trivial - re. Twitter

[tisrainingagain]

Hi
My sister is taking my daughter over the O2 arena this evening and wanted to tweet pictures of them (and the view I suppose) while they were doing it. I told her not to tweet pictures of my dd. She said her 800 "followers" are not strangers () and generally seemed to think I was being an idiot / killjoy. AIBU?

Not really. Although thinking about it,on the ONE occasion I tweeted a pic of my my dcs on a wet wednesday in Brighton (to show we were all soaked), there were two of my dc's friends with them. It was a distant shot the dc weren't named, and I know the mums post about their own dc.

This is the one occasion I have ever used social media for my or any other dc, and felt odd about it afterwards. I feel they have a right to their privacy. Judging by my fb feed, my view is the minority.

YANBU

your dd your rules

This isn't about Twitter, it's about respect. Personally I'm with you HOWEVER your sister feels differently. But it's not up to her whether or not picture of your dd are on Twitter, that's your call. She's entitled to her opinion though.

You're not a killjoy or an idiot. Exactly what 'joy' would putting her photos on Twitter, bring, exactly? Will it ruin the trip without them?

Let your sister put photos of her own dc (if/when she has them) on Twitter and meanwhile respect others' wishes.

Other people posting pics of your own DC is a minefield for disagreement. Your sister will prob just think you are being 'precious' and a killjoy.

How old is your DD?

BTW there is no way her 800 followers are all close friends... Plus they really won't be that interested in pics of your DD, personally I think it's harmless.

But at the end of the day it is your choice for your DD so she should respect that.

I'm not keen on tweeting full face shots of children although twitter wasn't around when mine were below the age of majority.

I have several accounts- two work, one fully private and one that I run as part of a MH activism group. Together they all amount to nearly 22,000 people. Most of them are strangers and I'd hazard a guess that once any account goes over 100 followers, there will be strangers among them alongside anybody who RTs that tweet of your children. Potentially hundreds of thousands of people could see it in one minute.

Hadn't thought of the re-tweet possibility. My dd is 10. Agree that posting pics of my dd (or not) is not integral to enjoyment of the event! !

Yanbu, it's your Dd and your sister should respect your wishes.

Thanks for your opinions. Things like this make me feel as if I am "boring" compared to my sister's "fun impulsiveness" but hey ho. It will be in interesting to see if she actually listened to what I said re. my dd. Don't completely trust that she will have.

They are back. Apparently my sister was telling my dd that she was "annoyed" by my saying no to the photos of dd on twitter. Especially since she had already set up a hash tag about tonight's outing. So dd thinks I was being silly and I am sure this is in no small part due to my sister's attitude about me and my opinion. So I feel as if no one understood. Especially my sister who is an adult and should perhaps have put herself in my shoes.

Plus, not really the point, but can't an outing be enjoyed in and of itself without having to be posted about real time on social media . She (sister) is forever telling me how many followers she has, what does it actually all mean? ?? I think we are really different in this way. Feel even more of an anorak now .

AND you'd have thought that before planning her whole twitter thing she might have asked. It didn't even occur to her. Sorry, rant over.