...to expect my SAHM iron my shirt.

[burgatroyd]

We are having this discussion over breakfast and I have borrowed her tablet and mn name to pose this question.
She has a three year old at part time nursery and a five month old. I work full time in an office. I offered to iron my shirts but she does them. They are often creased, my opinion, but she feels they are good enough.

For instance one shirt had a creased line down the buttons and I had to wear a tie. I pointed this out.

Am I being unreasonable pointing out the creases?

[SistersOfPercy]

M&S easy or non iron is the way forward. Their shirts are amazing and you can drop on them for a fiver in the outlets.

DH has had to wear a shirt and tie since he left school, I iron his shirts (SAHM myself but I don't mind ironing) and have it down to an art form now. I can whip through in record time. My main bugbear is he's recently started a new job where looks have to be 'just so'. He's bought himself a few branded shirts as thats seemingly the right thing to wear in their offide. Ralph Lauren shirts are a pig to iron. As are Barbour and superdry. I long for the days of his M&S shirts [cry]

[ConcreteElephant]

Who are these people that think it's ok to leave a list of jobs for their partners to do at home while they are out at work?

If DH tried that with me he'd get short shrift I can tell you. He wouldn't though, because we're both grown-ups and, oh yes, he's not my boss. I would be astonished to find a post it note on the door telling me to do the dusting... We often divvy up a list of jobs between us but it's always at a 'partnership' level.

Is it that some people who are managers at work can't stop delegating when they are at home?

[ABlandAndDeadlyCourtesy]

That's the spirit, burga!

[whatsagoodusername]

Dots? There are dots on shirts that mean things?

I never iron. Takes me 20 minutes to do a shirt and I'm still not satisfied with it. Don't think DH is, either, because he takes over. I expect he will do it for the DC when they reach school shirt age and teach them to do it when they are big enough (how old is big enough?).

[Bambambini]

Line dry, straight in not scrunched up and into the dryer for 5 mins. Really minimises the irioning and creases. We send his work shirts out be ironed.

[burgatroyd]

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[RufusTheReindeer]

Apparently I'm shit at loading the dishwasher (my words) and so DH has to load it

Funny that....

I also can't reach the tops of the wardrobe (I'm taller than him...but I've convinced him that he has longer arms)

[BlackeyedSusan]

if shirt wearer does not like the way it is ironed then shirt wearer does it themselves.

ironing is one of the harder tasks to get done with small bodies around due to flex/heat etc.

[fluffyraggies]

I actually love ironing - and am very good at it. But i never iron anything! Just don't have the time.

When i do iron something like a posh dress or shirt 2 minutes before we have to leave the house i pretend to find it a chore.

[PoirotsMoustache]

Maybe the OP missed a word out of his title, and meant to type 'My sahm wife/partner to iron my shirt'

Some of you seem to be sitting waiting to jump on the slightest thing.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all, a SAHM should keep house, a part of that is ironing.

no no no no no.

If a woman gives up her future earning capacity to look after the kids, this does not include everything house related forever. It means - looking after the kids and their needs whilst the other parent works. The rest, anything that they or the house or family needs once the other parent comes home, needs to be a joint responsibility.

She hasn't given up her life to slave away and be at everyone's beck and call forever. She has given up a job in order to be at home whilst the other works...

[whatsagoodusername]

As a SAHM, I consider my job done if the DC and I are alive at the end of the day, fed, reasonably happy, and the house is still standing.

Ironing is not part of my job description. If I get housework done, fabulous. If I don't, oh well.

[Philoslothy]

My husband would never give me a list of chores however I can't imagine swanning about all day ignoring the housework and then expecting him to do it when he gets home.

[trikken]

Dh does his own ironing. I cant iron at all. Dh not bothered as I do most of the housework. I'd be pretty pissed if he berated me for it.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

Sorry, Burgatroyd but my dses are 17, 19 and 21, I am a SAHM, and dh does ALL the ironing chez nous.

[Philoslothy]

I love ironing because it can be done in front of the TV, my mind of housework.

[tiggerkid]

Sorry, I am still relatively new here: what is SAHM? :)

[FryOneFatManic]

I do some ironing, for myself and sometimes the DCs (crease free school uniform is lovely....)

I don't do DP's, except the very rare odd favour. His ironing is his business. Ironing comes under the heading of personal care, and as such I would not do ironing for another adult in the house. Anyway, he's better than me .

When I was a SAHM, I do housework, yes as well as caring for the DCs, but I draw the line at someone else's personal stuff. Not my job. Especially now I'm full time again.

[morethanpotatoprints]

tigger

SAHM

A mum who doesn't go out to work, or work from home.

SAHP - stay at home parent,

Wohp - work out of the home parent

etc etc

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

SAHM = Stay At Home Mum, tiggerkid - and there's a list somewhere of the common MN acronyms.

[morethanpotatoprints]

Oh bloody hell tigger, thought you were serious

[BitOutOfPractice]

Never before in the field of domestic conflict has the term "partner" been used with such unintended irony by an OP

And just as an aside, if yiu were my "d"p and you used my MN user name to pose ANY question, let alone one like this, yiu would be toast. TOAST!

[BitOutOfPractice]

Never before in the field of domestic conflict has the term "partner" been used with such unintended irony by an OP

And just as an aside, if you were my "d"p and you used my MN user name to pose ANY question, let alone one like this, you would be toast. TOAST!

[OTheHugeManatee]

OP, if she insists on doing it and won't let you do it, yanbu to want it done properly. Surely you can just find a diplomatic way of saying you'll do it yourself though? She'd have to be a bit odd to be offended by your saying you'll iron your own shirts

And surely the OP has just missed out 'wife' or 'DP' after 'SAHM' in the thread title? No need to jump down his throat. I know people will deny it until the cows come home but some of you are SO much readier to find something to criticise when the OP is a man