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To think that the table in an Indian restaurant is not the place to change your baby's nappy

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CrimsonCodswallop · 05/08/2014 17:38

So me and my DP were having lunch in an Indian restaurant today when a couple came in with their children. Shortly after sitting down my DP noticed that the mother had just started changing the baby's nappy. Now I will say the restaurant was empty, just us and them, but I feel it wasn't really the place to change a nappy (just three tables away from us) while we were eating, not to mention the fact that the mother couldn't wash her hands or dispose of the presumably wet (there was no smell) nappy.

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Namechangearoonie123 · 05/08/2014 17:43

No, it's gross and very poor manners

merrydebs · 05/08/2014 17:45

Not to mention unhygienic ! Did restaurant staff say anything?

HeartShapedBox · 05/08/2014 17:45

yanbu, thats rank.

CrimsonCodswallop · 05/08/2014 17:48

No, the restaurant staff didn't say anything. It was so quiet that they weren't around to see it happen.

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ThatsNotWhatISaid · 05/08/2014 17:49

yuck. That's disgusting. I would have said something.

CrimsonCodswallop · 05/08/2014 17:55

We did consider it, but by the time we had got over the disbelief that she was actually doing it, she had finished, and the offending nappy was in her bag .

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CoffeeTea103 · 05/08/2014 17:58

Yuck what a filthy couple. Don't know if they were brought up in the bush. What type of people think that's ok. I would have complained to the staff, I'm sure they would have a problem with that too!

fairgame · 05/08/2014 18:01

YANBU its disgusting.

My friend once changed her DSs nappy on the stools in Brantano in front on everyone. I was mortified.

AFAIK No baby has died from being a wet nappy for an extra 10 minutes while an appropriate changing place is found.

TheLovelyBoots · 05/08/2014 18:01

One of my friends once changed a poopy diaper in a Cafe Rouge. My husband and I were sorely embarrassed. She was looking for our support when the manager chewed her ear off and we just stared at our shoes.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 05/08/2014 18:09

That's just fucking gross! I wouldn't have kept quiet. It never fails to amaze me just how totally disgusting some people can be, and they're bloody oblivious. "Brought up in the bush".

kali110 · 05/08/2014 18:11

Yanbu at all. How disgusting. No manners at all.
Staff should have said something.

Angelto5 · 05/08/2014 18:30

OnceI took my dc to a soft play centre & I couldn't believe it when a mother in the toddler play area changed her child's pooey nappy in front of me.
Some ppl are just disgusting. Hmm

nicename · 05/08/2014 18:35

on or at the table. One is only slightly more gross than the other! I once watched a mum change a nappy on the table of a m+s cafe at a busy lunchtime. Several tables were gawping, mouths open. Amazingly no-one said a word.

Alisvolatpropiis · 05/08/2014 19:26

Yanbu.

Some people are revolting.

Justfivemoreminutesplease · 05/08/2014 19:36

A member of staff at Lloyds bank told me that she was chatting to a customer in an interview room when that lady just put her child on the desk & started to change its nappy mid conversation.

I know some people have a certain view of banks, but I mean!

BellBookandCandle · 05/08/2014 19:46

Definitely not unreasonable. Food and nappies/toiletting do not mix IMHO. I had my judgy pants hooked yesterday when a couple at the next table to us cafeteria style place) got out one of those portable potties and preceded to let their DC have a wee in that on the floor. Then disposed of the liner in the cafe bins .Hmm

BellBookandCandle · 05/08/2014 19:46
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BikeRunSki · 05/08/2014 19:48

The restaurant wasn't empty OP, you were there!

flyingtrue · 05/08/2014 20:09

Urgh, dirty bastards yet I bet they'd be the first to complain if someone did it to them- that type usually are.

CrimsonCodswallop · 05/08/2014 21:23

In response to nicename, it was done AT the table, as opposed to ON.

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CrohnicallyDepressed · 05/08/2014 21:33

I think changing a baby in any sort of 'public' place is not on, but especially when it's somewhere serving food. The most public I have ever done is on the back seat of the car, or in the buggy (outside and discreetly) when out and about and no toilets available, or the toilets were too disgusting to contemplate changing DD. In the absence of a sink I wet wipe my hands- it's better than nothing!

hollycomputer · 05/08/2014 21:39

Euw. ExSIL once changed DN's shitty nappy on our coffee table, even after I told her she could use the spare bedroom or the bathroom when she asked where she could do it.

MorphineDreams · 05/08/2014 21:44

YANBU it's disgusting. Same as those who just get their child's potty out anywhere.

JudgeLionelNutmeg · 05/08/2014 21:46

I used to work for a well known retail establishment at one of their stores on Oxford St. I was having lunch with a few colleagues in the staff room and we were all sitting round a large communal table when a visitor from our head office who had brought her baby into the store for some reason came into the room and proceeded to change the baby on the table while we were all eating.

At no point did she ask if we minded or even apologise. Amazingly selfish behaviour.

Johnogroats · 05/08/2014 21:52

The worst or rather most public place I have changed a baby was on a registrars desk at a wedding in Spain. To be fair to me I asked where to do it, and they told me the table.

I was Blush but don't think I misunderstood. It was horribly smelly too. Yuck.

PS the wedding was over at that point. ( I cleared the place!)