To not let someone go ahead of me at the checkout

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OK so I was shopping at Lidl and had a small trolley full of groceries. There were only 3 checkouts open so we all had to queue. The woman behind me asked if she could go ahead of me as she only had a couple of things. I asked her if there was any particular reason and she said no so I pointed out I had to queue too and she backed down.

It felt as if she was saying her time was more important than mine. She had no special reason eg had to catch a train so why should I let her go ahead and queue jump me?

I would. Ever hear of the idea of paying it forward? It was only going to add a couple of minutes to your wait. Happy woman, you feel good. What's not to like?

YANBU. Where do you draw the line? Behind her could have been someone elderly, behind them someone massively pregnant, behind her someone disabled. You would be there all day if you start that caper.

Yanbu. You could be there all day.
This seems quite common in Lidl ime
If someone's struggling with an upset toddler or similar, I would almost certainly let them in front of me.
If I have a trolley and the person being me has a small few items then I usually offer to let them go ahead. But not always, sometimes I'm in a hurry too. And I've been foolish and let three ppl ahead of me before, bowing to a perceived pressure as they're clutching a couple of packs of ham while I'm pushing a trolley.

I'm a regular LIDL shopper and I always let people with a few items go through if I have a trolly. The cashiers are so quick it makes hardly any difference to me and it's a nice thing to do. I always appreciate someone letting me go through if I only have one or two items.

I've never asked to go in front of anyone, but I do remember once when I only had a few items and the person in front had a trolleyfull and she turned to me and said "I'm not going to let you go in front of me, even though you haven't got much, because if I do it for you, I'll have to do it for everyone else, and I'll never get home" The funny thing was, first of all, as I said I never asked and second of all, there was nobody behind me in the queue! Bizarre.

I would have stopped the husband getting in with this trolley and told the basket-lady that she had no manner. That's outrageous!

I would always offer, but never ask, it's just a bit rude!

Grunt maybe she did it regularly and relied on the fact many people are too polite or to say anything.
Or maybe she'd say "Well you cand see I have trolley here so you are letting me go first with all my stuff"
The basket had a couple of bits in, maybe that was all she could carry ?

Still kick myself that I don't know the outcome

I usually offer people to go in front of me. I don't like the pressure of having to pack and pay quickly if I know people are waiting.

Grunt, tbh usually I probably would have let the woman go too, but first trimester, felt as faint as fuck, was roasting hot in there and I also needed the loo, so not on this occasion I'm afraid

depends on what I have or how pushy they are about it.

i was in there earlier and no stuff yet on the conveyor, but the queue was building up behind me. Checkout person said to me to start at the next checkout, but I gave the nod to the two behind me with baskets and stayed where I was.

lady with a massive trolley load followed them and all was well with the world :D

and I put my divider along the way, not across :D dh tutted, but did not realign it.

The woman only had 2 items and you had 20 items OP?

YABU not to let her nip ahead and YABU to stand there and question her like that, before refusing.

I would assume (fairly or not) that you had issues in your life where you're not often in 'control', and that this was a chance for you to exercise some over someone else.

happens to me every time in lidl. I've never had it in tesco or ASDA.

YANBU. I find I let one through then two more will ask. I hate shopping and want to get in and out quickly as possible. One woman called me selfish once because I wouldn't let her and her basket full of stuff go ahead of me...I was heavily pregnant suffering SPD .

I would think the same, Worra.

Well I've been caught out before, letting someone in with only a couple of things, only for them to pull out about 40 coupons, many of which, after much inspection and argument, turned out to be out of date/not for the things purchased etc.

I always go through the self serve counters now. No nonsense there.

Lying, I was standing at a bus stop one day when a women walked past and asked the woman next to me, if she knew what the time was.

The woman said "No, I don't" and then spent the next ten minutes moaning to her friend about "People who don't wear a watch, but expect you to dig down the bottom of your bag to get your phone out".

Talk about not giving someone the time of day. This one took it very literally

I recently offered to let a woman who was holding a couple of items go in front of me, which she did. She then proceeded to buy cigarettes, top up mobile and buy some lottery scratch cards. Took ages. I was

I'm always asked in both Aldi and Lidl! Maybe I've got a kind face .

Anyhow, for me it generally depends on whether my stuff is still in the trolley or already loaded on to the conveyor belt. If I am still unpacking, then I will say yes (or offer if the person behind me only has a couple of things) because they will still have paid & left by the time I've got my trolley round into 'catching' position!

If I'm already to go though, I might say no. Not sure whether I have actually ever said no though! [doormat]

I did have the cashier refuse someone once who was adamant they should go ahead of me though (Lidl, myself & two behind me with trollies - someone comes along with a basket & asks to go first). He said "I can't, I've already started scanning this ladies' shopping" even though he hadn't. The two behind me both directed him to the back of the queue too.

If I have a trolley load and they have a couple of items I will usually offer. I did this earlier in the week at Lidl.

Most of the time I will let people with far fewer items go ahead. Last week I had queued with a small trolley and someone behind me was getting twitchy with about 5 items on the belt. I didn't offer for them to go ahead as the self-service checkouts were all completely free.

YABU.

You could have offered and she wouldn't have had to ask. Maybe she looked at your 20 items vs her 2 and thought the same. Then you actually asked her for a reason why she thought you would let her go first.

Er, because it takes about 1 minute to check out 2 items. Oh and courtesy, lets not forget that one...

I have in the past if I haven't finished loading my shopping onto the belt and there's nobody else behind them. I probably wouldn't if there were other people behind them in case they expected to go ahead of me too.

I also don't when I'm working.

This is why I never shop in Aldi or Lidl, the last three times I always had a few items and only a couple of tills were open with customers who had a trolley load of stuff. I leave my items and walk out.

I do not get the fuss with those shops.