DP is a crap driver - lots of minor scrapes...and must have had 8 not major but biggish accidents in the last 15 years...4 involving other drivers.
He dented my new car (with DD1 in) on a roundabout when he was in the wrong lane ...(tbf he learned to drive on the other side of the road) so my dad gave us some money for him to have refresher lessons - he refused to do them. After that he can only drive my car in an emergency.
He never looks properly, has no patience, no concentration, doesn't think.
He once backed into a parked car -it was dark, late at night and the car park (private) was usually empty - he didn't even look, just reversed at speed...
He has hit one of those rising bollards - knew it was no entry but cba going round so he followed a bus.... He also got 3 pts on his licence for going up a one way the wrong way.
He's a named driver on my policy- puts my premium up (we each pay for our own cars) -but last time I checked it would cost more to take him off.
Also creates hassle for me - as English isn't his first language I used to make phone calls for him and help fill in his forms etc - not so much anymore...and he doesn't know anything about cars so always asks my opinion - I'm fed up (I have never had a bump or points on my licence)
Also his current car is my mum's old car - my dad had been meaning to get my mum a new one -but DP wrote his last one off in an accident (cos it was old more than really badly damaged) - and so my dad got a new one in a hurry and sold it to him for half what it was worth (he was going to give to him -but decided he should pay something to maybe make him be more careful) And he really doesn't appreciate the help he was given - my DB drove it here (300 miles) etc...
Anyway this morning he hit a low wall, mashed the bottom of his car - oil pouring out, engine making a funny noise. He was too embarrassed to go to /phone the local garage....wanted to take it somewhere else , didn't want the Dcs to know etc. I had a look no way could he drive it even the quarter of a mile to the local garage...never mind anywhere else
I phoned the garage for him ...they came to get it - finger crossed the engine is alright and it is repairable -they will try and do it on Monday ...But it might be a write off - it is an old car - and it has just cost £400 to get it through its MOT less than 2 weeks ago. Luckily he is ok for money and things like that come from his spending money...
Then I cleaned up the oil off the road - he helped a bit...
Any way after his initial embarrassment he said things like ...oh well these things happen don't they - everyone has crashes, no harm done etc etc
No that isn't true - I haven't, none of my friends or family have..or they have one or two in a lifetime. He was going slow but admitted he didn't see the wall cos he was looking at his phone (he was on a private road - so no danger of points etc) ...
He has been on holiday for a week - due back next week but he might be off on Monday. He works early shift - can't get public transport he needs a car. He realised this at midday - told him to phone his boss - he didn't instead he phoned other people until eventually about 5pm someone told him he was working on Mon. He said oh well I'll have to take your car then.
Erm - No - phone your boss and explain - see if you can swap - he has sent his boss a text...wouldn't phone - no reply and boss is off tomorrow - apparently a taxi will cost £30 ..he HAS to take my car ...
So AIBU to think - he should sort himself out - and suffer a bit -pay the taxi - because he just doesn't take it seriously ...everyone around him helping him out - even the mechanics at the garage - they are off today really - just in working on their own cars...
I haven't planned my week out next week yet -but I do have a lot on...don't really need another restriction.
I should really go into work (mainly work from home) - about 10-15 min walk away - but I had a DVT in July and that is quite far for me to walk - I'd rather not risk it. And not being 100% well I like the security of knowing I have transport to get medical help if I need to. (actually day after I have an dr appt and I couldn't make it without a car after school drop off)
Also DD1 goes to school miles away - if she misses the bus she can't get in until 10.30pm unless I take her...(not a regularly occurrence but has happened)
And I just shouldn't be inconvenienced (more than I have already) because he has messed up again...
and £30 taxi and a horrendous bus journey back may just make him realise that it is not 'no harm done' ...