DH eating crisps

[WitchWay]

He didn't have any of the delicious gratin dauphinoise potato with dinner (steak, mushrooms, tomatoes, spinach) & is now munching through 4 packets of crisps. This is a regular occurrence - he has "enough" to eat & then shortly afterwards stuffs his face with crisps. My fault for buying them I suppose - well there won't be any more bought once they're all gone.

I assume he's an adult?
It's up to him then isn't it?

Oh and no double standards here - I don't bitch about anyone smoking or drinking either.

I agree that it will be interesting to see what happens when the crisps run out. 4 packets is a lot. OP's frustration is perfectly understandable - it's wasteful for him to keep leaving her food but eating crisps.

If it was 4 family bags, that would be a bit much, but it's not

I don't believe there are double standards on MN at all. In fact, fags and alcohol are seen as cheeky little vices but anyone who eats too much is seen as an overweight, NHS-burdening slob.

In your situation OP, I would be annoyed if my DH said he didn't want dinner, I had thrown food away as a result and I had then caught him stuffing crisps.

But other than that, he can eat what he wants.

If he's overweight and you or he have a problem with that, I would stop buying the junk.

Earthwindfire nope, he was under no obligation not to eat the chocolate just because I had warned him about the calories. My point is that he didn't make an innocent mistake of eating it all without quite realising how calorific it was, he chose to do it anyway so I was quite entitled to be disgusted by his choice. Being disgusted is entirely different from thinking he has to do what I say!

I think this depends if it is a regular occurrence that is affecting others or if it is just a one off. The chocolate thing wouldn't bother me as an occasional thing - i could happily eat a big bar of chocolate in a short space of time but i don't think that affects anyone around me. Eating 4 bags of crisps could potentially mean that you are short for lunch boxes or picnics or whatever through the week, and that would bother me more. The greediness in itself wouldn't bother me if it was just an occasional thing. It might a bit more if it was all the time.

Another one who thinks that adults can eat what they like.

I don't mind his eating crisps (& he had another 2 bags after my original post), it's the fact that he would rather not eat proper food & then eat crisps. I try hard to cook an interesting. balanced diet for the family & make an effort with the cooking.

Of course he can eat what he likes, & isn't overweight, but it really pisses me off!

Having said that, there is now plenty of leftover gratin dauphinoise for lunch - yum!

Dont make him any dinner then.

If he doesn't moan to you about any diet related issues (weight, digestion, sleep, etc.), and he isn't always finishing off all the crisps so no one else ever gets them and you can afford it, then ignore it. He's an adult. It really isn't up to you to like what he eats. If you think he's not appreciative of the meals you cook, that's a seperate issue to talk to him about, maybe get him to do more of the cooking if it's making you feel taken for granted or stop taking his preferences into account if it doesn't seem like it makes any difference, just cook for yourself.

It doesnt mean he doesn't appreciate your meals, he just likes crisps a lot!

BoomBoom - more of the cooking? Any of the cooking would be appreciated!

Gratin dauphinoise is lovely but not really any healthier than crisps.

Some people crave crunchy food.

I like the idea that if OP doesn't buy them, he won't eat them! Doesn't he do any food shopping?

If he puts money towards the shopping he should be able to have his food of choice on the list whether he does the shopping or not.

No food shopping, no. Shops for beer/wine sometimes so could get crisps then

We don't eat gratin dauphinoise very often - it was a treat to go with the steak

He puts money towards the shopping in that we both contribute to the joint account out of which food is payed for by me

A treat for whom Witch? It doesn't sound like he thought potatoe dauphinoise was a great treat. That isn't a slight on you. It just means he doesn't like it.

He does like it very much, just preferred not to eat it & then have crisps. It's a control thing

It's a control thing.

Yes, but who is trying to control who?

Six bags of crisps is excessive but YOU bought them

That was meant to be a face

Gratin dauphinoise full of crème fraiche and laden with calories surely? Probably around the same as 4 bags of crisps.

Is he very childlike, in that the OP has to "warn" him about calories? ie I guess he probably knows this (its hardly a state secret) but chooses to eat what he wants.

The OP of course I should imagine is a teetotal non-smoker and the potato gratin a rare treat in her usual top athlete/swimwear model's diet.

My DH does this exact thing and I think many posters here are missing OP's point. If one has spent time and effort cooking a nice meal, it is bloody annoying to watch some ungrateful man child pushing it about the plate, rejecting it and then going to get crisps. I could give my DH smoked salmon and fillet steak and still have to listen to the sound of him scraping it into the bin before going for the crisps. I've come to the conclusion that my DH has a very unsophisticated palette. The only flavour he appreciates is salty and the only thing he actually enjoys is crisps. I don't let it bother me any more - I cook what I fancy for dinner, and he can like it or lump it. I believe that it's rooted in his childhood, in which he was indulged to a ridiculous degree. Incidentally, I posted about this before, and my thread disintegrated into a hysterical bunfight in which I was told to LTB by various people and a rather famous Mumsnetter told me that I was abusing my child by staying with him.