AIBU - can everyone lower the emotional tone!

[sunshineandshowers]

Aibu?

I have one leaving infant school and one leaving preschool.

The head teacher was in tears at the leavers assembly yesterday, photo montages with soppy music, children in tears etc.

At preschool one of the teachers just told me I'm going to have a sad girl on my hands tomorrow. Children all bringing in sweets, drama lama.

Can all the adults just lower the emotional tone? We set the tone and they feed off of us. It's the same with the lead up to Christmas. So Aibu and should everyone get a grip!

YANBU. Completely agree. It's all far too much. I sometimes reckon people will think they are a bad parent if they don't sob at every primary school milestone!

YANBU at all!.

High expressed emotion is becoming more and more common and it's really odd in my opinion.

I see so many threads on here where people say they've been really crying about something that is unimportant or should just be shrugged off.

When I read something like 'to the woman in the shop who suggested I needed a bigger dress size - I have been crying for HOURS'; or 'I've been SOBBING at something on the news utterly unconnected to me' I think that's just not a normal reaction.

And I'm not heartless, getting pissed off or upset? I get it. Reading or seeing something distressing and welling up? Yep. Getting a tear in your eye at a wedding or graduation? Yep. But sobbing or crying for hours only happens with bereavements or other significant events in my world.

Totes emosh

Well I'm glad I'm not alone. I'm all for teaching emotional openness and cry in front of my children if I'm really upset. It's the frenzy and the way it's stretched out. Just like the end of Christmas term. And whoever said its like a funeral is bang on. Let's look forward! I am a sensitive soul as is one of my dc so all the change in routine is another reason I hate it x and on another note it's awful for the poor little ones with special needs (as pointed out above).

Do you think we should say something to all these schools?

I think it's as much driven by parents as schools sunshine - when my eldest went on his first school trip last year in reception i was utterly stunned to find parents at the school gates waving the coach off!!!! They were gone for four hours!

IME the teachers would far rather not have to deal with this OTT emotion - it really ruined the last day of Y6 for me .

DD1's TA is also my sils neighbour

Jersey is a small place

When she said goodbye to DD1, DD1 just sighed and said 'I'm not going to get sad. You live on my aunties street. I'll see you ALL the time!'

So no sadness there.

i agree.such emotional incontinence isnt necessary.its transition not a berevement

YANBU. My DS has just finished ms primary at the end of year 4 and is going to ss in september. His full time 1:1 helper (male) cried. He admitted he had cried a few times that day. I didn't shed a tear and felt like a right cold hearted cow.
I just figured there was no point in crying as i've been telling DS that moving schools is a good thing so we should be happy about it.

My friend's DS starts reception in september. She cried when he did his transition day and she cried on his last day at nursery. Now her DS is anxious about starting school because it makes his mum sad!

Waving the coach off for a school trip?! Completely over the top IMO.

I am the looking forward sort too.

And now with Facebook....They all never leave each other, whereever they are on the world....Ever...

Ds got a fucking graduation certificate when finished nursery last week! He's 3. And he's going back in September.

Still laughing at this one

in not on

Pud, I'm glad it's not just me! Going for a week I could understand but this is a trip in school hours! I just walked past them with a look of incredulity - but then my DS was upset because "all the other mums were there" and I wasn't .

fairgame, I think is a problem for a lot of kids - it's all well and good teaching your children that showing emotion is ok but wailing at the school gate is not going to help in their transition to school!

YANBU The leavers assembly for year six at my school was like an X factor final with all of year six crying and clutching each other on stage while they sang their leavers' song to a bemused lower school.

I blame X factor for 90% of the drama I have to navigate in school

At our school the Year 6 teacher is quite strict about it. She tells the children to stop crying if they start because, a few years ago, there was mass hysteria on the playground. Several reception children ended up crying and they didn't even know why they were crying!

Ridiculous. I was at a school this afternoon where they had an assembly for leavers and prize-giving. There was lots of singing happy songs. It ended with a couple more happy songs sung by all as they danced about clapping their hands, then they went off to their classrooms still singing and jigging about, passing the Chair of Governors who was giving it her all as well. Year 6 weren't weeping, they were scuttling around with autograph books. It was great and much more appropriate.
Once they had gone the staff gathered for wine and cake.

Sounds perfect peekingduck!

Well ours was lovely, very happy. The head then read out a poem he had written for them and then nearly all of them (including ds) teared up. I thought it was lovely that they appreciated the sentiment.

Still agree with OP. There does need to be a bit more 'getting a grip' as children feed off adult emotion. It's fine to show children appropriate emotion but X factor type hysteria is unnecessary and can be contagious.

I often think that some people need to have a bit of genuine drama or trauma in their lives; then they would stop weeping and wailing and making three act tragedies out of normal everyday stuff.

quickquicksloe, I laughed very hard at that!