To get fed up at people asking when we are going to have kids?

[MetallicInk]

Just that really.

Recently we got married but feel like everyone thinks it's ok to ask when we are going to start a family.

They don't know that we have been trying for a few months in secret because we are trying to keep the pressure off, but feel like it's constantly up for discussion

AIBU?

I haven't been brave enough to actually give this response to anyone but it does flash through my brain on every grating occasion that a well-meaning, slightly bonkers lady at work asks me everyday over the photocopier:

"So any baby yet?"

I long to say "well the problem is that I really, really like it up the bum so it makes things a bit tricky"

I had a friend who was so fed up that when someone asked her she said -
No my cunt doesn't work properly.

So crude and a horrid word but the shock factor really shut them up!!!

Just wait until you have one then everyone asks when are having the next one!

This happened to me as I had y newborn in my arms.

It seems everyone has the 'right' to ask these questions- my standard answer is "you'll be the first to know".

Myasvoce, which is free and worth every penny, is to buy some ovulation sticks, (online) and if tcc longer than 6 months without a sniff of a bfp, get your DHs sperm count analysed FIRST- it's often the problem and easily sorted- whereas your gynae work up is a lot more invasive and costly, and as most clinics want to sell your is IVF, they give you the sad story, often without looking at your DH's contribution to any problem.

Good luck Metallic.

"My advice", sorry, don't know how that was mangled so.

"Oh, I like to swallow" lick lips and walk away.

Seriously though, it's really insensitive, my exSIL had fertility issues, eventually they consigned themselves to the fact they would never have children, its sad, they would have been lovely parents.

So it really riles me when people are so bloody intrusive like that.

I told a nosey auntie my husband was impotent. That shut her up :)

When you are pregnant and close/over the due date they'll keep ringing you up/texting asking when it's going to be born too...

(40+3 and GRUMPY!)

God, people are so annoying. I think if they either haven't had kids yet or conceived easily they forget that others may struggle.
I made the mistake of telling SIL that we were going to try and now she keeps asking about my period and nudge nudge wink wink and making purposely unsubtle comments along the lines of hurry up. It irritates me because imagine if we were going month after month with no joy and the last thing you'd want to talk about would be your period.
She's really nice just naive and younger than me. But I think she assumes that we would've told everyone straight away after getting a positive whereas we have decided to wait till 12w. Actually, I'd rather not tell anyone (apart from my mum and close friends who aren't annoying) for as long as possible.

I have an 11 day old baby. 2 people have already asked me when we're having number 2. Let my section would heal up first please!!

'Wound'