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AIBU?

That this reaction has riled me still

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IscreamUscream · 12/07/2014 22:29

I'm still riled at this womens reaction to her husband crashing his car into the back of mine at speed whilst it had two kids in the car. He had been behind us for half a mile and could see that kids were in the back seat as mine is an old car with a low back screen.
After impact the kids were screaming so I pulled the car into a safer position and my friend in the passenger seat tried to calm the kids down. The driver and his partner got out and started shouting at me that it was my fault, to which I said I have two kids in the car, his partner then came up to my face and said "so what". At that point she really riled me by her reaction of "so what" . The kids had hurt their necks and back and eventually had to be cut out of the car by the roof being taken off my car. The kids were taken to hospital and were okay in the end just a bit sore. But she has really pissed me off with her reaction. Aibu

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notapizzaeater · 13/07/2014 00:10

((And I could to with some too, sorry))

Hiw are the kids now ? How are you ?

TinklyLittleLaugh · 13/07/2014 00:11

I am a gentle person, but I think you did really well not to punch them in the face. Shame on the Police too for letting them stand around being goady while your children were being treated.

Allthelittlefoxes · 13/07/2014 00:14

They are wankers. Hopefully they are wankers who will have to pay you and your children a whacking great sum in compensation for pain and suffering.
I don't advocate 'ambulance chasing whiplash claims' but if your children were genuinely hurt and traumatised then those fuckers should pay....

Vintagejazz · 13/07/2014 00:16

They sound beneath contempt. What did the police say? Can they press charges against the driver? Might kick some of the arrogance out of the pair of knobs.

IscreamUscream · 13/07/2014 00:16

I'm not a violent person but it took a lot for me not to punch her, but then that would make me like her, horrible.

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STOPwiththehahaheheloling · 13/07/2014 00:30

OP they are dickheads. Dont get annoyed over their reactions. They would have reacted that way no matter who they hit so it wasnt personal against you. They sound like aggressive arseholes and just the sort of people always on 'attack' mode so just forget about them and focus on getting your DCs better again and letting the police and insurance companies deal with them two.

Glad you arent all seriously hurt- dont give any of your energy to being annoyed by those types. They'll be arseholes whether you choose to be annoyed by it or not.

flyingtrue · 13/07/2014 00:33

Some people tend to fly off the handle when they know they are in the wrong, these two are wankers. How are you all now? Have the police or insurance said anything at all?

IscreamUscream · 13/07/2014 00:36

The kids are okay just a bit sore, one child is mine and the other child is my friends child. It was a very scary thing to see them both like that and I'm grateful that they were both not seriously injured,just minor pain.

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AlpacaPicnic · 13/07/2014 00:42

Did this happen today Iscream? You are probably still reacting from the shock of everything. It may floor you in a few days time, look out for it. Shock is funny like that.
The whole thing sounds horrible, I hope everyone feels ok soon.

Did you happen to take any photos of the accident scene? It might be a good idea, if you did, to get them printed out ASAP in case there is some dispute with the claim.

OorWullie · 13/07/2014 00:44

Glad your children are ok.

The couple who crashed into you sound like complete tossers- regardless of who was at fault surely anyone's primary concern would be that everybody was ok and not seriously hurt?

Was recently in a car accident myself where the girlfriend of the other driver appeared and was yelling stuff at me through the window whilst we were waiting for the emergency services to cut me out (i had a very bad head injury and dont remember it)My poor sister had to tell her to back off and she wouldn't. Some people are just selfish twunts.

WallyBantersJunkBox · 13/07/2014 00:47

I think people like this believe that if they don't claim responsibility in RTA situations then there might be a chance they'll get away with it.

By the sounds of it he was driving aggressively, so probably does everything else aggressively in life. I bet they hoped they could intimidate you by shouting you down.

Then they probably crapped themselves when it all got serious and emergency services piled out. They'd have been watching like hawks to glean exactly how much shit they were in.

Hope you are all on the mend. Take it easy on yourself for the next few days. Shock can come out after an event.

Dayshiftdoris · 13/07/2014 00:51

Have been in accident with my son in the car and I could have killed him with my bare hands if I hadn't have had whiplash
He shrugged at the fact I had my son in the car and was all for finishing his round rather than waiting for the police... He was an arse to the police too...

4 years on - someone shunted me - no child on board but DorisDog in the boot!! My original whiplash meant neck pain and I was boarded... There was me and the lady who hit me apologising, checking I was ok and me reassuring her to not worry, these things happen, etc... Police said you can always tell when decent people are involved

DorisDog was ok BTW - she especially loved the policeman

Dayshiftdoris · 13/07/2014 00:53

Sorry son was ok in original accident too

Though it was 'a miracle' according to police

And sorry OP - hope your kids are ok. You did fine - they were the not decent element in that picture!

