to expect dh to put the dc to bed every night?

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I am knackered after spending all day every day with the dcs during the school holidays. Was up at 7am with them, have taken them to the park, played with them, made their breakfast/lunch/dinner/snacks, hoovered, done the washing and ironing, as well as a million other drudge tasks and have to leave the house with the dcs in 30 mins to collect dh from the station and bring home. I will then cook a dinner for dh and me, wash up and give the dcs a bath (its bath night). It is my 'turn' (we do alternate nights) to put the dcs to bed so may have an hour to relax in front of the telly before collapsing into bed later to get up and do it all again tomorrow morning.

I am getting really pissed off DH gets in from work, eats a lovely meal prepared by me and then gets to relax for the rest of the evening. Bed time is a stressful event in my house as the dcs act up and it can take ages getting them settled. I just want a break after spending all day with them and would love to tell DH that it is 'his' job during the school hoidays to put them to bed every night as I am worn down with fulltime childcare. (I work term times only).

I know he has been at work all day but at least he gets tea breaks, lunchbreaks and time when he isnt dealing with squabbling children and constant cleaning and cooking! AIBU to ask him to do bedtime everynight for the remaining 3 weeks school holiday?

He's been at work, but so have you.

Quite! I think it's really easy to lose sight of this.

I never understand why people bath their kids every night if bedtimes are stressful.

I used to bath mine every night but it just made more jobs for me to do when all I wanted was to put my feet up at the end of the day.

If you're at home the next day surely it's easier to do the bath then? Definitely reduces the stress at bedtime and the parent who's been at work might be happier to do the bedtime if there isn't a bath tagged on to the routine.

Take turns or you do all nonchild tasks and he does child tasks
I work full time /long commute- i get home from work and DP declares taht its my turn - i then have another 3 hours of "work" looking after DS while DP rests. Apparently looking after DS is work when DP does it.
I understand that after x hours solid with a child you need a break from the child.

don't cook the adult dinner - he can do that while you are putting the kids to bed (or vice versa).

Stop ironing

Tidy once.

Bath twice a week.

do one load of washing a day (your h can always put that in before he leaves for work).

I have quite low standards these days too (I work, but am at home with my 6 children at the moment). I have just tidied and am sitting down now. the youngest child(ten) is usually in bed by the time my H gets home, but I haven't cooked a meal for him or me by that time. I have tidied this morning, and done a washing load. I'm now sitting down with a coffee before the lunchtime chaos starts. I'll do tea, tidying and bed before my H gets home.