to leave my 10mo at home while i go on holiday?

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

So it is our 5th wedding anniversary soon. Dh and I have been talking about going on a short break- would be three nights. My mum has volunteered to babysit for my 2yo and will be 10 mo when we go. Part of me is really excited and wants a break. But i also feel really anxious about leaving dd2 for that long. Dd1 loves my mum and will be excited to be with grandma, but dd2 is mummys girl and has separation anxiety- guess i do too! So wwyd, would you leave them?

DH and I have at least one weekend away a year without the kids and have done since they were a lot younger than 10mo. Upside is we remember why we are awesome together and not just nagging parents, and the kids are cool about staying elsewhere/not being with us. DS (10) has mates that can't even cope with a sleepover cos they've not been brought up with it.

Oh I think it's a shame you haven't booked and would really encourage you to do something else if only for a night or so for your anniversary. We went to a wedding when DD was just shy of a year and it was aces. Really good for us to have that time. And actually very reassuring to know she would be ok if we needed to leave her in an emergency.

Same scenario but 10th wedding anniversary. I bit the bullet as dh had booked it as a surprise. We had a lovely time dc's survived (had a ball). Youngest dc was huffy for a couple if days and not my friend but he soon came round. I can't imagine him recalling it in therapy sessions in 20 years time

I left DS2 with my MIL when he was 3 months old to go away for a weekend with DH for 4 nights.

He was fine and has a strong bond with MIL now, 14 years later.

I say go.

Go for an overnight somewhere? I left dd for an overnight first when she was 14 months, couldn't have done it before as I would have missed her too much and she was bf all night long. But looking back could have done earlier. And if the girls r together it will be easier on them. She was absolutely fine that first time!

Mrscurrent, that's a good point. As the dcs are used to being away from me temporarily and understand this, I've never had to deal with anxiety dropping them off for holiday clubs, sleepovers or anything else.

It's made them quite independent, and for ds1 who has mild asd, this has been particularly important.

I went away for a week when my youngest was 5m (others were 4/5) and it was fine.

She isn't a difficult child though, and already stayed regularly at exmils.

I did miss them terribly, but the break was fantastic, and very needed. I have fibromyalgia and having had a difficult few months, it was exactly what I needed and it made the world of difference to me.

If you are happy that your baby will be looked after well and happy, then go for it!

When DC were 3 and 8months we went on a diving trip to the States for 10 days . We left one child with each Grandma so less pressure. They were both absolutely fine and the grandmas really enjoyed having them.

Dd was about 10 months when we had our first break away from her. We went to a nice hotel, a mile away from MIL who had dd for 2 nights. It was bliss! I had just given up BF (we were only on dream feed anyway), I had just started a mad busy college course, and it was so nice to just get up at my leisure (ish, DH is an early starter), swim, enjoy nice food still hot, and read my book. And have more than 1 glass of wine with dinner.

She had a great time with mil, who she knew well anyway. DH and I relaxed. All good.

But I think it partly worked because we only went so close, it was a very nice hotel, but we were also within "abandon everything and dash back" distance. Not needed, but good for peace of mind on all sides.

I think you are right to go with your gut instinct op. You know your child and how she would cope best.

My girls found it easier to be at my mums house (rather than ours) when I had to have an operation (2 days in hospital) one at 9 months, one 2 years. (Their dad had left). They weren't expecting me / I didn't seem missing so much I guess.

We went on holiday for a week when my eldest was not long turned 1.

I went away for work for 5 weeks when youngest was just turned 1.

3 days is nothing, go and enjoy!

Thanks all. Having made the decision i do feel it is the right thing. Plus the Icelandic volcano is erupting, which makes it easier! We are going to have a weekend away somewhere in the uk instead. And if grandma actually ever moves closer so that dd2 is more familiar with her then we will definitely do it. For now i think its the right choice for me and dd2

A good compromise bedraggled!

I do think it's good for DCs to spend time and be comfortable with other people, DS1 has had lots of sleepovers with GPs, Aunties etc and is really confident and sociable. DS2 was very poorly so never left and with me 24/7 until he was 3.5, he's 4.5 now and still suffers so much with separation anxiety. It's overwhelming sometimes and I don't think has done either of us any favours........ If I had the choice I would definitely have left him!

totally do it!!! we had a couple's weekend away when DD was 8 months. she was perfectly fine. our relationship was massively strenghtened because of the time we spent together.

I spent 5 nights in NYC on a raucous girlie holiday when my Dd was 9 months old. The first few days were amazing - I barely sobered up - but by the time I got to the airport to come home, I was pining for her.

My mum aged roughly a decade in those 5 days... and DD had contracted chicken pox too. She didn't want to call me and worry me...