aibu to think mil shouldn't have called...

[juditz]

...At -not a typo- 4.30am in the morning?

Admittedly, my husband used to get up this early for work but no longer does (he has told her he gets up later now for work) but still-4.30 am !??!

Who the monkeychuff does this unless there is an emergency of sorts or perhaps somebody who needs a lift really early for work. You get my drift; she just wanted a chat.

I'm mad as hell; my dad is ill and we thought it was a call to say the worst.

Day off too and I am knackered as I couldn't get back to sleep.

AIBU?

So what did she say when you told her it was too early???

How politely did he tell her not to call that early again? Because if it was ny more polite than "What the hell do you think you are doing calling at this time you mad woman, don't ever do it again" it was far too polite.

I have been in the situation where you have an ill parent and expecting the worst and, in fact, am in it again and I know for a fact that if my phone rang at that time I would probably wake up in a tital, heart-thumping panic and think the worst. It is so inconsiderate of her.

I wouldn't want anyone to phone for a chat at any time before I go to work in the morning. Really, who has time to sit around and chat at that time of day? I time my morning routine so that I can comfortably do things without rushing and without getting up before I have to. I would be really unhappy at anyone who assumed that I could take 20 minutes out for a non-essential chat.

My DH can and does chat to his dm whenever he likes. I like his mum - she is very sweet and loves chatting to us both.

I'd be angry and in neck wringing mood at 430 am because I'd leg it to the phone thinking the worst only to be greeted by a cheery "hello fancy a chat?" No I don't because I thought someone died!

It's awful, the heart-thump when the phone goes and you're waiting on news.

My mum nearly gave me heart failure when she rang at 6am in tears - my sister was in hospital having a baby - but because she was in tears I was petrified that one or both of them had died! No, sis was just having a CS because she wasn't progressing, and everyone was fine. I don't really blame Mum because it was very emotional but still!

I'd suggest a different approach. Give her a ring this afternoon, and just say you are ringing to make sure everything is all right with her as you were concerned at her ringing at 4.30am.

4.30am is completely ridiculous. YANBU.

DH's aunty rang on the day we brought DS home from hospital (3 days old). She chose midnight as the best time to ring. We had just exhaustedly got DS to sleep in his crib for the first night ever and we were both asleep. Gobsmacked wasn't the word for it. Who rings new parents at midnight?

How old is she?
Could she be developing dementia?

I have an insomniac aunt who likes to text in the wee hours, and I don't always like to switch off my phone completely overnight so have occasionally been woken by texts dropping in if I've forgotten to silence the text alert...

Anyway, my new mobile has a great "do not disturb" blocking feature where I can set it to be silent every day between, say, 2200 and 0600, but with exceptions for calls from particular numbers (e.g. my mum or DP who I'd want to hear from whenever it was). Maybe this is old news to most people, but just in case it helps someone!