To not buy 'regulation' school uniform

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Because firstly it is much more expensive (1 school logo polo top for £7.50 when I can get two plain ones for £5).
Secondly the list states "only shirts (l/s or s/s) with ties. NO open neck blouses for girls. Dd2 hates tight things near her neck or feeling restricted thread hated the shirt tie combo even with top button undone so I have got her blouses with an open neck as she will be comfier.

Db was horrified (his daughter is also starting school at the same time) and he said I am wrong to deliberately get the 'wrong' uniform

Dd2 s comfort is very important to me. Perhaps I should contact the school and explain to them that when its cold she will be wearing a long sleeved shirt and no tie. The ss blouses I can just leave and let her wear the polo as the neck was much biggere and softer and doesn't require a tie as well.

There is a huge difference between a secondary school child wearing those skin tight trousers because she is trying to fashion up the uniform.

And a small primary school child who finds tight collars or whatever uncomfortable.

I posted as was surprised at DBS reaction and wondered if people took uniform as seriously as him.

I will put her in polo shirts that she finds comfy until the weather is much colder I think

Cut the back of a done up tie and close with elastic then loosen the knot so it doesn't restrict her neck. You will do her a disservice if she has the wrong uniform. Otherwise use polo shirts all the time with a fleecy sweatshirt or warm juper when it is cold. I think you can buy long sleeved polo style shirts too.

Primary school classrooms are very warm. It is very likely that your daughter won't need a long sleeve shirt. Even during the extremely cold and snowy winter of 2010/2011 DD still wore polo shirts under her cardigan because it was so warm in school.

OP are there medical issues that you haven't mentioned? Because otherwise I genuinely can't understand why a uniform that is considered suitable for every other child is causing such a problem.

Most parents would say that their child's comfort is very important to them. But something like wearing a tie is always going to be uncomfortable at first because it's an unfamiliar sensation.

as far as I aware reception schools cannot enforce a uniform policy unless it is a fee paying school so on that basis yanbu.

however, your dd needs to learn that she won't always get away with picking and choosing which rules to follow. my dss starts senior school in just over a week and his school has a very strict policy om uniform even down to the colour of socks. breach of the policy can result in temporary exclusion so from that perspective Yabvu

Sure, it's fine. Why don't you send her in in jogging bottoms too as they are 'comfier'. And trainers.

I think yabu.

The school has a uniform and, as you have agreed to your child attending, then you should be prepared to send your child in said uniform.

There is a non shirt/tie alternative - a polo shirt. So use that.

TBH in the winter a thin blouse is not going to be any warmer than a polo shirt, regardless of long sleeves. It is far thinner and therefore less warm.

Instead you could add a vest or a thin long sleeved base layer - if she wears a jumper or cardi no one would see the base layer arms anyway,

Dd does have other medical issues yes and gets uncomfortable easily so iam trying to limit any other source of feeling uncomfy for her.

It sounds like your trying to create issues.

I can't see why polo shirt with jumper/cardi can't work all year round while she is in Ks1, no need to even consider the tie and shirt combo yet BUT if the uniform says either polo or shirt or tie then you can't introduce another option

She was just so uncomfy trying it on and generally hates anything near her neck that I didn't get the tie etc as I don't want her to feel uncomfortable

If you don't want her to feel uncomfortable, then why on earth have you deliberately chosen to put her in clothes that flout the school rules then ?

Of course if you've not worn a tie before, then it will feel a bit odd when you first try it on - but most parents would make encouraging comments about how grown up they look and what a big girl they are turning into and how smart they looked, etc., not said 'Oh poor diddums - the whole school policy must be ignored then just so you can do what you want'
But if you've got the option of just wearing the polo anyway, then where's the issue?

OP doesn't want to buy the regulation logoed polo-shirt, BackforGood

Send her in uniform - polo shirt and jumper/cardi

If there's a problem later, speak to the school about it when it happens

Don't deliberately send her in something you've been asked not to when there isn't even an issue with the polo shirts yet!

"and wondered if people took uniform as seriously as him."

I expect those of us that do follow the rules already have children at school and realise it is just not worth the aggro that is causes by deliberately flouting the rules.

Is it really true that reception age children would notice one child wearing something slightly different? And then pick on them ?

Polo shirts are ok I had just got plain ones not the more expensive logo ones

Yes. Or the teachers would notice and would then ask you why you've sent your daughter in to school in the wrong uniform and ask you to rectify it.

Right well then you have two options

Either contact the school in advance of term and agree an adjustment to the uniform to make it suitable for your child. It may help if you have a doctors letter to back up your case.

Or alternatively do what a pp said and get some shirts in a larger size so that they are loose around the neck. M&S do some designed for kids with sensitive skin. Make sure everything is well washed before use. Have your child practice putting their big school uniform on so she can get used to it. That's what I did with DS1 who has ASD and sensitivity issues and he was fine.

HTH

No. Dds school had the odd kid in a generic jumper or polo shirt as opposed to shirt. The kids don't seem to pay attention to it.

All their uniforms come from different places so pinafores and skirts etc all look a bit different to ones their friends are wearing.

Yes they notice. One child dressed differently to the other 29 will stand out.

Ok so it's no problem then. Send her in the polo shirts. See how it goes in the winter, the polos may be fine

"DD does have other medical issues yes and gets uncomfortable easily so iam trying to limit any other source of feeling uncomfy for her."

Id you had stated that in your originalpost you might have had more symapthetic replies on here. Why don't you just buy the polo shirts? They are comfortable and IMO warmer than thin blouses.

I don't think the reception children will pick on her, no.

But I wouldn't deliberate make my child the odd one out.

I do think the parents and teachers will notice. I would expect the teachers to address it with you or pass it on to the headteacher. And you may find other parents may query it or comment, especially if they are ones who have struggled with a child who has complained of feeling uncomfortable.

What type of school is it: state, independant, academy, etc?