To think dp should end his dinner out with his dad and see me as I've just found out my df has died.

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Just that really. Dp is out for dinner with his dad, I'm not expecting him to rush back but maybe end things quicker than before and come home. My df has passed away (expected as he was 81), I haven't seen him for years due to 'd'sm but he's still my father and I could use a cuddle. Ds is with his dad and I'm sat with berrycat, as sympathetic as she is i think she just wants dinner.

Found out by answer message from my dfs solicitor :(

So sorry for your loss, has dp said he won't? Ynbu to want a cuddle at a time like this.

Oh I'm sorry I hope he comes home soon and you get your cuddle.

Oh dear how horrible and greatest sympathy.

Of course he should. Also what a horrid way to find out. Big hugs op.

Oh berry so sorry to hear that! sending you a big hug. It's never easy losing a parent no matter whether it's expected or not. Continue to cuddle berry cat on the sofa I'm sure your DP will be home soon.

I'm so sorry for your loss Berryglitter.
Take care of yourself.

I hope your DP comes home soon and you find some solace.

Tried calling and no answer, text explaining the situation briefly. I don't expect him to leave his food and rush home but I feel like he should at least respond and arrange coming home asap. He always has his phone on him in hand (for work). Don't really know what to do with myself. I feel so guilty as I hadn't seen df for year and now he's gone.

Thank you, thank you so much. I'm so shocked. Berrycat is being a responsible human owner and giving me lovely cuddles, she's not impressed by her damp fur though. Hopefully mrberry will respond soon. Need a human cuddle badly, as much as cat snuggles are lovely and comforting she can't help much with the practical issues. How do I deal with things in terms of funeral when my step mother thinks I'm the sporn of Satan etc.

Take care of yourself, you are NBU. Have you got a drink? The solicitor is an arse IMO.

Sorry for your loss. Xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your DP gets the message and gets home to you soon.

YANBU. Your DH should be home asap.

Yeah I agree, he is a complete prick. I now need to break the news to dm even though they split when I was a tiny child, it will still upset her. I don't know whether to leave it to the morning. Then there's ds to explain it to, he's only 5. Thank god for you lot and Berrycat, she's ignoring tuna felix to give me cuddles. Hopefully dp texts soon :(

I have a bottle of lambrini In the larder left over from easter, maybe I should open that.

So sorry for your loss
Ofcourse yanbu

I hope MrBerry gets home soon for you XX

Thank you all, he has read my message but still no response.

I'm so sorry for your loss .

What kind of arse leaves news like that on an answerphone?

I hope DH is home soon to give you a hug & some moral support.

Maybe he's in an area with bad reception op or it's loud in the restaurant? Sure he will come home soon. Cuddle that lovely cat and leave telling your mum until tomorrow unless of course the twatty solicitor has texted her too.

Let him know that you need him to finish up and be home with you. If you have not spoken to your father for a while he may wrongly think you will be ok with the news.

My thoughts exactly solicitor knows I work full time and have a child, so I wouldn't get a chance to listen to answerphone messages until late evening. He has my bosses number, my landline etc.

Dp just rang, he doesn't feel that he can leave his father after he's spent all this money on their dinner and he may be home later, seriously.

So sorry for your loss. Your DP is an absolute arse.

Oh berry that is awful of him.
And sod your stepmother, you will now have even less reason to be concerned by her. Go to the funeral. Think about your dad and not her.

Do you have any siblings?

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Sorry Xxx

Yanbu

Thank you. Yeah I think he is. Completely. He's just made the most awful evening ten times worse. He thinks because I haven't seen my df for 2 years that it can't bother me too much, I was the biggest daddy's girl. I worshipped the ground my df walked on. Like he does with his df, I couldn't be like this towards him and his df(which is a ea bastard). What a day. Thank goodness for you lovely lot and berrycat. She's a lovely bundle of malting fluff.

Sorry for your loss :-(

Tell your DP that you need a cuddle, Men can be dense sometimes at realising.

If he still doesn't come home, then he's got his priorities a bit warped. Surely his DF would understand.

nothing to add here but sympathy and love berry xxx

No siblings, well younger sibling with a different father and older sibling same father but estranged from birth (at least 15years older than me). My dad would have been 85 in January and I'm 25. Never met my older half sister. Dreading telling my mother tomorrow, she will be so upset, he was her first love.