To think DD is being silly?

[mumtoateen]

DD requested a French manicure with my home gel nail kit, did it begrudgingly, she's 15 and I think it's ridiculous to do that to your nails at that age, plus it takes time and effort and she's not going out anywhere to show it off.
She's then asked for acrylic nails after her school term has ended, before we go on a canal holiday- lots of physical work, and probably broken nails. She's now upset I said no.
AIBU to think she's too young for these things?

She is 15. Why is this even an issue?

My 12 year old, catholic dd, is currently sporting a neon orange coat of varnish on her nails... Surprisingly enough, she didn't feel the need to seek my permission!!!

YABU. My daughter does a manual outdoor job and gets her nails gelled because it makes them more hard wearing.

I think the 'gelish' nail stuff can strengthen weak nails. I wouldn't consider acrylic nails under any circumstances because that wrecks the natural nail. This would be for me though, I don't care what anybody else does.

Personally, I don't think they look nice...they always seems to look thick, very false and oddly shaped (even the expensive ones). They are pretty harsh on nails too. If she can pay for them herself though, I wouldn't stand in her way. If she wrecks them she'll soon enough realise it's silly to invest in something that's not going to last. If her nails are in decent shape to begin with you could suggest a manicure ( a natural one? ) as your treat and encourage her to have her own nails look as nice as possible. Natural, well manicured nails, imo, look so much nicer than the fake type...but, of course, she's 15 and she wants what other girls have (for whatever reason) and you should let her experiment a little if she wants to....its really not like she's come to you to ask for a big ring through her nose or a sleeve of tattoo!

What Lying said. Gelish is v good.

Oh, I forgot the small matter that I used to live on a canal boat and gel/shellac nails are indeed pretty damned hard-wearing. Any manicure should probably involve gel/shellac.

Quick aside I know a few mid teens who are having a hellish time trying to get a summer job this year. DS wanted one but at 13 I don't think he stands a chance.
Anyway, can you reach a compromise? After the work experience and canal holiday she can have them done if she saves up and pays half?
Then, if she takes them off after a day or so tell her to hold off things like that for a while until she's a bit older.

I'd say it's quite normal for her to want her nails done at 15 !!

Yes get the gel - I have an outdoorsy job and it still stays on for 2 weeks plus it strengthens my nails and stops hem breaking if I catch them.

If this is for real, OP, you are being vile about your DD. Given the number of teens i see with piercings etc, am really struggling to see why there is an issue with having her nails done. Why does it make her a tart?

OP, ask yourself "What would Jesus do?"

I reckon he'd have Shellac. Perhaps with a crackle glaze.

When I was 14, I called my friend a tart. She told her mum. Her mum told my mum.

My mum went uncles at me for using such sexist, horrible language. And rightly so.

You might want to reconsider how 'hilarious' your daughters language is and take a leaf out of my mums book.

She also knew when to leave the small stuff unsweated...

Uncles?! Bloody hell - it said 'nuclear' when I last checked.

dd served on the alter today with black nails she also wore short shorts under her cassock Nobody called the Bishop

My dd is nearly 15 and has asked if she can have acrylic nails for our holiday to Spain, I don't have a problem with it, especially as it means she won't be spending time re-applying nail varnish every evening while we are waiting to leave the apartment to go for dinner, anything to shorten the amount of time it takes her to et ready can only be a good thing.

I agree that it can damage your own nails and not that practical but at 15 I think getting false nails is not a big deal.

I think your dd's problem is nothing to do with wanting nails because her friends have them done, but in having a mother who resents spending time with her and has such a harsh attitude towards her. Are you actually setting out to destroy all her self confidence or leave her with a few shreds?

I was short on time, we are decorating and she expected me to do her nails.

When she's older and you don't spend as much time with her I think you are going to regret feeling like your daughter is wasting your time.

I posted to begin with as I thought you were struggling to make the transition to your little girl growing up but the more I read your responses the more I feel sorry for the cold attitude with which you speak about your DD.

Your poor daughter.you sound pretty mean- maybe sort yourself out before you start passing judgement. Hope you never give her a hint of the nastiness you displayed in your second post!

Looks like a tart. How totally horrible.