To eat the 'wrong' way round

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I use my cutlery the wrong way round when eating- would you notice? Would you judge me?
Should I at the age of 32 just learn to eat the right way round?!

I'm left handed and hold my knife and fork the "proper" way. Both my left handed DC also hold theirs that way.

However, my right handed twins both hold theirs the opposite way! Obviously that way is most comfortable for them, and it doesn't bother me. Seeing as they're 10 and it was only the other thread that made me realise that they held their cutlery differently!

My mum used to tell me off for holding my cutlery wrong, and so did a teacher once at school, but I could never figure out why it was wrong (i wasn't holding it in my fist) so I ignored them, decided I would probably never have dinner with anyone posh enough to notice an carried on as I was!

Revolting - judging someone is not the same as sneering at them. You would never know I was judging you as that would be very impolite.

One of my friends does this and what I don't understand is that he is right handed.

If he is cutting something with just a knife, so chopping veg or cutting a cake he holds a knife in his right hand, but then when he is eating it is in his left hand.

I genuinely do not 'get it', it can't be easier to use a knife in your left hand if you are right handed.

So do I. When I was a child I also set the table "the wrong way round"".

It used to drive my DM nuts

sash It is perfectly natural to us people who hold their cutlery "the wrong way round"".

I wonder if it has anything to do with the fact that I could always write backwards as fluently as I could write forward. i.e. ennalaroc.

I think that's just how our brain is wired.

Contrary to most of the above I would notice, and may well ask why you hold things the wrong way round, and when answered would probably mutter "how odd" then leave it, cast you out of my social circle, never to be invited again, oh you would also be mocked occasionally for your "oddness" with other guests, behind your back in a snide way of course.

I had to laugh at the other thread!

I am left handed but was taught to eat the standard way around. I've been teach my DD the same, she's right handed. It's better for her to hold the knife in the hand with best control, she can swap to right hand for her fork when there's no knife.

I think those that negatively judge at twats. I prefer for my DD to eat in the standard way but don't look at others and have a superiority complex!

I hold my cutlery like I'm left handed even though I'm not and my brother who is lefthanded holds his cutlery like he's right handed. We used to bang elbows if we sat next to each other at the dinner table

coralanne

I know, but I still don't understand it. Why move the knife from your favoured hand to the other one?

Whats has explained the reason why its considered the wrong way - you bang elbows with someone next to you.

Its not considered polite to crack elbows with your neighbour at the dinner table.

I would internally shudder if I saw you eating like that and wonder why your parents didn't teach you table manners but I would never mention it - its rude to embarrass people .

Those of you who judge this would hate me - I actually swap hands whilst I'm eating!

BUT, I have a disability and sometimes holding cutlery can be extremely uncomfortable because my hands refuse to work in a 'normal' way. But you go right ahead and judge me, I'm sure I've had worse!

I am right-handed but have always used cutlery the American way (knife in right hand to cut food, then knife down and fork in right hand to eat). Don't know why. I didn't even know it was "wrong" till DP commented on it.

I was taught this way as I am Canadian, and I didn't know it was wrong. Not until one of the nuns at Catholic school I had to go to when I came over here stood behind me, put my knife in my right hand and my fork in my left, held my hands and 'helped' me to eat properly for a whole lunchtime in front of the whole school.

I deliberately use the cutlery my way forever more just to spite her the evil bitch. In fact I use my fork to cut my food these days and don't use a knife at all.

If it's a banging elbows situation then doesn't common sense tell a person to sit in a position at the table where it's less likely to happen?
DS learnt from the age of about 4 to sit in a space that left his knife hand free to move!

p.s...alot of US traditions that are sneered at by the Brits are old British traditions that didn't get killed off by the 'progressive' Victorians. Every time you sneer at someone doing something different to you - you are behaving like a trussed up Victorian. Let loose a little will ya?

Left handed DD holds her cutlery the "normal" way round.
Right handed DS does not.

Right handed DH also does not, in his case he claims it was because he copied his parents sitting opposite him, so ended up doing the mirror image.

(in DS's case it is becasue he claims the other way was too hard and it was preferable to him using his fingers).

I wouldn't notice what hands people are using for cutlery and am amazed that some people have nothing better to do.

I had a read of the cutlery section of that Debrett's website, as well as some of the other pages like how to correctly eat a bread roll.

It's a piss-take, isn't it? Surely no-one can really muster up that much interest in how someone else eats?

I'm a leftie and remember taking ages to eat school dinners at primary school. Turned out the elderly dinner lady thought left-handers were devil-worshippers and it was her insistence I have my fork in my left hand and knife in my right which slowed me down. No one noticed even though my class teacher was well aware I am left-handed.

Any other cutlery combination I hold left-handed and knives, spoons and forks on their own are in my left hand.

I find the suggestion left handed people have poor etiquette because they bang elbows with (presumably right-handed) people next to them insulting. I have never done that or noticed anyone else doing it. I write perfectly normally with my left hand too, no turning the paper round or writing from above on the page.

It is really sad (and pathetic) that some people judge those who are different from them because their brains are wired differently as 'wrong' or inferior in some way for holding cutlery the way that makes the most sense to us. Try eating soup with the spoon in your left hand if you are right-handed and you'll get some idea what it is like when things are the wrong way round for you.

My Dad learnt to eat right handed at a young age despite being a leftie. Sadly the method used was having a teacher tie his left hand behind his back until he learnt to use a fork 'correctly'. Oh, and he was caned at school for it as well.
Maybe going back to this would stop certain types being offended at the dinner table

Sorry, tying his RIGHT hand behind his back, not his left

I was just pointing out why "the rules" developed in the past- I didn't make them!

I am a leftie

If someone is worried about bashing elbows with me because i eat the wrong way round then they will just have to move over a bit. Plenty of room on my sofa to eat whichever way i want!

oh wait, is that not right either

OP i am afraid it is the mark of satan. You are cursed and will bear jackals that will serve the dark one. This can be tested with a ducking stool and burning at the stake.

Latin for left is "sinister" you are clearly a sinister person. A witch - yes a witch. Burn her!

And you turned me into a newt

i got better tho

I think table manners are important.
However, I have no idea which why round the cutlery should be.
Not a clue!
I'm left handed and am always told you set my cutlery wrong!

The leftie stories are :-(
I remember my mother trying to make me write "with the bloody hand" until my teacher told her to not to.

I'd notice but wouldn't give a shiny shite. Not sure why anyone would.