I have not done this yet. But I won't lie. I want to.
So background. Was brought up with my dad and a step mum who had three children of her own. I do refer to them as my brothers and sister. I also have one blood brother.
When I was seven I was abused. It continued for three years. I finally wrote it all down and left the letter for my step mum to find. The abuser was spoken to then it was all brushed under the carpet. However my step mum never believed me and as it would turn out most of my immediate family didn't either.
At the age of eighteen I woke up at my mums new year party to find a man in the process of having sex with me. I froze and pretended to be asleep until he finished and left. I never told anyone about it. I had told of my abuse and hadn't been believed so why would I say about a rape.
Start of this year I had a breakdown. Extreme crisis. There were a lot of triggers including working a full time stressful sales job and raising four children. My partner and I went through a very bad patch and I found some boy had been trying to have sex with my dd. it was also the anniversary of one of my brothers deaths. I'd also had a cancer scare the previous year and two bouts of pneumonia. Eventually it all accumulated and after one bad argument with my DP I cut my wrist badly. The hospital believed I was struggling as my daughter came close to being abused and I felt I had let her down the way I had been as a child.
I couldn't handle the guilt of cutting my wrist and two weeks later at a house party whilst very drunk I decided it would be a great idea to take a pill. I don't take drugs ever and have strong feelings about them but that night for whatever reason I gave them a go. I had a terrible reaction and a subsequent breakdown.
Anyways. If you are still with me. I went through extreme anxiety and severe depression. Saw my crisis team daily and began to recover with the help of meds. One stabilised enough I began having counselling.
This is where a lot of anger and hurt I'd pushed down over the years came out. My counsellor helped me see my family had badly let me down. I was abused but no one stood up for me. No one made sure I was coping okay afterward. And they actually asked me if I was telling the truth several years later.
My brother and sister in law I was very close to. For four years. My SIL was my best friend and I thought the world of her. Until I found out her and my brother were planning a nice holiday away. With my abuser. That actually broke my heart.
Eventually I snapped one night. I outed my abuser very publically to all my friends and family via a social networking site. Made sure everyone knew exactly what he was.
Naturally my family were not
Impressed. My stepmother sent my abuser a message asking if he was okay 
my sister in law gave my private phone number to my abusers wife. My abuser tried to deny it all so I told him to contact my father who spoke to him about it at the time. My father told him it was just kids being kids and they'd all forgotten about it.
Things became worse. I phoned my SIL in a rage that she had given my private number to my abusers wife. She denied it and sent the police round to warn me to not contact her
My step mother sister and sister in law all began posting things on fb about me. Calling me liar etc. they all removed me and blocked me.
I was still in counselling at that point which got me through. My counsellor was absolutely amazing.
I didn't want anything to do with my step mother who had removed me but added my abuser and I refused to have her in my house. My father basically chose her over seeing me and the grandchildren because he wouldn't come and see us unless she could too.
Recently things got even worse where I discovered my father had got with my mother when she was fourteen and he was twenty two. From speaking to my mum I realised he was an abuser too. Which explained why he'd never really done anything about mine and also my brothers abuse.
He also used to beat my blood brother. I used to jump in and try to stop him. My brother and I are super close.
I have actually changed my surname since and I really don't want my children to have anything to do with that side of my family. When I finally discovered my step mother wasn't my real mother they told me so many lies about her.
They also rarely bother to see the kids anyways and think chucking presents at them twice a year and bags of sweets makes them good grandparents. My SIL has four and my sister has two. All of which see them a lot lot more than mine do.
I want to keep my children away from a family that is a bunch of abusers or abused. I want to keep them away from people that basically advocate child abuse.
So AIBU.