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Original poster

To think that when you say 5pm

90 replies

JosieMcDozie · 09/07/2014 17:41

You mean 5pm?? In laws have my eldest, dh is away and specifically asked them to fetch him home at 5pm - it's now 5.40pm and no sign. Aibu to be pissed off??

OP posts:
Janethegirl · 09/07/2014 19:32

Josie would they have behaved in such a way if your DH was there? The answer will help you decide what you should do next.

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JosieMcDozie · 09/07/2014 20:00

No, I don't think they would. They've got form for passive aggressive stuff, didn't think it'd turn into aggressive aggressive stuff for one minute. It's clearly a power trip with them. Deliberately being an hour late despite us specifying a time and then going apeshit in front of my children. I'm becoming less anxious and more bloody furious by the minute. Angry

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KissMyFatArse · 09/07/2014 21:16

What has your DP said about it?

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JosieMcDozie · 09/07/2014 21:21

That he will speak to them but that he supports me

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KissMyFatArse · 09/07/2014 21:23

That's good he is supporting you, I'd hope he has some serious words with them especially doing that in front of kids x

Itsfab · 09/07/2014 21:26

Someone beat me to it but you will need a new car seat now.

watchingthedetectives · 09/07/2014 21:30

This all sounds very odd - what is the backstory ? Did they just start shouting without you saying anything ?

Very strange indeed

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 09/07/2014 21:30

Make them pay for the new bloody car seat too. Angry

Pimpf · 09/07/2014 23:04

Well it'd be the last time they ds if I were you.

The lateness without letting you know is bad enough but then to hurl that absurd at you. I would have nothing to do with them after that

ThePinkOcelot · 09/07/2014 23:09

Wow, just wow! Don't think I would want to see that Dr for anything or that teacher to teach my kids!
Hope you are okay, OP. They sound horrible!

MintyChops · 09/07/2014 23:13

Jesus! They are awful.

macdoodle · 09/07/2014 23:13

Am curious to how you reacted when they arrived or whether they just started ranting out if the blue. You all sound slightly unhinged. Bath time 5:45 on the dot for bedat 6:30 sounds very rigid.

LOLeater · 09/07/2014 23:18

I don't care if you were "rigid" OP, if anyone told me to Shut my mouth" and hurled a car seat onto the ground, I would be waiting for an apology and until I got one they could fuck off .

Sorry to swear but that's damn rude of them.

macdoodle · 09/07/2014 23:36

I agree, but if the op started shouting at them as soon as they arrived it may explain some of the behaviour no?

MidniteScribbler · 09/07/2014 23:41

I'd really like to hear the other side of this story.

LEMmingaround · 09/07/2014 23:51

They would never have my child again. If thats whst they are like with you how would they be if ds played them up

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 10/07/2014 00:16

I'd have been starting to get worried if anyone was an hourlate and imagining all sorts of things Confused
They wouldn't be taking one of my children out again, and even more so after a display of temper such as you describe OP. How can they honestly expect to be allowed to be responsible for a child when they can behave like that? Hopefully your DH will back you totally, if he doesn't I'd be having a few lots of sharp words with him too. Throwing things and shouting at anyone isn't on, let alone at his mother while a four year old is present!

EarthWindFire · 10/07/2014 00:20

Am curious to how you reacted when they arrived or whether they just started ranting out if the blue. You all sound slightly unhinged. Bath time 5:45 on the dot for bedat 6:30 sounds very rigid.

^ this. You have omitted to tell us what you said and how you said it to them.

ouryve · 10/07/2014 00:21

If they live that close, then an hour late is bloody ridiculous.

They must never be in a position, ever again, where they can use your child as a way of getting at you, you realise? All future interactions must be about you child and at your child's convenience and not about them.

Meow75 · 10/07/2014 00:25

The OP said "It, I was very polite. I thought it may have been miscommunication.....clearly not."

at 1851. RTFT

Staywithme · 10/07/2014 00:30

Even if the OP was a bit sharp with, not that I'm saying she was, they had no right to react the way they did. Actually, given that they had already been told what time to bring them, even if she had been rude, they still had no right to act like that! They sound like a couple of bad tempted brats!

EarthWindFire · 10/07/2014 00:31

I have RTHT thank you!

The OP has not said the tone or anything that she used.

What they thought was polite and the OPs version may be two different things. It doesn't excuse the GPs behaviour but we only have one side of the story.

BackforGood · 10/07/2014 00:41

I have RTFT, but, like Midnite it would be interesting to hear this from the other side.

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JosieMcDozie · 10/07/2014 07:06

I'm Unhinged macdoodle?? Why? Because my I want my ds to be home to enable me to get him to bed early as he's knackered with early waking. Can you explain your opinion?

Earth - I said further up Thread I was very polite - there is no subjectivity with me asking a question in a calm tone . I didn't scream or shout I asked them very politely if my dh had asked them to bring him back at 5.

I'm quite sure they wouldn't be truthfully be able to say anything different to what I've said but with their ability to twist and manipulate things, who knows. I too would like to know how they're going to make themselves the wronged party in all of this.

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KnackeredMuchly · 10/07/2014 07:12

I bet truthfully they could say a lot different. Of course they overreacted but don't think you are completelt inocent. I bet if you were able to see things objectively you would see your tone in a different light.

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