I hate that my MIL has only photos of her with DD around her house and none of me!

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I know I sound a little immature but it really gets on my nerves. She has never put up a photo of my DD with me, her mother, despite me giving her lots.

She only has photos of her cuddling and looking close with my DD, about 7 or 8 of them.

She does want to be like a mother to DD so yes there's background for me feeling so annoyed about it. But I hate this blatant 'display'. I hate the message it sends to my DD (aged 5). Like DGM is so much more important than mummy!!!

My mil had to be told yelled at several times to take down a picture of dh and his ex gf a year after we'd been together! Though she's made no secret of disliking me and I wasn't really that bothered but it was upsetting the ex gf when she took DSD to visit.

Still no pictures of me or our dc's up in her house despite being given some in frames. Not too bothered about my ugly mug but her house is covered in pictures of sister in laws dc's so that makes me a bit

Oh and she still has an entire album full of pics of dh's ex. I think she's built her a secret shrine

I would say that's pretty normal tbh. Why would she want a pic of you up? She has a close bond with her cg and is clearly proud. I wouldn't be bothered about that at all.
dreading being a mil

Mine is the same.
She also used to refer to herself as mummy and FIL as daddy but doesn't now that ds is older (he's 5 too). It's extremely annoying. She always called ds 'our baby' too. As in 'when can we see our baby again?'

Whenever we went home she would say 'why are you taking our baby seat from us?'
It's done her no favours as I'm absolutely unwilling to give an inch to her now and where I would have happily let her see ds more if she had been normal I now only let her see him once a week. There's no way I'm bending over backwards to accommodate her when frankly she has behaved in an insane way. It does not help that ds is an only one and we can't have any more children. It makes me resent her possessiveness even more. She had three children and has 4 other (albeit grown up) grand children. It's our turn now, not hers.
She acts very hard done by that we don't take her on holiday with us. But I don't see that as a right, we don't take my parents either - why should she come on holiday with us?

Our baby away from us - not our baby seat from us!!

I thought this was just another 'let's bash MILs' thread, but I actually think it's quite a reasonable annoyance if she is asking your DD to call her mummy .

It's not the photo issue (lack of your photo) so much as her over the top attitude to DD.

Not sure what you can do except get DH to have a quiet word about this OTT attitude.

When my dd2 was born I sent over pictures of her being cuddled by OH to in laws. That felt natural.

My mother was inclined to have pictures of her children and their children- my mil was the same. Why would it be otherwise?