To think dp should end his dinner out with his dad and see me as I've just found out my df has died.

[Berryglitter]

Just that really. Dp is out for dinner with his dad, I'm not expecting him to rush back but maybe end things quicker than before and come home. My df has passed away (expected as he was 81), I haven't seen him for years due to 'd'sm but he's still my father and I could use a cuddle. Ds is with his dad and I'm sat with berrycat, as sympathetic as she is i think she just wants dinner.

Found out by answer message from my dfs solicitor :(

How are you doing today Berry?

Hi berry how are you today

I lost my dad in kind of similar circumstances. We were very close when I was younger but then he met and married my step mother. She was I think jealous of our relationship and have him a hard time whenever he saw me and as a result I saw him very infrequently. To my mind it was as much his fault as hers though as he could have stood up to her...

Anyway he died almost two years ago. In some ways I grieved both for the loss of him but also the loss of the dream that one day we would be as close again.

His funeral was organised by my step mother and was a horrific experience as she didn't tell me some key details and painted me out of his life in the eulogy etc
So my advice about the funeral (which I know is a bit away) is to go but to be wary that it may be unpleasant.

My husband was similar to your dp in that he couldn't quite understand why I was so upset (and often still am) over somebody with whom I had such little contact.

Hang in there it will slowly get easier. I have no doubt that your dad knew how much you loved him. In my experience dad's get stupid when a new woman comes on the scene

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a complicated relationship with my dad, but when he died suddenly it affected me very deeply. I'm so sorry your husband was so unsupportive, to say the least, I'd be heartbroken and furious. Could he have been drunk?is he usually insensitive and uncaring? Because he really fucked up IMO.i hope he is remorseful and supportive today the insensitive dick

Sorry for your loss. I lost my dear dad last year. It is just awful. Bigger than you think it's going to be. Take care of yourself. x

I'm ok today still very shocked. Just got in from work. Dp is being more supportive, he's sent me for a lay down (so I'm on here instead)