to think this is not an adequate thank you

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If you sent a child a birthday present would you expect any sort of thanks and if so what?

Didn't give it in person so that is out of the question. Not expecting a formal Thank you card but a quick phone call or even text would be nice. The closest thing to a Thanks is a status on the mum's Facebook saying "son had a lovely day, thanks for all the cards, gifts and the money, he's very happy" (not even tagged so people know it's there).

Am I being unreasonable in thinking that's a bit poor and almost worse than no thanks at all!

I don't expect a birthday party child to send a thank you but find it sweet if they do.

I don't expect friends who I hand over a present to personally to send a thank you note or text but I must have either very polite friends or ones with a lot of time on their hands because they always text lovely thank yous.

I do like a thanks from stuff I post (which is most of our family and friends). I have 2 God-daughters and for 15 yrs never ever had a thanks for any gift sent from them or their mum. In fact I wonder if there's a stash of parcels for them at Royal Mail never delivered.

It's sad to read people think thanks are a waste of time.

It irks me when I don't receive any acknowledgement of presents. It's really bad manners and although I'm not looking for a thank you card, a facebook message or a text would suffice. I was brought up to thank people but I reckon those rude people who don't bother their arses to even acknowledge receipt of gifts are obv bringing their kids up to be grabby and ungrateful. Rant over.

YADNBU, yet another present given to a child at DS school without a thank you being received. I live in a posh area, so I would expect good manners. No thank you at all weeks later. Believe me, around here the presents are expected.

YABU. Thank you notes are unnecessary!

YADNBU to expect thanks. My DS is to little to write or call himself but is a smashing little talker, so we made thank you short video for all people who went to the bother of choosing a gift, wrapping it and delivering/posting it. It's just plain rude not.

I am a bit puzzled by some who seem to think not writing thank yous is a new thing and/or a reflection on modern manners lacking.

When I was growing up in the 70's, no one I knew wrote thank yous except perhaps to a few old relatives.
Same for my dh and he grew up a few years earlier, in a different region, and different family background in both a parenting and financial sense.

Its only in the past few years that I've noticed it becoming more of a thing.

Just to clarify- this thread did not start about thank you cards/notes etc. It was about being thanked. Someone received something- what was expected was a text, call, bf message, tagged fb post, thanks next time the person was seen, not a formal written thanks. More as an acknowledgement of the gift being received than anything. Noticing that I had given one if you will.

A generic fb thanks was posted but not tagged or in any way written to indicate MY gift was received. Most people seem to agree this is rude. A whole separate debate about formal thank yous has been ongoing at the same time.

Can't believe so many here think it's okay not to thank someone for a gift... No wonder spoilt entitled brats are on the increase.