To think its wrong to use potty out in the open

[Edinburghmummy12]

Walked past a women and her child sat down in a potty useing it on a very busy street . What do you all think cos part of mes thinking fair enough but the other parts thinking no

Yes, sometimes they don't want to wash their hands or clean their teeth or hold hands to cross the road or wear a seatbelt either...

You force your child to wee? How? Do you just squeeze her middle? What do you do to make her poo?

Are you sure it's actually a child you have, not a tip up and pee doll?

And to hollie, I do get my son to wee before we leave the house. Sometimes though, he needs to go pretty soon afterwards. He's not a machine.

Sorry- I should be making my son tell me he needs a wee in advance? How the hell do I do that? None of your examples are comparable, hollie.

I see it all the time Pipbin we went to Warwick Castle a couple of weeks ago and there was a kid on a potty at every single display (the same child).
People were sitting eating picnics all around them and there were queue free toilets less that 30 seconds away at 2 of the displays.

My older two were both 'trained' in a week. DD never had an accident out of the house, DS1 had one.
DS2 took longer, two weeks but it was over Christmas so we were mostly in anyway. He didn't like the potty and went straight onto the toilet.
Am going to start DS3 when the older ones are back in school, I think it will be easier when we are not going on long days out.

I just find it really surprising that so many of you need to cart potties around or can't persuade your children to go to the toilet before leaving the house. I was a nanny for about 10 years before having my own children and have potty trained a few (yes, with multiple siblings and school runs etc!) and don't remember any friends having to bring potties with them.

It's easy if you have dc like mine - camel ones, don't drink much, wee every four hours, potty trained in a few days.

I have friends with dc who need the loo every half an hour. Took years to be dry. Couldn't hold for the ten minutes it takes to find a public loo. There are loads of dc like this. It's better to whip out a travel potty, bag up the mess and take it home, then have them wet themselves or pee in the gutter.

Answer the question please. Having children that poo to order would really change my life.

I do persuade my son to use the loo before I leave the house. Sometimes he needs to go again and we may be a ten minute walk from a toilet. He'd wet himself if we waited that long. Surely piss in a potty is better than piss on the floor?

If you're children can't wait a few minutes for a poo then maybe put them back in nappies Barbarian. Or take them to the GP?

mum, it's nice to see someone who acknowledges that while potty training was easy for their children, other children are different.

Or, hollie, carry a potty with you while they learn?

hollie84
Its just such a tiny thing. I took a potty with me for my son for a couple of weeks but he only had to use it while out and about a couple of times, the rest of the time he was fine.

We hardly ever see young children using potties in public because it is a relatively rare occurrence (I don't think it would even register with me tbh, so long as it was outside and away from people).

So, you know, its hardly worth having an argument about is it? Its not like you are tripping over hundreds of potty using toddlers when you step out your front door?

Therefore, why not allow the smallest in our society to be a tiny bit imperfect and occasionally need to go with little notice? Without insisting that there is something wrong with them, or their parents, if they cannot be 100% perfect about this all the time?

Training in anything is trial and error.

I take the travel potty out with us for emergency wees, not because I expect to use it but because I like to be prepared for any emergency.

Yes I take ds to the loo wherever they're available. Yes I encourage him to have a wee before we go anywhere and again upon arrival but what if he just doesn't need one then? I can't wee on demand so, by the same token, I don't expect ds to do so either.

Last week we'd walked to the post office and were still a fair distance from home when ds announced he needed a wee. I made him hold on as long as he could but after ten minutes he was desperate. I wasn't going to let him wet himself when there's an alternative.

To those who say he's not ready because he can't hold on, I disagree: he's been potty-trained a few months now and generally goes upwards of an hour or two before needing a wee, he doesn't need reminding and takes himself off to the toilet when he wants it and rarely has accidents; but sometimes the urge comes on strong and he needs to go - usually when we're in the middle of nowhere.

We've never got the potette out in a shop - on those occasions we just have to dump our basket and rush off to find the loo. Like I've said already, if it is too far away, out of service or we just can't get there quick enough with the pushchair (especially if dd is walking), then we use the travel potty.

What on earth do you do with a potty full of shit while you're out?

If you're children can't wait a few minutes for a poo then maybe put them back in nappies Barbarian. Or take them to the GP?

Fucking hell! I typed my last post before I read this one from you. What a nasty piece of work you are.

I have a pottete. It had a bag in it. I throw the bag away. It's the same as throwing a nappy away.

Seriously Mintyy, not being able to hold poo can be a symptom of severe constipation and overflow so it's worth getting checked out!

It's also a "symptom" of the first few weeks of toilet training Hollie And of being a small child that would rather play/talk/walk than go to the loo when they first need to. But thank you for your advice, I'm sure it was kindly meant .

Hollie what some of us are saying is that yes we do get a few minutes warning however the distances involved due to closure of public toilets means that the 5 or 10 minutes warning we get is not enough.

You just sound silly now Hollie- although I don't doubt it would brighten up the GP's day to have the surgery full of concerned parents wanting to discuss the fact that their two year olds can't always wait to go to the toilet.

It can also be a sign of being 2.

saucy they'd love it I'm sure.

So you all take potties with you so your children can poo wherever they happen to be?

Definitely an "only on mumsnet" thing