To think that having multiple sequel partners (across your lifetime, not at the same time) is not immoral...

[Jewels234]

This stems from a conversation I had recently. The more I think about it, the more angry I get.

The person that I was speaking to was arguing that having more than 1 sexual partner in a life time was immoral. I think that as long as no-one gets hurt, no-one should be judged for having as many sexual partners as they want.

It particularly annoyed me as the implication was that I am immoral, when I consider myself to be an extremely moral person.

So...tell me they were BU please!

Didn't mean to cross out "real" there! Should have been real.

I think men receive the same amount of insults, they just don't see them as such.

Better - it was no more than a forced reference to downtown abbey that May have been amusing had I not written it early on a Sunday am.

Is your mum very religious OP?

User - Thank you! I haven't seen Downton for ages and was mystified! I watched it avidly to begin with... (tut-tutting at all the sexual inequality, natch!)

These days it is extremely rare for people to only ever have had one partner unless they are very religious or are lucky enough to meet their soul mate during their teens and both live happily into old age.

Op, does this person also believe that sex should not take place outside of marriage?

As long as everything you've done has been between consenting adults, and without breaking any promises, there's no number that is "immoral".

Someone whose sense of morality centres mainly around controlling other people's sexuality has a very narrow view of the world.

Yes she is religious. My sister is in her early 20's.

I can't see how the number as such has any significance whether it is one, 30 or 130. What matters is the behaviour and what that shows about the person's character. You can be an adulterous, abusive rapist and have only slept with one person, or you can sleep with hundreds of consenting adults without lying to anyone.

Good god - 5 is high? What a sheltered life some people live. As long as it involves consenting adults and excludes children and animals (large and small) it's fine by me! I'm sure we're not meant to be monogamous anyway!

Bloody hell. I must be straight to hell in your mum's book then OP. I have lost count of how many people I've slept with exactly but I know it's over 50. I feel no shame or regret about any of them. I've always insisted on condoms too.

I've been with DP for nearly two years now. He knows I've been around a bit and has no problem with it. I wouldn't want to be with someone who judged me on how many sexual partners I'd had.

Theft is immoral. Adultery is immoral.

Sex, between two consenting adults who are clear about the nature of their relationship is not immoral.