AIBU to let my toddler wear/go out in stained clothes?

[MagicMojito]

I'm just having a big sort out of dd1s wardrobe, almost all of her "everyday" wear tops/dresses have some sort of stain or mark on them. They all still fit and are in (apart from the stains) good condition.

Dd really doesn't care about looking presentable and neat, when she starts to notice or feel self concious(sp?) about it, then obviously i'll have to rethink things.

So aibu to just dress her in clean but stained clothes? Would you judge a parent who did this as lazy/neglectful?

Washing up liquid or bar soap are pretty good. The odd thing gets stained beyond rescue and kept for messy activities, but I scrub, soak and line-dry and the vast majority of stains come out.

Vix - use washing up liquid, scrub the stain out with that and cold water. Even ecover/ method ones work if needs to be less chemically

I love MN.

You are considered absolutely beyond the pale if you like your children to at least start off the day semi-respectable, and God forbid you should like a clean and tidy house. You must have issues.

As for ironing? Well, if you spend your time ironing then you need to get a life...

Some of us just feel better with order.

Get over it.

I wouldn't judge at all. Anyone who does is clearly lucky not to have anything better to worry about! My toddler frequently goes out looking a bit grubby. I'd be changing her several times a day if I was that precious to want her looking clean all the time.

Not only would I not judge I would not even notice in the first place.

It's oversnotted noses that I notice and wish I hadn't.

Add message | Report | Message poster HalfEatenPizza Mon 11-Aug-14 16:10:28
"I treat the stains before putting them in the washing machines. Not all go, so these (mostly t-shirts) are used as pyjamas. Any other ones go in the bin. A child picks up the habits which we parents teach them. If you teach them to be sloppy, this is precisely what they will be. My little one amazed me today when he went up to his friend and wiped his nose with a tissues. He is only a toddler!"

You are Katie Hopkins and I claim the prize.

By about ten am mine are covered in marks anyway.

I leave stained clothes in the windowsill to catch the sun. Everything comes out that way. Everything. So if it bothers you, you could try that.

I use cold water and fairy non biological gel to hand wash and treat stains but even doing that before they go in the machine doesn't always work.

My four boys all wear white polos/shirts to School.., they ended up awful! The little ones with paint, or white board pens. Elder boys the collars and cuffs get manky. They have a clean one for each day, I spot treat stains and soak in a stain remover before washing and hang outside to dry and still they end up manky.

Meh they are children, I buy new school shirts as polos are cheap.

But yes the madthings wear some stained clothes. I can't use harsh stain treatments due to eczema but I do soak and treat to try and stop stains.

Oh and can I say how crap vanish it, like fuck does it work like it does on the adverts!

Soda crystals are good for removing stains. Add to my usual washing powder. I also wash all the kids stuff at 60, 40 doesn't cut it.

Agree with vanish being a bit crap.

If the clothing is white I find putting a bit of bleach on a cotton ball and dabbing it on to the stain works. Obviously can't do that on coloured clothing but on white stuff it's great.

I've done this on a patterned top of mine that had a white background and it lifted the Curry stain out as even at the age of 41 I still manage to miss my mouth

sorry to come back to this so late, but having read about leaving clothes in the sun, that would explain why sometimes when I'm pegging out I notice a stain I'd forgotten about, but when I come to take the washing in the stain has gone! That would be because my washing line is in full sunlight. I feel quite that I'd hadn't worked out why that was.

agree with nursery paint - why isn't it washable???

And neither is Ikea kids paint! Love the sun tip, thank you.

Op, I would not give a rat's arse either. I am guilty of cutting legs off trousers that have ripped at the knee to make shorts. Now that is a ragged look