Why is he still asking them politely though? Time to start tearing a strip.

And no discussions just him and them. Even if it is to tell them to go away from your drive, you go with him. For two reasons: you can dispute any false allegations about his conduct on that occasion, and the girls don't get any positive pay-off from their behaviour in terms of more attention from him on his own (it spoils it if his wife's there-it becomes embarassing).

There's a hot teacher in my family. He got this when younger, and was always very stern with kids who did it. That seemed to work.

As far as the government is concerned, your DP is a teacher 24/7. He should report this to SLT right away, and they should step in. They should represent the school's response, not your DP.
You must document everything.

This absolutely has to be reported!

My work colleague was in a similar situation , it got disproved but there was the whole 'no smoke with out fire' shit.

Flag it up immediately to the HT.

I can't imagine why he's been so passive this far.

at least they like him, my old housemate was a teacher and we knew when he'd given a detention as we'd come back to an egged house. little ***.

He told then head teacher and got the police involved but we were told to just deal with it.
He left the job and the county.

I agree you should certainly document what happens to protect DH from any dodgy allegations.

this is serious harrassment and needs to be stopped. Both to get rid of these little nuisances (who must know they are being a pain in the arse) and to stop the possibility of one of them deciding that it would be fun to play some career-ending games.

your husband needs to flag it up YESTERDAY with the appropriate people.

And by the way, while the girls aren't behaving very well, please don't fall into the trap of stigmatising them as cunning little vixens out to entrap your DH. They're children, they don't see effects and consequences as grown-ups do. It's up to him and the other responsible adults to deal with this situation appropriately, and it does sound as though he has been too passive about doing that so far.

I agree with the earlier posters who said it's important to have a paper trail. Yes - talk to someone from the SMT but follow up the conversation with an email.

This needs to be handled by the school and not by him going out and being stern with them. He should try not to engage with them at all and run it through the proper channels.

Could so easily flip into him being accused of sexual harassment by one of them and then his careers over. You need to get the parents involved via reporting the situation to the school. Failing that. Call the police.

Flag it up. I went to an all girls school and watched this going on for years and years. The very worst incident was when one of the male teachers left his briefcase unattended for two minutes and it was filled with lots of cut up pictures of nude ladies and full on pornography. Luckily it fell out in the staff room and not his year seven lesson.

This was before widespread social media and computer knowledge etc, so god knows what could be done now.