AIBU - can everyone lower the emotional tone!

[sunshineandshowers]

Aibu?

I have one leaving infant school and one leaving preschool.

The head teacher was in tears at the leavers assembly yesterday, photo montages with soppy music, children in tears etc.

At preschool one of the teachers just told me I'm going to have a sad girl on my hands tomorrow. Children all bringing in sweets, drama lama.

Can all the adults just lower the emotional tone? We set the tone and they feed off of us. It's the same with the lead up to Christmas. So Aibu and should everyone get a grip!

My dcs didn't give a hoot about leaving nursery where they had been for 4 years to start school. I in the other hand found it really hard. Yanbu if you think children are being encouraged to feel sad.

I agree to an extent as I'm not an overly emotional person myself but I think its important that children also see that is ok to share emotions and not have to have the typical british 'stiff upper lip' attitude

I'm no help to you. I'm always a blubbering wreck.

End of term, end of year, sports days, school plays, always welling up.

Yanbu. Very relieved that when DD had her graduation recently, it was an excited, 'you are off to great things' vibe, with all the older kids forming an arch for them to walk through.

I'm surprised about the headteacher being in tears though

DD announced yesterday 'I will cry at school tomorrow'.

We've just gone too far. It's like the X factor.

I'm weeping at this thread.

Oh god yes. I can still remember leaving primary school and I'm 28 now. Everyone crying their eyes out and me having to double check myself thinking should I be joining in?

rpitchfo I am 62 and remember shaking the dust off my feet when I left my primary and my secondary prison camps schools.

Thank goodness you said this sunshine ! My dc also find this kind of drivel embarrassing and incomprehensible.

Of course they'll be emotional, they've been on a journey.

You've trusted those people to nurture and care for your children. Is it not nice they are sad to see them go?

You really need to put trigger in your thread title op! I'm in bits just reading it.

YANBU. Last week my dcs school had several events, Y4 leaving to go to middle school and reception graduating. The Y4 had two different events, only one was necessary. There was no need for the reception graduation, it was really quite rubbish and the kids were far too hot and bothered to sit still for the full hour.

Ds got a fucking graduation certificate when finished nursery last week! He's 3. And he's going back in September.

YANBU. At all.

Reception graduation is insanity. I think sensible people should put their foot down and say stop the madness.

You just get hurt baffled faces and "aww but it's nice for the kiddies" answers Vivienne

Yanbu.

Huge, blubbering affairs are really cringey.

YANBU. My Dd is leaving primary school this week. All the other mums are so emotional, have a lump in their throat etc etc. I just think it's the end of a chapter and the start of a brand new, bigger and very exciting chapter. Not something to cry about. DD will be upset at leaving her friends but I won't be as I can see the bigger picture.

Yanbu.

I've always tried to emphasise that's it's time to move on and look ahead to the next thing with a cheery wave (or sigh of relief in some cases) to what you've left.

I can see why it can be a poignant moment but have never felt the need to be in tears or encourage dc to be either because they've always been ready to go. Children need to feel it's ok to move on when it's time and that it's a positive thing.

I'm not and never have been into great public displays of high emotion though.

And omg yes, YES to the observation that the XFactor and similar programmes have a lot to answer for re this. I find today's trend for waterworks for anything and everything insincere.

Ever since Diana, Princess of Wales died it's been like this. People telling you that you don't have emotions unless they are on public display. So when Madeleine McCann's mother keeps a grip on herself in public, people say "That proves she's a murderer." Yes, well Shannon Matthews' mother was all over the news crying her eyes out (while she'd drugged her own daughter and tied her up to try to claim reward money).