To not let MIL sleep in the garage?

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I'm pretty sure IANBU, but she's being so insistent that I'm beginning to second guess myself.

Background: we live in NZ. MIL lives about 2 hours drive from us. My family live in Ireland. We see MIL about once a month/6 weeks. We haven't seen my parents in nearly 2 years.

My parents are coming to visit for a month in about 3 weeks. We will be travelling a bit while they are here, trying to fit in a few events and see various members of DH's family (MIL included).

So, today. We mention that my Dad and DH will be taking DD1 to a show that has a special significance for my Dad and DD1. Mum, DD2 and I won't be going, DH might. MIL announced that she would be coming up to go with Dad and DD1. DH was a bit non-committal and mentioned that the house will be very full. (My parents will be sleeping in DD1's room, DD1 will be on a pull out bed in DD2's room, there is no other potential sleeping space).

MIL's response. Oh, that's ok. I'll come up with BIL, and we'll sleep in the garage on air beds.

Our garage is not a fancy garage that actually doubles as an extra room. It's where I keep my car, and rubbish bags before we put them out for collection. It has bikes, camping gear and gardening stuff. It is most definitely a sleeping space.

But she is absolutely insistent that she is coming up with BIL, sleeping in the garage and going to this show with my Dad and DD1.

AIBU to put my foot down about it, and how on earth do I do it when faced with such insistence???

Well done to your dh for getting that in with her.

I'm just at the card thing though.

She sounds hard work, and if someone put my cutlery knives, forks spoons, I'd stab them with knives forks spoons!

clam the knives will only fit there, as that is the correct arrangement!

Are there any annoying "helpful" things you can do "for" her? Arrange a desperately early (or late) grocery delivery (containing excessive amounts of something healthful hut very perishable, like a delicate rocket lettuce which has already been washed).

And the beds and cutlery drawer......you have the patience of a saint as there's no way my MIL would be doing any of that without a verbal onslaught from me.

No-one reorganises our drawers without my permission. I would be telling anyone who did that it's our house not theirs and can they please leave stuff alone and not interfere.
That isn't on. Thankfully none of my relatives do this sort of stuff but if they did would immediately be told they have overstepped a boundary.

clam I do the same, for the exact same reason

I have just told DH about the card I blame the glass and a half of wine.

He is rather unimpressed.

Yes, I would be saying "leave my drawers alone", in no uncertain terms.

That's useful though because now you can say, when it comes up again 'Oh, no, you said yourself you'd leave it because it's too difficult and you were right. It'll have to be another time'. Rinse and repeat

And rearranging drawers is not on in someone else's house unless they have specifically given permission or asked you to do so.