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Was I BU or was he? New bloke related

84 replies

Scarletohello · 08/09/2014 14:06

So I've been seeing a new guy for a couple of weeks. He stayed over at the weekend and during the night I was finding it very hard to sleep as he was snoring and wheezing and talking in his sleep. So I went to sleep in another room. He was a bit annoyed about it and said he almost went home but didn't. So he stayed on the Sunday but the same thing happened again. I was lying in bed wide awake in the middle of the night listening to him snore and eventually went to sleep in another room. I got up this morning and he had left without saying goodbye. I know he didn't have to get up early for work and he hasn't texted me since. I think his behaviour is quite childish and passive aggressive but was what I did rude...?

Need some advice as don't know how to play this now...

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ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 09/09/2014 13:28

And I mean little outburst in a mocking way. Actually his behaviour is akin to trying to get a restraint closed down because they forgot to put a fork on the table!

RedRoom · 09/09/2014 21:28

With you on this one! What a petulant bloke. I need my sleep: I'd have gone elsewhere, too.

maddening · 09/09/2014 21:33

Post him his stuff and ignore.

Original poster
Scarletohello · 10/09/2014 19:43

Fuck! 3 days later he's texted me. I don't want to read it as I think he's going to be nasty...

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WitchWay · 10/09/2014 19:47

Either delete it or read it & put it up on here so we can take the piss advise you

LittlePeaPod · 10/09/2014 19:49

Put it up on here and we can advise on an appropriate response. Wink Grin. actually I think you should just respond with "Fuck Off" regardless of what the message says"

SauvignonBlanche · 10/09/2014 19:58

Run for the hills!

Original poster
Scarletohello · 10/09/2014 20:08

Ok deep breath, am going to read the texts (he's sent me 2)

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Original poster
Scarletohello · 10/09/2014 20:09

Huh, it was just this,

Hi I just realised I left my cd and shoping bits at your house x

What should I say?

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VivaLeBeaver · 10/09/2014 20:10

Read it, will be interesting to see if he's grovelling now he's realised you've not gone running and apologising to him. Even if he has dont believe it. Keep him dumped.

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ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 10/09/2014 20:10

He might well say sorry, but I would still be cautious! It is not a good sign this early on!

VivaLeBeaver · 10/09/2014 20:11

Tell him to come and pick them up but after that you don't want to see him again.

HolyQuadrityDrinkFeckArseGirls · 10/09/2014 20:11

Hi Twat. I will leave it in a plastic bag outside the door on x day for you to pick up

1FluffyJumper · 10/09/2014 20:11

Say. 'Yes, you did.' Ball back in his court.

LittlePeaPod · 10/09/2014 20:15
  1. Ignore him... Silence is golden really fucks with people's heads.... And his a dick so deserves a head fucking! This is always my preferred position
  1. If you have his address (work or home it doesn't matter). Send "sending to you in post". No hi, no niceties etc.
  1. See point 1! Grin
ScrambledeggLDCcakeBOAK · 10/09/2014 20:16

What a very odd bloke. If you don't want to see him again you could post stuff to him if there's not much of it.

Bogeyface · 10/09/2014 20:17

"When do you want to pick them up? I will leave them in bag by the door for you"

Bogeyface · 10/09/2014 20:17

Or failing that "Dont worry, I will post them"

LittlePeaPod · 10/09/2014 20:21

Say. 'Yes, you did.' Ball back in his court.

I may be wrong but I hope you are not insinuating Op should be considering taking him back if he grovelled enough? The balls is not in his court, he showed his true colours. Op get shot his an arse!

Original poster
Scarletohello · 10/09/2014 20:30

Oh don't worry I'm not going to see him again. Weird like he's acting like nothing happened. Git!

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Bogeyface · 10/09/2014 20:30

I smell a man who doesnt like being ignored. In any relationship HE is the ignorer causing the ignoree to run after him trying to make up. The OP hasnt done that so his "I have left my stuff" was a nudge to remind her that she should be texting him and begging him to come back!

I bet he is far more confused than she is right now, at least I hope he is!

I would be tempted to add a note in the parcel of stuff with some of the choice phrases from this thread!

LittlePeaPod · 10/09/2014 20:35

Scarlet. Ignore him, don't respond.. Send his shit back... His an arse!

TheRealAmandaClarke · 10/09/2014 20:48

I thought fluffyjumper meant that by saying "yes you did" the ball was in his court in terms of having to be more direct, to ask for his stuff or to say he is coming to collect it. Not to be able to revisit the relationship.

LittlePeaPod · 10/09/2014 20:54

Amanda good point.

Op I still think you should ignore him.. He clearly wants to start dialogue.... Silence is golden!