To put DH in pee therapy

[fleetfoot]

DH, otherwise normal-ish, when drunk pisses anywhere but the loo. Into radiators, bottles, wardrobes, beds... Just caught him, 3am, dick in box of Kleenex on the windowsill (right next to the bathroom). Oh and he will only pee in the sink not loo when sober but that's a whole other thread. So what is this pee psychopathology and what can we do about it?!

[ILovePud]

Seriously gremlins in the loo! That sound like psychosis rather than a phobia! I'm now wondering about the earlier question as to whether he can use the loo for poos or is he worried about the gremlins biting? :)

[Pico2]

You seem to find it amusing. Why? I (and I think many others) find it revolting.

[Dinnaeknowshitfromclay]

I would accept pissing in the sink once and only if there was a good reason (can't think of one now but I've had little sleep) a second time and I would be out. Think, really think what this indicates OP.

[Only1scoop]

I'm not understanding....he does this when not drunk?

[Coughle]

I have very low hygiene standards according to mumsnet and even I find this disturbing.

Why have you not told him to stop urinating into the sink?

Do you pee in the sink too???

[Tapirbackrider]

Dh did this for many years, and nothing I said or did would stop him. It didn't matter where we were, or who we were with, he'd urinate any and everywhere when blootered.

Then during one drinking session he managed to piss on a live (but faulty) socket and electrocuted himself. It was the very last straw for me, and I gave him an ultimatum - do it again and our marriage would be over.

He's never done it since, even when he was drinking heavily.

It can seem funny at first, finding him peeing out of a catflap was (at the time) hilarious, but really, it's not funny at all, just disgusting and disrespectful.

[WoodliceCollection]

That is fucking disgusting. Though tbh I would have thought someone who doesn't know how to direct their dick into the appropriate receptacle for peeing would have trouble managing to use it for any other aspect of an adult relationship, so not sure how you've managed to have a child with such a knob.

[StrawberryCheese]

Does he just pee in the sink at home or is this what he does in other peoples houses, work etc?

Regardless, he needs help.

[ROARmeow]

Where does he poo????

I am baffled!

Does he pee in public toilets okay?

[OxfordBags]

It sounds more like a sort of paraphilia than a phobia - like he's getting some sort of perverted kick out of it. This is really, really abnormal behaviour. I also know, as one of my best friends is a social worker, that homes where adults piss anywhere/don't use the toilet normally, are red flags for child neglect, not only because of the hygiene risk, but because it's modelling bizarre and anti-social behaviour for them.

If it really is a phobia, he needs to demand immediate help, of his own volition. You, and more importantly, your toddler will be coming into contact with his urine, however much you clean - and I bet it's YOU who cleans it up - and that is concerning from a health point of view, if nothing else.

[ADishBestEatenCold]

"Yes, it's phobia. Seems to think there are some sort of gremlins in the loo"

So where does he poo!?!?!?!?

"Plus gross laziness plus laddish medical school culture"

Laziness seems closer to the mark, but I know a lot of people who went to medical school, many of whom indulged in laddish behavior, but I don't know anyone who pees in the sink as a result of this!!!

"Maybe I could potty train him alongside toddler"

You have a toddler? Whose father habitually pees in the sink? poor kid

If this really is a phobia (and, if so, I reiterate 'where does he poo?') then he urgently needs to seek help for this and, in the meantime, needs to purchase a portable urinal to use instead of the sink.

<a class="break-all" href="//www.amazon.co.uk/portable-urinals/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aportable%20urinals&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">//www.amazon.co.uk/portable-urinals/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Aportable%20urinals&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

[QuietBeforeTheStorm]

I'm presuming he manage to pee properly in public so why not in your own home. The hygiene issues for a start are enough to make me gag.

[Partridge]

I agree -op were you expecting a slew of responses colluding with how quirky and funny this behaviour is? (And tbh the medical school thing is an unnecessary stealth boast). Very weird.

[Finola1step]

He pees in the sink at home!

Where does he pee when out or at work? And as for bowel movements?

Who cleans up the poss when he's drunk? Who cleans the sink after his visit?

Excuse the pun, but he is taking the royal poss out of you. If he has a real phobia of toilets he would find everyday living very difficult.

[Finola1step]

Piss not poss!

[Capitola]

Oh my God!

You live with this man? I couldn't.

[Capitola]

What about when you're at friends' houses? Does he piss in their sinks?

[QuietBeforeTheStorm]

Eugh could you imagine? If I ever found out that a guest had pissed in my sink I'd be fuming. They certainly wouldn't be coming back.

[lizzzyyliveson]

Oh my god, if he is a doctor where does he work? Does he pee in the sink where handwashing takes place? That would be a disciplinary action, you know. I have read of a dentist being struck off for that kind of behaviour. This is not funny or normal and he needs help. www.theguardian.com/uk/2007/apr/06/topstories3.mainsection

[JustDontWantToSay]

This is the second thread today so far that I've had to say - this cannot be real.

"Are you telling us this man is a doctor?" - PMSL

And as for medical school being an unnecessary stealth boast, don't be ridiculous, it's a genuine connection.

[Aeroflotgirl]

He sounds like a filthy minger. This is what goes when you let kids pee everywhere when potty training. I would sit down and have a serious talk with him, be honest about it, how it makes you feel how other people perceive it. Mabey counselling for both of you. Peeing in the sink where you wash hands and face is not on. He needs counselling about his fears.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Op it not funny or quirky, it's disgusting!

[BookABooSue]

what can we do about it?
He can get help for his 'phobia' and you can stop cleaning up after him and make it clear you won't put up with this any longer.
If this behaviour only manifests at home then it's not a phobia. It's just disgusting and disrespectful.

[Partridge]

Why is it a necessary connection?

[AlpacaYourThings]

Oh honestly, this is disgusting.

He pees in the sink, FFS.