...to expect my SAHM iron my shirt.

[burgatroyd]

We are having this discussion over breakfast and I have borrowed her tablet and mn name to pose this question.
She has a three year old at part time nursery and a five month old. I work full time in an office. I offered to iron my shirts but she does them. They are often creased, my opinion, but she feels they are good enough.

For instance one shirt had a creased line down the buttons and I had to wear a tie. I pointed this out.

Am I being unreasonable pointing out the creases?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I love Yoda. That is all.

[scarletoconnor]

My SAHM lmao at that do you mean your wife/partner

My working dad aka dh does his own shirts as and when they're needed our ironing is really done on an as needed basis. Someone bought my dc some 'house' stuff for Christmas I will never get over the shame of him putting to toy iron to his face and saying 'hello' like it was a phone poor boy didn't have a bloody clue what it was :)

[MCSpammer]

I take my husbands to our local dry cleaners (yes me! I have the time and am happy to do so) once washed and dry. They iron them for £1 a shirt. They come back like brand new shirts, creases in all the right places. a bargain at a fiver a week.

[dinkystinky]

If you want them done a certain way, do them yourself
That's what my DH does

[Iggly]

That never works for DH'S Bigfoot! Never!

[JaneParker]

It's all about money and power, isn't it? I have never ironed a shirt in my life but I earned 10x what my children's father earned.

The posters mistake is in having a housewife. If his wife earned £200k they could pay for someone else to do the ironing.What made him think it would work to have a housewife?

[QuintessentiallyQS]

Oh, but there is still a need to iron, unless they are non-iron shirts! They are not nice and crisp and sleek unless ironed (if not non-iron), you slattens!

[QuintessentiallyQS]

So how do you dry the shirts if they are still creased after ironing?

I hang them up on coat hangers, straighten them out, so they are easy for our cleaner him to iron. (I dont iron)

[BigfootFiles]

You don't need to iron shirts!!!

Just take them out of the washing machine damp, hang them on a hangar, button them up, straighten them out (tug on the bottom of the shirt and cuffs), let them dry like that et voila, no creases and no need to iron.

It's how my DH does his. I didn't believe it worked til I saw it.

[QisforQcumber]

my SAHM

^ don't need to RTFT. Fucking hell that's hilarious.

[TheFairiesAreBack]

Fuck me, life is TOO short to iron shirts according to some dot matrix on the label. Who looks at the labels anyway.

[kungfupannda]

I don't iron.

Jersey fabric is your friend....

[MintyChops]

I am a SAHM and if my DH left me a list of things to do while he was out at work I'd be waiting for him when he got home to stick his list up his arse. Imagine the paper cuts.

[KittiesInsane]

My parents had a bizarre steam-ironing device that I've never seen anywhere before or since.

Essentially it looked like a giant mangle made out of two heated bolsters. You fed absolutely any garment, sheet, teatowel, younger brother into one side and it slowly, hotly emerged from the other, very very flat with knife-edge creases in some very odd places usually.

I loved ironing things with that.

[Zucker]

Why oh why would you "offer" to iron your own clothes? Wash your shirts, bung them in the dryer or hang them out to dry. Iron them. It's not rocket science.

[WorraLiberty]

Fill the steam iron up with piss

Let him wonder where the smells coming from when he's at work...

[Jenny70]

My DH is exactly like this. I ironed a shirt in newlywed bliss, he re-ironed it as it didn't meet his standards. He has done his own ironing ever since (and I sneak in the kids uniforms too!). No arguements, no blame, just get on with it.

I felt somewhat miffed when I did it out of love and he didn't appreciate it, but in the long term I have saved myself a lot of ironing.

I suspect he does the same with cooking (doing a bad job so I keep doing it)... but meh, we do what we can to make it all tick along.

[StanleyLambchop]

We never iron in the Lambchop household. It's crumpled or nothing!

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

My DH ironed his shirts before we met very competently. After I'd gone on ML the idea was I'd do more housework including all the laundry. That didn't make me any quicker at ironing his double cuffed cotton shirts, (he likes them ironed in a particular way so i take ages). When I became a SAHM I still took trouble over them, tried farming ironing out, but I sort of resent paying someone else to do what I can manage myself. And sometimes it didn't work out because they couldn't get that perfection thing happening either.

At least when he travelled away he'd pay the hotel laundry to sort his washing out and come home with clean pressed shirts - bliss. The temptation then was to get him to load extra clean but crumpled stuff into his bag when he went just to get it dealt with.

Once in a blue moon DH can choose between half a dozen shirts, the rest of the year it's either one or another; the rest will be on the line/in the washing machine/in a pile waiting to be washed or in the laundry basket ready to be ironed. Yet in all this time he hasn't gone back to ironing his shirts - or anyone else's stuff. Somehow the sky hasn't fallen in.

OP he wants to tackle his own shirts, let him, we have to play to our strengths.

[FraidyCat]

Except looking back at her last post, it looks like she was doing him a favour, i.e they agree it's not her job to iron shirts. He's still entitled to point out shortcomings, she entitled to leave his ironing to him, as she has decided to do.

[FraidyCat]

Of course any job should be done to a reasonable standard. So if it is her job to iron shirts, I would say it is reasonable to complain about a crease on the front.

Whether it should be her job to iron shirts we can't know, from the incomplete evidence. So everyone who has had a go at OP with respect to this is being unjustifiably nasty.

[ChunkyPickle]

DP has only one shirt that I will happily iron (I don't iron anything generally - we just walk around creased) because it really is a joy. It's a striped thing branded Italian Classics (or similar) from that tall man's shop, and it's beautiful to iron - goes lovely and crisp and flat, all very rewarding.

Almost every other shirt is an absolute pig though.

Very much like when I was at school and I had two expensive shirts (for which I was about the 4th wearer so they were lovely and soft too) which were very easy and nice to iron, then all the poly cotton ones were a pain and I'd just wear a jumper :)

If I was expected to do it he could take a running jump though (much as I've stopped folding his clothes after finding everyone's just dumped in a flexi tub when he did the washing)

[tiggerkid]

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius thank you! It may take me a while to remember them all but I am sure I will get there in the end :)

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

Acronyms here.