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Mini05 · 29/07/2014 00:41

Partner and I gave lived together 11 years.
He as over last year got back in contact with his ex ex's daughter(41 now) who he lived with on and off for about 15 years.

He been to her house few times,she lives next door to her mum(his ex ex partner)
On sat when he called he said she was in garden, she was having BBQ on sat night few friends, her new boufriend(just split up with hubby) and her mum. He was invited.

Is it me!!!! How would you react if your hubby was invited on his own where his ex was going and ex daughter knows he now as a partner but doesn't invite her?

What would you think/feel ??

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gobbynorthernbird · 29/07/2014 00:50

He's been split up from his ex a very long time, and has a friendly relationship with his ex-stepdaughter. I'd be ok with it.
What was your reaction?

GodDamnBatman · 29/07/2014 00:51

I would think the daughter is probably not inviting you because it would be awkward.

If her and DP were friends then I can see why she'd invite him over.

But, really it comes down to, do you trust him or not? You've been together 11 years. Is your relationship alright?

Generally when you feel upset about a partner being around their ex/on their own its over an insecurity in a relationship.

In any case, generic advice: Talk to him about it so he knows how you feel and maybe he can invite you or put your mind at ease.

Mini05 · 29/07/2014 01:03

Yer I get the friends bit, I was a bit annoyed it was only him invited
as we are a couple
but now it's been pointed out about the awkwardness I seen it a bit differently.
One thing sticks with me from when I started going out with him, (they weren't together and he'd lived with another women before me)
We'd gone into a pub, and he told me his ex ex was in, and the next day she rang him and said what was he doing bringing that slag into the pub.

That was me by the way, and I'm defo no slag!!!! Why would she call me that?

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AshaH1982 · 29/07/2014 01:08

He told you that his ex called you a slag? Why would he do that? Sounds like a game player.

Mini05 · 29/07/2014 10:31

Never really thought about it at the time!
I just said why would she think I'm a slag, she doesn't even know me!
Is she jealous, she must still have feeling for you

To which he replied I don't know

God am I naive ?

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