ScarlettlovesRhett · 13/07/2014 00:56

All that matters in the grand scheme of things is that you all walked away from it relatively unscathed.

The other couple were probably in shock themselves too tbh, though you did do well not to punch her! I may have, if it had been me and she was carrying on like that.

Hope everyone feels better tomorrow, and agree with pp re shock catching up on you again in a few days time.

Florabeebaby · 13/07/2014 07:48

This happened to us as well, DD in the back and me pregnant with DS, DH driving.
The young girl who crashed into us was so upset I felt I should have comforted her more whilst being strapped to a spinal board.DD and DH were fine, just me with some serious whiplash and back problems, rest of the pregnancy was fun!
That is how normal people react when they have an accident.
Hope you are ok.

Binkybix · 13/07/2014 08:05

That's an outrageous reaction. It depresses me that people like that exist. It sounds pretty cut and dried that it was their fault.

Vivacia · 13/07/2014 08:09

Why do you think you might have been unreasonable?

pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 08:11

Their aggression was definitely defensive by the time the police and ambulances turned up! Mind you, people like that are probably aggressive in absolutely everything they do. I bet they never have a weak cup of tea (thanks to pummelling the shit out of their teabags), and all their shoe-soles are stomped flat!

Maybe the police can advise on charges for dangerous driving/ driving without due care, and their intimidating behaviour. They didn't exactly show any mitigating remorse for their predictable accident!

Take your time about recovering, and don't decide you're "all right" a minute before you feel you are.

Another reason to take it slowly about "getting over" this accident is that one of the children was your friend's. I'm reluctant to suggest this, but if your friend believes you let this go "too easily", this accident and the aggressive bastards could cost you a friendship, too.

STOPwiththehahaheheloling · 13/07/2014 13:30

vivacia

Oldraver · 13/07/2014 14:12

Did the police know they were behaving in an aggresive way toward you ? What is their take on the accident and is action being taken towards them.

In my case when I was rear ended I was initially a leetle bit mad at the woman who hit me, but when I pulled open her door she was screeching so much (as where her kids who were unhurt physically and taken away)all anger towards her went.. The only thing was, as I was the calm one organising everyone and she was distraught I was initially treated as the guilty party and the police where quite offhand with me.

When I had to produce my documents I asked if action was being taken against her and was told I should of made 'allegations' at the time. You know as I was sort of busy in the back of an ambulance. At the hospital her husband was quite hostile towards my friend and I and kept scowling at us.... I jsut think guilt makes people act funny

Sallyingforth · 13/07/2014 14:52

It's quite irrelevant whether there was anyone at all in the back of the car, or whether the boot was full of priceless antiques, or whether you had one of those stupid yellow signs in the window.

The driver behind should have been paying attention, and allowing room to stop safely.

Presumably the shouting was to intimidate you to try to persuade you to accept some responsibility.

But if the accident was exactly as you said and you have not omitted some critical factor, your insurers will expect the other driver to pay in full.

dontcallmemam · 13/07/2014 15:07

He was angry and guilty with himself for his irresponsible driving and the consequences and was transferring it onto you.
Think of his insurance premiums next year & have a little smile to yourself.

FryOneFatManic · 13/07/2014 15:35

I had a woman drive into the back of me, causing a little damage. she immediately got aggressive, trying to say I didn't indicate to turn right.

A woman coming the other way and stopped to say she'd seen my indicator, which shut the aggressive one up.

Thing is, I knew she was going to hit my car, as I looked back in the mirror and clearly saw her looking across and chatting with a passenger. Her aggression was a reaction to the accident that was caused by her, not me.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 13/07/2014 19:13

Guilt is consistently underestimated - its a very powerful emotion which makes people behave revoltingly.

It's odd but true, over the last few years the absolute worst behaviour I've seen/ been exposed to has been due to that nasty rotten worm - guilt.

Bleugh. Imagine being such a shit person you shout and scream at parents and children you've just HURT, deliberately to try to wriggle out of legal responsibility. Nice. Lovely.

Ps like others have mentioned, shock can hit you for a few days, so go easy on yourself, it doesn't just evaporate in a few hours x

Namechangearoonie123 · 13/07/2014 19:19

Poor you

Obviously they're guilty cunts and will be paying for your whiplash/ emotional distress/chiropractor/increased insurance premiums for the next ten years.

Make sure you mention to the police that they were driving dangerously and were aggressive to you.

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