AIBU or is my Landlady?

[LLARGIES]

I live in a four bedroom flat share. We don't have a living room or anywhere where you could get in the way.

One shower, one toilet and one kitchen between 4 women (Land lady has her gf living here now fulltime so currently 5)

We all work except for her gf. She's foreign and can't speak English so sits in the house all day doing housework or cooking etc

I moved in a few months ago. I pay £630 a month for my room. On some weekends my bf tends to come and stay with me. Not every weekend as he works, but the ones when he is off. So in 3 months he has stayed 3 weekends.

We don't go into the kitchen we go out and eat and drink. He goes home and showers every day rather than use the shower here.

Friday night (my bedroom is above LLs) I got a text from LL saying she can't sleep because the noise on the floor? We were walking around a little bit, but not stomping even so, I sent back sorry lovely I will be quieter.

Roll on to this morning 11am my bf passed by (I'm on leave) came to chat to me in my room for 30 mins went toilet and went home.

Next thing I know I get another text from my LL saying:

Hi,
Please let me know when your bf will be in the flat and when he goes away so we are only girls and the night or in the morning we will move around any time
in the flat please don't forget that.

So I replied:

No thats ok he passed by for about 30mins went toilet and saw your gf. I don't understand why shes complaining (LL GF) though he wasnt in anyones way
and as always we stay in my room. Just so she knows I will be here all week.

I get this a girls house. I get that. I'd hate to make anyone feel uncomfortable about seeing my fully dressed bf going for a wee.

Like I said we don't use anything in the house we go out for food etc. Not in the way. I rent my room with good faith I don't get in anyones way. If I wish to have my bf over I shouldn't have to ask, should I? Last time I checked I paid rent and I wasn't living with my parents. He isn't over often at all if he was I'd get the issue here or even if he was hanging about first thing in the morning when people are getting ready for work etc. Starting to feel like I should maybe find a new place to rent. As I feel LL gf who I do like btw, but she is always here and always in the kitchen and it's her complaining! So AIBU or is she?

You don't need a bath for every 3 occupants.

What the LL does need is an HMO licence and a property which complies with fire safety regulations for HMOs ( wired in smoke alarm, self-closers on doors, window openings of certain size)

I don't actually see a smoke alarm anywhere in this house...

The OP is a lodger and therefore her deposit does not need to be registered. As a lodger, her landlady is only required to give her "reasonable" notice to leave. That could be a week, it could be less depending on the circumstances. For the time being I would suggest the OP remains placatory until she finds something more suitable, in case the landlady becomes unhelpful and asks her to leave at short notice.

Here's hoping she finds something much more agreeable between now and when the rent is due on the 7th.

The time for contacting the Council about HMO licences and HMRC about undeclared income is after she's left, IF she feels that vengeful when the time comes. The landlord doesn't sound that friendly but right now I don't think she deserves to be dropped in the shit. Not yet.

No bitter I wouldn't I'm not going to do that. I just hope she gives me back my money. I reckon she will. Although I am far too trusting and like to see the good in everyone until they fuck me over!

Hi Llargies, just wanted to say hope this situation resolves itself for you but please don't rule out East London for a move! I live there and it's fab and I (single woman) don't feel unsafe at all. And it's a bit cheaper than North London. Good luck with your new place wherever you go! x

What the LL does need is an HMO licence and a property which complies with fire safety regulations for HMOs ( wired in smoke alarm, self-closers on doors, window openings of certain size)

I haven't read all the thread but licensable HMOs are those with five people or more AND three storeys or more. Also as a lodger rather than a tenant the deposit doesn't need protecting.

There are really decent places around Colindale which are so much cheaper than what you are paying now. I know you like Islington but don't rule it out. I know that area very well and I'm happy to help if you would like. :)

this isn't an HMO, it is a place with lodgers. Far fewer rights for all than an assured tenancy (that is why they are called 'assured')

good news - you can move at short notice, a day or so if you like. You can also be evicted at that notice.

find somewhere else and go.