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AIBU?

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Is this weird or not?

22 replies

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 21:40

I have an ex boyfriend on my Facebook friends list. We went out when we were teens. We've stayed friends because we have mutual friends but we aren't close.

Today I shared the results of one of those silly quizzes that said I should visit Athens. He commented: "If you ever do go along let me know, I've always wanted to go to athens :)."

AIBU to think that's a little weird? If he'd just said he'd always wanted to go to Athens that would be fine but to ask me to let him know if I go implies we'd be going together. Probably just a joke but it's a bit awkward, should I say anything or ignore it?

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juneybean · 24/07/2014 21:42

Bit odd but ignore I think

gobbynorthernbird · 24/07/2014 21:42

You're massively overthinking this.

hiddenhome · 24/07/2014 21:43

He just wants to get into your pants in a hot country.

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 21:45

Yeah I suppose I might be overthinking it and he just wants me to tell him about the trip if I do go since he is also interested in visiting the area. It just sounded a bit weird to me the way he put it.

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TheHouseCleaner · 24/07/2014 21:46

I wouldn't think anything but that it was a jokey throwaway comment made in a moment of boredom.

I'd probably answer with something mundane like, "I'd prefer Rome actually" and leave it at that.

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 21:46

He has made a few inappropriate jokes/comments in the past.

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EmmanuelWoganberry · 24/07/2014 21:46

He isn’t asking to literally go to Athens with you, I’d assume it was meant to mean something similar to "ooh I’ll hop in your suitcase" type of comment

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 21:52

That's a good point.

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Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 21:52

I knew he wasn't literally asking to go with me but was worried he might be hinting that he would like to.

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TalisaMaegyr · 24/07/2014 21:55

Good grief, it was just a FB small talk comment!

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 22:01

That's fine, I've put it in perspective now, which was partly why I posted. I really hope that I wasn't supposed to put lighthearted in the title!

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Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 22:02

As I said, he has made inappropriate comments in the past so I just wanted a second opinion on this one, thanks.

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EduCated · 24/07/2014 22:04

It might just be small talk, but it's a bit of an odd comment from an ex, whether it was intentional or just didn't come out quite like he thought it would.

So YANBU, OP, but I wouldn't pay too much attention!

CoffeeTea103 · 24/07/2014 22:09

His comment was as odd as you taking that quiz and it posting on everyone's newsfeed. You're trying to make something out of nothing.

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 22:45

I posted it on my wall.

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Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 22:46

How am I making anything out of anything by asking a question here, he's not on Mumsnet!

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TheReluctantCountess · 24/07/2014 22:48

I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe he still holds a candle for you. Take it as a compliment.

Topaz25 · 24/07/2014 22:50

That's what I thought EduCated that it sounded a bit strange in that context but it probably just came out wrong.

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softlysoftly · 24/07/2014 22:50

Clearly he's been holding a candle for you since your teens and just got brave enough to make an approach.

All these years of yearning and longing from afar with just the odd FB interaction to keep his faith one day youwould be together :(

Topaz25 · 25/07/2014 01:18

To be fair, I didn't say or think that at all.

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GodDamnBatman · 25/07/2014 02:10

Honestly it just sounds like a friendly "I want to live vicariously through you" comment. I wouldn't look too much into it.

High school boyfriends are sort of a different category of ex's, there's not as much baggage with two kids going out with minimal commitments. I'm still friendly with mine, bought him drinks at his last birthday.

Jan616 · 25/07/2014 06:00

It sounds pretty innocent but I understand that you may find it weird. However, if he has made inappropriate comments in the past which made you uncomfortable, why don't you just delete him off facebook?

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