...to be VERY annoyed? DH has "tidied" my wallet into the Rift!

[misanthropologist]

The last time I went for a shop a few days ago, when I came in I put my car keys and wallet on our Hoosier cabinet in the kitchen. I've used my car keys since but not my wallet. I've gone to look for it and DH has gone on a mad tidying binge and the wallet is GONE. Have looked quite literally everywhere I have been in the house, in and under all furniture, but I'm afraid he's tidied it straight into the trash which has already gone. We have differing points of view: he thinks IABU for being annoyed as it "should have been in a purse and hung up", I think HIBVVU as I am no more likely to put my wallet in an effing purse (unless for special occasion) than HE is and he can fecking well leave MY things where I put them. The wallet in question is about four by five inches, brown leather and very obviously not trash or something needing tidied away.

Lastly, his car is having a new water pump put in so is in the shop til tomorrow afternoon. I probably would, but WIBU to withhold MY car keys so he can't go to work until he produces my wallet, bank card, charge cards etc? Even more annoying is that I have a millionty errands to do tomorrow and without my cards, obviously, those are right out.

I'm glad it's not just my husband who will suddenly break into an episode of EXTREME TIDYING resulting in lots of things being moved or permanently lost. So annoying. Hope it turns up.

You ought to string him up by his bollocks. I'd go postal if DH did that to me. Not only would it be the replacement bank card faff but my beloved loyalty cards and receipts for ££££££ work expenses that would be lost and unable to be replaced.

oh and you know just at the point you have cancelled everything, had all the hassle of that, he'll find it all triumphantly and expect you to be grateful, don't you?

do you want to get over to style and beauty and start a purse/wallet thread - he owes you a new one after all, prada have some lovely ones

My DH is a serial binner , my daughters new sandals were victim last week. The amount of wheelie bin rescues is beyond ridiculous.

Forget the Hoosier, I want a Prada wallet now.

Oh I would lurrrrrrve to but I won't buy Prada because Miuccia had some terribly rude and thoughtless things to say about how she wants no one bigger than some barely two-digit size "ruining" the look of her clothes. I am ALL OVER Fossil bags though. I may just do that...tomorrow. My eyes are drooping.

I get it

Hoosier = Dresser
Wallet = Purse (or wallet)
Purse = Handbag

Rift, nope, give up on that one.

You have my deepest sympathies.

DH does passive aggressive tidying from time to time to make the point that I'm an untidy/slovenly so and so. He heaps things up but doesn't put anything away so it achieves nothing except losing things.
I am the go to person in this home for where something which is "lost" has actually been put.

Has he really binned it or just cba to think/look where he might have put it?

I love the idea that your purse should be in an handbag & hung up

Like men always do that!

Where does he keep his wallet?

Perhaps that needs putting in one of your bags for safekeeping?

ah, well if we have moral issues with Prada, I have a Mulberry purse/wallet

Hoosier is like a Welsh dresser? Which you can't get for love nor money 'cause of all the shabby chic nobs buying them up

Not keen on the hoosier. In my day they just became clutter cupboards.

This thread has finally found the upside to my DH's idea of "tidying". He shoves everything in carrier bags and hangs them in the under stairs cupboard. I guess I should be grateful he doesn't bin stuff.

OP - I think you're being remarkably restrained, considering what he's done and his response. I would've ripped him a new one!

I think the rift is like the Doctor Who time space continuum type rift thingy where things are lost forever.............

Use his card to buy you a new wallet and a new purse, and, and

Or Kill Him.

I anyone else ever thrown by thread titles?

Having no idea what the Rift might be, I decided this thread was going to be about a virtual wallet being put in some kind of equivalent to the Cloud.

Dh did this to all my gcse and a level certificates. He says he didn't but he 'tidied' and then they were gone from where they lived. Oh and I had to rescue dd's singing seahorse (the one that helps her to sleep and had since she was born) from the bin. Luckily I twigged as it was bin day. It gets on my nerves, I never chuck anyone else's stuff.

Nothing constructive to add, just at all those who have DHs that go on cleaning sprees sigh

One of my friends her dh threw aaway the marriage certificate 3 times when he tidies up the filing cabinet. He said there wasn't any use for it.

of course there wasn't much for him, but she had to reissue it every time she moved jobs and had to prove that her maiden name was the one on the degree certificate.

MyCar don't be of us with DPs/DHs who go on "cleaning sprees"; it's an utter pain in the arse. I know exactly where I left something that I maybe wouldn't need for a couple of days - I come back for it and it's vanished, never to be seen again. I ask DP about it and the usual response is "I thought it was for binning as it's been there for weeks." Er, no it bloody well hasn't! It's been there 48 hours maximum!!!"

Has anyone else worked out how they always manage to only chuck other peoples' stuff, and never their own?

On the up side, I'm going to try and leave my purse somewhere where it will get "tidied", so I can make him buy me a Mulberry new purse!

I don't think that I do a cleaning spree properly!

I don't throw stuff away

i just dump place offending items on the owners beds.

Then if asked where stuff is I can say "in your bedroom"

"Where in my bedroom?"

Answer-"wherever you put it"

Well i think that a kitchen cupboard is an odd place to put a purse & keys.

But I think that removing a purse& throwing it away is even odder!

YANBU to hang onto your car keys until all your stuff is replaced.

I also like the other idea of tidying his wallet into one of your purses and hanging it up. See, you do listen to him!

He should buy you a new wallet. Something fancy from Mulberry or made of crocodile skin.

I love the look of the Hoosier cabinets…it's a pity that one wouldn't go with any of my other stuff.

Shop ? is that garage, as in the car has gone into the shop (garage) ?

Yes, the car is in the mechanic's shop/garage for a couple more hours. And the knob took my car to work anyway, which has fortunately given me a) a couple hours extra sleep and b) more time to stew, which may not be the best for him. He knows I'm angry and is kind of back-footed by the fact I'm NOT yelling.

And the kitchen cupboard is where BOTH our wallets and keys wind up, if we make a big grocery shop. It's the first place to set them down as we walk in the door from the garage. I am nearly 100% certain he's binned it - accidentally, to be fair to him - and it's gone. I am generally appreciative when he cleans the kitchen as our "deal" is that I cook fantastic dinners and suppers and the one who does NOT cook is the one to clean up after but he needs to be more careful. I think I am going to spend the next few weeks gently flicking his wallet/car keys/phone so they fall BEHIND whatever he's set them on. Perhaps ten minutes' extra looking per, but the aggravation will add up.

In the meantime, if my wallet should be safer tucked up in a bag, I suppose it's time for a Fossil order....