To think my colleague fancies his patient?!

[MojitoCake]

This will probably sound strange and I could just be reading too much into things because I'm bored on maternity leave with 2 weeks until due date and jealous of anybody even remotely attractive.

My colleague is a young (30) guy and easy to talk to although not previously flirtatious to any colleagues or patients. Anyway, before I left for maternity leave he had an appointment with a very pretty and strikingly tall and curvy young woman, I noticed how his face lit up as soon as he saw her and he seemed quite awkward when standing next to her. Obviously I don't know what happened during the appointment but it went on for longer than a standard appointment for her issue would and during his lunch break he kept talking about how unexpectedly different the appointment was and how he was amazed he and the patient share such similar political interests. He kept smiling at her across the room as she sat waiting for her prescription in the waiting room.

Anyway, the same girl then came in yesterday (I was visiting my colleagues for lunch) and his face literally lit up when he saw she was in the waiting room. He said 'hello there, how are you?' and she raised her eyebrows at him and smiled

I feel so tragic even making this thread because it clearly shows how I have far too much time on my hands but aibu to think my colleague wants to shag his patient?

Well Doc Martin married his patient

It's against the GMC rulebook to have sexual relationships with patients. It used to be for ever, but now I think there is an agreed sort of period when you stop the professional relationship after which you can start the physical, if you want to!

I'm not sure you understand the concept of the straw man argument.
But I agree, too late for a fight. OP - do what you think best (not that you ever returned!) report him to the GMC for his outrageous comments and lewd behaviour if you see fit.

Considering my last job was lecturing in communications CatKisser I do feel fairly confident discussing it, yes .

Given that most male patients I see are elderly, infirm or have something gross wrong with them if I see a hottie it lifts my spirits. I'm only human.

Sing it, Sidge! Occasionally I come across the odd looker, or the odd not-such-a-looker but really interesting person, doesn't mean I'm going to rip off my clothes and fling myself at them. Honestly, this whole thread has gotten ridiculous.

YABU. Mind your own business and stop shit stirring.

You blatantly fancy him. You sound like a right busybody

People never know what straw man argument is. The internet has ruined it's meaning.

Unless the OP has actual proof of an inappropriate relationship rather than 'he smiles when he sees her, talks politics & wrote a list of blogs' the GMC will be able to do precisely nothing.

Hé. When I see an attractive man at the office, I look. And even smile sometimes (and blush, but shush). And I may seem shallow, but speaking to them is greatly appreciated. Because I am human.
I just won't jump them here and there.

Wonc, I don't want to be nasty, but somebody working with you at your communication job took the piss. A Straw man is not what is going here.
And having the slightly skewed narration of an situation by an uncertain and verrryyyyyyy judgey person will not make me want to take her on her word.
OP should butt out and avoid spreading bitter and damaging rumors.

I was on your side OP, until the "pretty face... revolutionary" statement. I could talk politics 'til the cows come home but I don't fancy myself as a revolutionary. Since it can turn you into a massive bore, it's good to find others with similar political views.
Based on your statement, I'm inclined to thinking there's more of a jealousy aspect here, and you're exaggerating their interactions.

Hi there OP.
It is tricky. I work in healthcare and sometimes you can have a better rapport with some patients, but I can't imagine fancying one. It would be a bit creepy and feel morally dubious.
From your posts it doesn't sound as if he has done much here that would be considered unethical. The rules on relationships with patients are very clear and are the same for all registered healthcare professionals.
There is nothing you can do - if you find out he has struck up a relationship with her then you can worry but I don't think that your interpretation of what has happened is necessarily what is happening.
I would take comfort from the fact that he has always acted professionally to colleagues and patients in the past and give him the benifit of the doubt.

Doubt not the doubt. Or is it? Im so tired I just can't tell anymore.

Mojito, I have seen my doctor for pain behind my eyes (wouldn't wish it on anyone) and was referred to a neurologist. I chose to see my doctor, not my optician or a nurse. That was my choice. Why should you think she should have seen an optician or a nurse? She may have been experiencing other symptoms associated with the eye pain that worried her, and wanted her doctor's opinon. You weren't in the consultation room, were you?
What I find odd is how the doctor and patient got on to their political viewpoints when it was a medical consultation...
I do think it is wrong for a doctor to flirt with a patient (if that's what happened) and unlike some here I think it's outrageous to do so when his wife had a child two months ago... In all probability she feels like shit while her husband is eyeing up the talent when he should be conducting himself a) like a married man and father of a baby and b) a professional...

Yabu

Why shouldn't someone see a GP for pain behind the eyes? My friend's mum had this, then headaches, then excruciating pain in her head, then died of brain cancer. It was horrible to watch and if she'd been taken a little more seriously by healthcare professionals, might have had a better chance at living, or a less painful death.

Also, I cannot bring myself to care about who fancies whom, as long as they act within their professional guidelines. Why do you care? Get a life.

Hmm my Dr smiles at me everytime he sees me at the reception it's called being friendly and we often talk about all sorts of random shit when I have an appointment. He also used to ask about my mother when she was ill, she wasn't his patient but I had talked about her to him. I found it a great comfort there wasn't anything untoward about it and I would hate to think anyone saw it that way since both he and I are happily married (his wife used to work at the practice as well btw)

When I mentioned to my doctor that I had had an optical migraine (not why I had gone to the doc, and this was several months after it had happened) she sent me straight off to the stroke clinic for assessments because what I had described happening sounded as if it could have been a TIA. It wasn't, but in a friend's case (similar symptoms) it turned out to be a brain tumour. Nothing wrong with the woman going to the doctor if she was concerned about pain behind the eyes and probably exactly the right thing to do.

The doctor may well be attracted to the patient. In and of itself this is not a cause for concern as long as he remains professional in his dealings with her. I would actually have more concern about the OP's professionalism if she has dealings with this patient. She has been dismissive of her health concerns, snide in her descriptions of this woman, and sounds like she has more than a touch of the green-eyed monster. I'm not sure I would trust her to behave professionally in the event that this particular patient had to see her.

Maybe he's glad of something else to talk about other than medicine, babies and lack of sleep?

From your subscription of how she looks she's most probably used to that kind of response from most men in general.

I however would not want one of my DR's flirting with me,but if she feels uncomfortable I'm sure she'll insist on seeing someone different.

Please do not report him to anyone - have you any idea how much trouble that could cause for a (most likely) completely innocent doctor? He could lose his registration & consequently his livelihood. Even a temporary suspension would have a huge impact on his career.

If you really are concerned then I think you ought to raise it with him directly - he may well be horrified & might even agree not to see her, or to insist upon a chaperone for all appointments.

Doctors are allowed to have relationships with patients in some circumstances - ex-patients are allowed, for example, & in some (e.g. rural) communities it is impossible for a doctor to avoid their patient socially

I recently found myself flirting with an attractive 50-something man in a local shop - he looked familiar & I suddenly realised I'd seen him as a patient in another local town

It may be that his marriage is on the rocks, the baby might have been an ill-advised attempt to fix that - you really have no idea what is going on.

Please don't meddle

The is nothing to report though. Hopefully OP will not concern herself with this dr and enjoy the rest of her Mat Leave.

What Macdoodle said. I'm going to repeat it for good measure:

"You sound utterly unprofessional and not a little unhinged. I would be most unimpressed to hear that one of my nurses was discussing a Dr and patient like this on the internet. It may even be grounds for a formal warning. The patient may be on here and the story is very recognizable if I were you I'd ask MN to remove the thread."