Dd (nearly 6) goes to dancing lessons on a Saturday morning. She has stuck with this hobby since she was 2 and has built up the number of classes she does to include different kids of dance.
They have just been on a six week summer holiday from the lessons due back tomorrow. She was looking forward to first lesson back. Every first sat of the month there is a cake sale which dd also enjoys, so this week it is on.
Most Saturdays over the hols we have been at home with dh, apart from one week when we were coming back from my parents'. Dh had been out the night before and was glad of the lie in anyway. One Saturday we went to a picnic at dh's instigation which involved me coming back from my grandmother's earlier than I would have chosen.
Therefore dd, ds (baby) and I have been around to spend time with dh most of the last six Saturdays. Some weeks such as last week dh has not wanted to do anything due to a hangover. Some weeks he has wanted us to stay in to do housework or DIY.
Last night dh announced that he wanted us to all go out together on saturday morning (dd has a party at 4 pm). He said "can't she miss dancing once even though we have paid for it". My response was that she was looking forward to it and had been available most of the last six weeks, including last week when dh would not move due to a hangover. I had asked him not to go out or if he must not to be late or drunk but was ignored.
Dh asked dd if she would rather go out with him but her response was to calmly tell him that she would rather go to dancing.
This eve dh has been teasing dd, saying he is going to go out and have a lovely time (possibly with ds, I'm not sure whether he meant this) but that she will miss out because of dancing. I asked him not to and he got annoyed and carried on. I persuaded dd that he was joking so she would not get upset.
Am I unreasonable to think that dh should praise dd for sticking at her hobby rather than teasing her and making her feel she is missing out? Also that as we never know if he will be available to spend time with that he must expect us to have other plans rather than sitting about waiting to see if he wants to be with us?
The icing on the cake was a veiled threat that he would go out with his mates another Friday rather than coming home and reading to dd as he has tonight (she was so happy) if we did not tow the line.
He is now ignoring me and I am fuming. Sorry it is long.