To not want this kid to poo in the cafe?

[BeyoncesCat]

Was at a cafe today and a lady pulls out a potty and allows her son shit. Just there openly not trying to hide it. The cafe was packed full of people eating too

Her friend then pulled out potty
and was going to get her
daughter on but we complaied before it happened.

The toilets were out of order however there were loos about 10 second walk outside

They both thought we were UR for suggesting they use the other toilets and we don't know how hard it is potty training twins ( we have twins in our immediate family).

One of them started crying and the shouted at us then left.

AIBU to think this disgusting and not something people want to see when trying to eat our lunch?!

[Leela5]

Happened at a wedding recently - we are having dinner at reception and someone at next table pulled out a potty and put it next to their table for the child to go to the toilet.

[MrsMook]

A potty hasn't featured in our toilet training at all. In the early weeks there was always somewhere close enough to use the toilet. A few tines DS1 has urgently announced a need for the toilet in the middle of eating, so I've asked cafe staff to keep an eye on DS2 who's still been merrily eating away. No need to have a potty in public at all.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Absolutely disgusting. Good on you for telling them, it's against hygiene rules. I woukd have pointed out that there are toilets 10 sec to the left fir example. I hate it when potty out in places, what are you teaching your child! You can't go to the loo in the middle of a restaurant or shopping centre! They have to learn control, if they wet you carry spares and change them.

[Eauneau]

So did the woman wipe her son's shitty arse in the cafe as well?

Was it was of those 'pottete' portable Potties with a bag liner? They are quite handy for going places where there is no toilet around (eg. The park, car journeys where there are no services) but in a cafe? No way!

[waithorse]

I hate the potty carrying thing people do. Especially if people don't have the decency to take them into the toilets to be used. How do people empty them ?? Carrying round a full potty, to find a place to dispose of the contents is disgusting. What if it spilt ??

[OwlinaTree]

I'm just amused at these people whipping out potties from nowhere, I imagine it as an inspector gadget type scenario!

Yanbu.

[Oblomov]

Laughing at MrsKoala. But really her stories are SO NOT funny.

[waithorse]

Yes, did she wipe his bum in the middle of the cafe ?

[phantomnamechanger]

Happened at a wedding recently - we are having dinner at reception and someone at next table pulled out a potty and put it next to their table for the child to go to the toilet.

^ I can beat that! I once saw someone changing a toddlers pooey nappy on their lap IN THE WEDDING CEREMONY!!!!!
Ok I know kids don't poo to a timetable but surely you either wait a few minutes or you take them out and sort them outside? IN THE SERVICE! was stinky too.

We did take a potty out and about with us for the simple reason I did not want toddler having to use manky public loos that I would not use myself. But we used the folding sort that are lined with a bag/absorbent pad and easy to carry/dispose of the contents. Always discreet about it and never in a place where food is served!

[Oblomov]

I agree with Liberal. What us all thus potty shit? Why take a potty anywhere?
Potty training doesn't mean potty training. It means teaching them to use a toilet. So no need for anything other than a toilet!!

[hollie84]

I have never taken a potty out of the house, am slightly amazed that people do.

An emergency wee behind a tree is one thing, but bringing out a potty - really?

[hollie84]

You at least took the potty into the public toilet though phantomnamechanger? Right??

[Namechangearooney]

I dont get pottys full stop, I just (15yrs ago) used the normal toilet, plastic bowls of shite ... yuk

[phantomnamechanger]

You at least took the potty into the public toilet though, right?

If there was one, or a baby changing room then yes, there was not always one - sometimes used a layby, sometimes in a car park, shielding what was going on by having the car doors open and dc on the potty in between them, sometimes a corner of the park where the loos were truly grim, or on the beach where the loos were awful and a long way off - down in a corner of our windbreak/camp, never ever in the middle of a shop/café/library/party or anything like that!

[Groovee]

YANBU I feel sick.

[TwelveLeggedWalk]

Travel potty was barely needed for twin 1 but has been a godsend for training twin 2. He is not, in my book, properly 'ready' but having seen his twin stop using nappies he wants to do the same.
We live in a small town with lots of old buildings where not many loos are accessible to me with the double buggy, and I can't just leave the other 2yo outside when I'm out on my own. So travel potty, usually in a discrete corner of a park, or behind the buggy, means we can leave the house.

I don't judge people for using travel potties, I would judge hem for using them where people are eating!

[JapaneseMargaret]

These threads rear their ugly heads every now and then, and you'd be amazed at the number of people who come on and say you're being overly precious, it's just poo, and they're entitled to let their kid sh!t anywhere they might need to.

I wonder how long it will take before some of these totally feral types turn up.

[Sassyb0703]

The more I read the more I realise how much simple joy I have missed out on when potty training. I have no idea what a portable potty is - but the thought of having been blessed with one and whipping it out in the middle of the midland bank Marlborough circa 1995 whilst pfb had a poo, fills me with too much simple happiness. As it went, mine just got dangled over drains/kerbsides on long journeys and public loose when out..they seem to suffer little inherent toilet related phobia for being so harshly treated, I'll have to ask if any of them feel I have stifled their creative side and hold a deep inherent need to crap in the kitchen dept of JL.

[PeoniesforMissAnnersley]

My aunt used to manage a cookware shop in Belfast and a woman came in with a toddler, pulled out a potty while browsing, let him pee and poo in it and then handed it to my aunt and said calmly "could you empty this for me ? Thanks" My aunt just went and emptied it in the staff loo because she was so one of those times when you think of the perfect come back 2 hours later!

[Notso]

We had this at Warwick Castle.
Watching Birds of Prey - kid on potty.
Jousting -kid on potty.
Sword Fighting -kid on potty.
Trebuchet -kid on potty.

It was the same family, people around were eating picnics. It was gross. They were obviously 'in training' but they should have been at home not trawling round a castle all bloody day.

[Nocturne123]

What is wrong with people ?? Ugh !! Yanbu

[BecauseIsaidS0]

Nothing surprises me anymore since the woman sitting next to me on a flight changed her baby's nappy on the fold down tray, while the cabin crew distributed the meals.

(And now surely I will get screamed at by some MN-ers for thinking she should have taken the baby to the toilet where there is a proper nappy changing tray)

[AdamLambsbreath]

That's grim.

Recently, in a pub garden full of people eating Sunday lunch, I watched while a family put their daughter on a potty and, once she'd peed, emptied the potty onto the grass. Which other peoples' children were using to do handstands etc. The loos were fully functional and 30 seconds' walk from their table.

[JustAShopGirl]

There is a huge car park outside our shop - so we get people in all the time saying "can I just use your bin" under the till for bits of paper etc - not for stinking poopy nappies that I would have to be beside for the next 6 hours!!!!

THE ANSWER IS NO...