to let DC 4+6 watch harry potter?

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My friend thinks we are. Every night for the past 6 days we've had movie night with munchies and harry potter 1-6. Kids have actually loved it and glued to the TV! I thought they would be scared but nope.

Aibu? I want Us to go harry potter world in a few months lol

nothing on tv seems to scare my kids. Yamyoid I think the dementors would be more scared of my four if I'm honest. Xbox is not allowed though. I kick mine out to play, I don't let them stay in on computers.

Another one here who wont be showing the films til weve done the books. Film adaptations are the tip of the iceberg and I want dd to enjoy the imagination that comes with reading. She is only three so we have a few years yet before we start Philosophers Stone.

I agree that once a child has seen something they can not unsee it and it is in their head forever.

children are strang because what will scare one child will not bother another. Sometimes even tv cartoons will scare them even when the age rateing is u such as shrik where the dragon eats the bad knight at the end will worry my 2yo but scooby doo runing away from two ghost she will laugh her head off as dogs dont talk and they are just men dressed up like halloween!

I value my childrens innocence but relise that death and fear, fear of the dark, fear of the icecream van bell, fear of water or fear of thunder are a big part of life and needs to be teach how to over come it in a safe environment.

I do not leave 12 rated film in reach of my children, we only have four dvd rated 12 and they are in my room on the top shelf. If my ds wants to watch them its only with us and a scary pillow or we dont watch them.

We do not watch the news, eastenders or anything that is not peppa pig u rated and a cartoon when the children are awake. My ds can earn xbox time by reading, maths work, being helpful and good shareing with his sister.

My ds also plays football, roller hockey, goes swimming, plays tag, hide and seek, plays makebelive games with his friends and sister, read books, draws, paints and plays in the mud. He also plays on my phone, on the laptop, on inotab and the xbox and watches tv. He is a very activie, smart, kind and well rounded child.

Watching harry potter will not scar him but watching his disabled father deteriate and die from MD will, but I cant protect him from real life

I don't even think my 4 year old would know how to use an Xbox controller let alone play a 12 game! He spends the day making muddy puddles still and playing lego. From this thread I feel like he's being babyfied but in real life he's doing what everyone else I know does

I think james and the giant peach is far far more scary actually.

That's because she's 4 and should be reading books aimed at 4 year olds. Sorry, these threads do my head in.

^^This

And I wouldn't have thought that very young children would be able to follow the plot lines.
Even the basic boarding school references would be beyond a 4 year-old let alone the scary stuff.

What on earth is the rush? There are thousands of films/tv programmes out there.

My ds1 is a massive super hero fan, and all of those films are aimed at 12+ he's seen them all. He also has call of duty (16) as it's no more violent than watching ben10, tom and jerry and the Simpsons.

I've read it all now...

Ds is 5 and has seen films 1-6 but letting him see 6 was a mistake. He was upset by dumbledore dying and scared or voldemort. Up to that point he was fine, for some reason it was only the 6th film in which voldemort scared him. I won't show him 7 and 8 yet.

My ds is really good at playing lego games, we only have lego games. He has great hand eye coordination and fab problem solving skills.

I think letting a child play on xbox is no different than letting them play on your phone. As a parent you control the games, how long and at what age.

AnAirOfHope82

Playing computer games isn't the issue.

It's which computer games that's the issue.

I also agree with your stance re TV programmes. I was the worse mother ever because those are the rules I followed too.

Mines never played on my phone either, I just assumed he will when he gets a phone in teens. It's my phone for calls/texts/ internet/ apps that suit me. I wouldn't let a child of any age play around on my phone tbh. It's private and I wouldn't want stuff to be lost or deleted by accident.

I will not allow cod in my home as pp said it has strip clubs in and I disagree with them, its not respectful to women and I want my ds to be better than that at any age.

Since we had ds so 5 years even watching ncis, bones, criminal minds which I used to like just seem so gory and ott now. Im amazed st how desenciated adults are to the darker side of humanity.

Children do get scared by different things, you know your own child, you know what is likely to frighten them.

It's hard to grade what is more or less scary - especially with a 4 year old, what you find scary is a bit personal, and with a young child can appear particularly random. Mine was absolutely terrified of James and the Giant Peach, and Wallace and Gromit (which is a U rating) but has been fine with other stories that I personally consider far more scary.

Thank you that is now banned too.

For all those parents who allow their child out of age games and films and argue they do it because they know their child best.

You can know your child but do you know the effect of trauma on a child'd brain, do you understand what the process of normalisation does to a child's mental health? Ever considered why most people protect their child from fear and have historically only fed it to them slowly over their development?

I know my child but i haven't spent years of my life training and working in these areas. The people who devise the ratings have done.

Its pompous and ignorant to decide you know better and to flout tbese guidelines. They are designed to protect your child. Ignoring them means you are not. There are millions of other things they could be doing, why not just do one of those instead?

I wouldn't. I love the books and films and I simply think that DC this age, whilst they may enjoy the films, can't possible get everything out them them that's there - especially as so much of the book is cut from the latter films (Goblet of Fire onwards) - DH has seen the films and was always picking up on bits that didn't quite make sense and I'd have to fill him in. I don't find it's about what's scary or not, it's about understanding the subtleties and nuances and so on.

The books were originally aimed at children around a year younger than Harry was at the time, so 9/10.

BIL and SIL did what you are doing, OP, for the same reason (going to HP World) and they regretted it, especially for the younger one - HP World really isn't designed for very young children (because the films aren't aimed at them, perhaps?), so to be honest I would put off everything - both the films and your trip - until they are old enough to get the most from both experiences.

Parents these days seem so keen to rush their children into things like HP and LOTR/Hobbit, for their own gratification mainly, as far as I can see. I love these things, I'm really looking forward to sharing them with DD, but as I'm an adult, I can wait until the time is right. There are loads of more age-appropriate films (in terms of both scaryness and the plot being understandable), why not enjoy them with your DC instead?

(sorry for the essay, early viewing of HP is one of my bugbears!)

My 7 yo has seen 1 and 2 but was a bit frightened by 2.
We thought it best to wait for the rest as she was too young for them and their themes
I watched terrible things as a child and they didn't damage me BUT I had terrible nightmares and thought some odd and gruesome things about the world

There is surely a reason a film carries a 12 rating & having seen the HP films I'm totally that so many really very young children are watching the earlier films let alone the much darker later ones. I just don't see why it's necessary when there are so many great films far more suited to this younger age group.

I wouldn't let my kids (5&8) but know plenty of people who do. A lot is down to your kids personalities and what they are already used to seeing. Younger siblings will always end up seeing things earlier as they grow up faster. For my kids I don't see the rush to show them more scary stuff - and my eldest is still struggling with her reading so Harry potter isn't on her horizon.

The first 2 hp films are pg not 12. Pg so up to the parent.

Xmen cartoons and fantastic 4 and hulk are pg rated.

I would always recomment the parents watch a film before letting their children watch it.

The toy shop stock power rangers, doctor who, superhero toys aimed at young children when the films are pg or 12 rated due to figthing. Every 5yo boy are working out the good guys from the badies.

Cowboys and indians
Ben 10 and aliens
Power rangers and aliens
Superheros and vilians

Little children play fight and makebelieve and have done for all of history. Even my 2yo said hulk smash, as parents its our job to teach and guide right from wrong.

It is our call what they see and know.

I think everyone protects young children but when teenagers they forget and let them watch 16+ & 18+ films I think that os more damaging to young adult mental health

My 3 year old loves them all...

We went to the Harry Potter Studio Tour and she was mesmerised!

Going to Florida in a few weeks and she's really looking forward to going to Hogwarts