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Original poster

to be a it taken aback that one of dd's teachers has an apparent past in the adult film industry?

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saffronwblue · 02/09/2014 10:41

DD is 12 and this man is one of the English teachers. Everyone loves him. He is well known at the school for having an interest in film and running the film club. It is a widely held belief among the older girls that he directed a number of porn films. There is a director with his name and appropriate looking dates listed on the IMDB website with credits of dodgy looking movies. Private Anglican girls school.
If this is true and it is indeed him, WIBU to raise it with the principal? Or, as my DC insist, is it not relevant to his teaching ability? There is no whisper of anything untoward in his behaviour at school.

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SuffolkNWhat · 02/09/2014 10:43

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mollypup · 02/09/2014 10:43

I don't think it's all that relevant however it did make me raise an eyebrow!

PenisesAreNotPink · 02/09/2014 10:44

I wouldn't. It's a legal industry. I hate pornography and this still
wouldn't bother me at all.

echt · 02/09/2014 10:45

Send it all to to the Principal. Keep records and require responses.

DownByTheRiverside · 02/09/2014 10:45

The principal might want to know what the rumour mill is chattering about.
If only to refute, ignore or explain what the issues are.
I have a very unusual name, any parent googling me will find I have an exciting past in an artistic field. Dates match fairly well too. Except it isn't me.

polkadotsrock · 02/09/2014 10:46

He's not a criminal and the principal may well already know. What would you be hoping to achieve?

JerseySpud · 02/09/2014 10:51

I wouldn't do anything apart from let the principal know that this is what the kids are saying.

DownByTheRiverside · 02/09/2014 10:51

If it is even him, and not hyper-excited girls fabricating an interesting story on very little evidence.

AntoinetteCosway · 02/09/2014 10:54

If you google my full name you find a Pinterest account which is full of pictures that are pretty vile, plus masses of swearing. I'm a teacher. It's not me.

SlothNinja · 02/09/2014 10:54

What polkadotstock said...

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saffronwblue · 02/09/2014 10:55

Yes, I think of myself as being openminded but something about this makes me go a bit pearl-clutchy. I agree that if it is true it does not make him less of a good teacher. It just does my head in a bit to think of someone moving from that awful industry to teaching teenage girls.
We are in Australia, not UK, so a smaller population for coincidences with names.

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EverythingCounts · 02/09/2014 10:55

It's hardly compelling evidence. Unless he has a highly unusual name, I'd expect there to be a few people around with the same name (I can find at least 12 people with my name easily on Google) and it's not as if an interest in film is such a rare thing. Plus even if it was him, that makes no difference at all to his role as a teacher - he's committed no offence. But I really would be sceptical on the basis of what the pupils say. I think if you're going to mention it, do so on the basis of it being unhelpful whisperings on the pupils' part which they may want to be aware of.

ThatSmellsLikePoo · 02/09/2014 11:00

It's a little presumptuous of you to think that the Head hasn't already done research. It's pretty standard now for prospective employers to Google the names of candidates. I'm also unsure of what you hope to achieve - but my gut reaction says you have a deep seated longing for a starring role in some kind of drama.

DiaDuit · 02/09/2014 11:02

I would just let the head know that this is being spread around the school about the teacher.

My lovely friend has discovered that someone has used her name and some photos from her FB to set up a vile profile on an adult sex site claiming to have committed illegal acts against her child. Sad

EmeraldLion · 02/09/2014 11:04

but my gut reaction says you have a deep seated longing for a starring role in some kind of drama

If she's looking for a starring role in something she already knows someone who can direct...Grin

writtenguarantee · 02/09/2014 11:05

It just does my head in a bit to think of someone moving from that awful industry to teaching teenage girls.

could you articulate precisely what "does your head in"? I am asking seriously, since my initial response is "ack!" but with a few seconds thought it's his teaching that should of course be the primary issue.

FunkyBoldRibena · 02/09/2014 11:07

Even if he does have this background, what does that mean? In real terms?

ThatSmellsLikePoo · 02/09/2014 11:07

Emerald Grin

QuacksForDoughnuts · 02/09/2014 11:07

As long as the films only involved adults and he isn't scoping for talent at work there shouldn't be a problem. (I have a massive problem with huge chunks of the porn industry and still say this) It might not be him anyway though - if you googled my real name you'd find a youtube channel full of Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber! (if my students were gossiping about that I'd want to know so I could show them my actual channel with decent music on)

AutumnIsComing · 02/09/2014 11:10

Are you sure ?- because I could see someone starting that rumour from finding someone with a same name to him and ok dates.

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saffronwblue · 02/09/2014 11:11

A starring role in ^Confrontation^ ; 53 year old exhausted nearly full time working mother goes to school to speak to dd's teacher.

I think he and I would be better at our day jobs!

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DrankSangriaInThePark · 02/09/2014 11:12

You should definitely tell the head.

So the stupid mudslingers can be warned about slander and defamation legalities.

ICanSeeTheSun · 02/09/2014 11:16

Well done in raising a very mature and i agree with her that it not relevant to his teaching ability.

Andrewofgg · 02/09/2014 11:19

I have a weird and Googleable namesake. Be very careful what you say.

ConferencePear · 02/09/2014 11:24

I would be very careful about this. These kinds of tales often circulate in secondary schools, especially at the beginning of term. In one school where I worked there was a small memorial stone with some small shrubs round it in memory of a former pupil. Every year they had to stop the rumour that the poor boy was actually buried under it.