To think DH should learn to do plaits.

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When dd1 and I told DH he was getting a masterclass in plaiting hair for bed, he shrugged and said 'whatever'. He clearly doesn't want to. I suspect this is more because I told him I refuse to be responsible for keeping hair tangle-free for the next ten years.

Aibu to expect this? Is he bu to be a pissed off that I refuse to be in sole charge of something that makes life so much easier, especially for me? All the more so, since he does her bedtime every other night? And we have a younger dd too?

as I showed him he stressed how easy it all looked, the arse

Is he good in bed? Then forget about the plaits.

if I happen to have done DD's hair in plaits that day then she has a plait in bed, otherwise it's loose (she finds in uncomfortable to have a pony tail or bunches in bed).

If she kicks off about having her hair brushed I ask if she wants it short. End of brushing-related moaning.

If I taught DH how to do DD's hair sensibly I would be denying the staff at her nursery an early-morning laugh, which seems a bit mean.

Haha greedy and river. Maybe I need some perspective

She definitely doesn't scream in our cm's face.

We do a pony tail at bedtime to avoid tugs the next morning rather than plaits which is why my DH learned to do pony tails.if she preferred plaits no doubt he'd learn plaits.

My DH is as alpha male as you could wish and has no issue with it. He rather frowns on Dads who can't parent their children solo.

Hang on, you told him he was getting a masterclass and he said "whatever". He hasn't refused to learn or to do them, he just hasn't been as enthusiastic as he could have been.

I'd say yes he probably should learn but as far as I can see, he hasn't said he won't?!

I've never plaited my own or dd's hair for bed ever, I didn't know this was a thing to do.

I seriously disagree that your dh's inability to plait makes him a bad father or unable to parent his child, I find it bizarre that anyone would suggest it, lol

dh used to baulk at putting dd in tights "i caaaaaaaaaaaaaan't do ittttttttttttttttttttttttttttt....she fidgets....."

I am surprised the poor child never lost her kneecaps to frostbite when he was in charge.

Erin, you're right of course - I could have phrased the thread title better.

Lud, I didn't say he was a bad parent, it just annoys me that it falls to me to do a lot of this sort of thing. If DH puts dd1 to bed without me being there at all it would never occur to him to sort her hair out in a way that would make it much more manageable (to me) the next day, even though he hears us talk about it and sees me do it every other time.

YaNBU. If it needs done for his childs hair then he should be able to do it.

Not sure why people are getting arsey about you putting plaits in jusst because they personally don't. .aren't people strange.

Yes, fanjo

Serves you right for starting a thread in such a controversial subject!

Err *on

Who knew, fanjo?

I too though plaiting hair before bed was something that Victorians did, but then I also have daily battles with the hair brush. How long does hair have to be for it to be comfortable to wear in plaits before bedtime? It seems like a really good idea to me.

How many plaits? 1/2 or multiple?

Did he say he wouldn't learn though, seem from the op that he just wasn't excited at being told he was going to be shown - and who can blame him!

Try a tangle teaser for the morning brush...

I agree buy a tangle teaser and forget the plaiting.

If I were your DH I would solve the problem by getting her hair cut into a more manageable style, one that doesn't involve screaming in the morning.

I would just get her hair cut if neither of you want the hassle- problem solved. I can see why he was unenthusiastic- I would be too!

To everyone who says they never needed plaits and it was fine. I never needed plaits for my waist length hair and it didn't tangle that much. I've got strong, heavy and straight hair. My daughter has soft and straight hair and she needs plaits in at night - otherwise it's all a big mess in the morning and takes ages to unravel.

Mine was very thick and fine when I was young and I never had it plaited at night- I can't remember it being a problem. If it is simply cut it short!

my dh plaits MY hair for bed not well it must be said, but well enough to mean there aren't any tangles in the morning.

when i was a kid my mum was in hospital and my dad had to learn how to do bunchies and allsorts for a performance i was doing i remember it well!

yanbu. at all!

This thread reminds me of my daughter's best comment ever... I had a work away weekend which fell over DD's ballet exam. She was only 5 and it was just a practice thing to get them used to doing it when older so I didn't feel too guilty but of course they has to come with their hair French plaited. Now I can't do plaits to save my life but DH decided he needed to be able to do them (the teacher would have done it for him or me!) so he spent ages practising!

The other mums were gobsmacked and kept telling him how amazing he was in front of DD.

So DD has a male teacher and one day announces "I am go

Oops!
"I am going to tell MR X that my Daddy can do something no other man can do..." DH and I look at each other - DH feeling very proud "... Plait hair!"

It was genius!