To be fed up with friends and drinking around DCs

[tiredandemotionless]

At the risk of seeming like a killjoy, I'm gritting increasingly at get togethers with friends being full on drinking sessions, we all have primary or pre school DCs and whenever there is an opportunity to spend time together with children it's wine o'clock.

I see pics uploaded on social media of other friends necking prosecco with school mum mates on play dates, the DCs school summer BBQ (attended by parents and pupils) is a right old piss up.

I like a drink, certainly not anti alcohol, but Christ , surely we are storing up issues aplenty for kids by normalising excessive drinking (yes, us parents)?

Or is it just me...?

I love a drink, but none of my friends get the wine out on days out with kids, 'play dates' etc.

If its a day involving adults and kids in a more general way - a summer bbq etc - there will usually be booze, but nobody gets plastered.

Are you invited? Do you go and have a drink?

You might just be seeing the first and last glass some one is clutching,smiling at the selfie.

You do sound like killjoy.

I know what you mean. I've been to a few "kids parties" where it seems to just be an excuse to get pissed.

I sat and watched the birthday child run about grabbing whatever food they could reach (cakes mainly) while the dad and rest of family drank rather than sit her down with a plate of food other than cake

I usually indulge in one glass but I don't do getting drunk at a kids party it's setting a bad example and I like to be "capable" when dealing with children

Bore off.

Kids are safe, a glass of wine with kids about is fine.

I didn't say anything about one glass of wine, I'm talking about drinking from lunchtime to midnight. If you read the post I said drinking to excess.

Play dates?? Ah, I guess you mean what used to be known as 'going to play with a friend'. Enough with the American crap already.

As for the question, depends if it really is to excess or not.

Where do these mums live? They sound great

As long as they're not getting so pissed they can't look after their kids, I don't see the issue.

I think there's far more chance of 'issues aplenty' being stored up by normalising excessive eating, as much of society currently does.

YANBU. Apart from anything else it makes it more difficult to suggest a glass of wine when you mean a single glass of wine, in case it all kicks off. I also think it's not a good idea to be routinely drunk around kids.

I have friends like this and it really gets to me. What if something happens to dc and everyone is drunk who's going to go with them to hospital. Nobody can drive. I was a single mum for quite a few years and would never drink to excess incase my ds needed me. That doesn't mean I'm boring or a killjoy I just don't need to have a drink to enjoy myself.

YABU I don't see what the problem is - are you even there - you only mention seeing photos, nothing wrong with a couple of glasses - honestly it makes play dates way more bearable

Uncle T I really don't get the animosity towards the word play date? It does the job and is faster than saying " going to play with a friend".

tired I would think it depends in the amount consumed, couple of pimms fine, whole bottle maybe not. Why does it concern you so much?

If something happens to children and they need to go to hospital and no one can drive, you call an ambulance. HTH

Yanbu.

I don't see why every occasion needs to involve alcohol. They serve it at my dd's school fetes which I find

I also think you can't look after kids properly after more than a couple. Plus it is a bad example.

If something happens to children and they need to go to hospital and no one can drive, you call an ambulance. HTH

Sure they'd love you calling an ambulance out for a wound that needs a couple of stitches or a suspected broke toe

I worked in public health alcohol policy for a bit so I know the research and the impact, that's pretty much a given.

Personally, find it crap that we can't as a group of interesting grown ups have days together without it revolving around alcohol. Of course it's personal choice, but if I'm not up for being pissed by tea time what am I meant to do? Watch? Be responsible for everyone's kids?

Anyway, it's clear that it depends which end of a wine bottle you look through on this one.

Yabu. Where I live we all pitch in, have a wine or two (or more), eat food and have fun. The kids love it, the adults love it. Nothing better than a bbq, friends over to play or pub garden afternoon with a few drinks.

Can't see the problem when the children are having a brilliant time and the parents are happy to. It's the summer, enjoy it! I grew up in France, it was the norm. Don't be a killjoy.

You'd call a bloody taxi!! Not an ambulance FFS!!

What if your kids had a serious accident? Are you taking the piss?

Obviously not for some stitches, would call a taxi for that. Was referring to a proper emergency.

I think it was you taking the piss actually. Ambulances aren't a taxi service for those to pissed to deal with their own children.

Of it's an emergency sure call one but why wouldn't you make sure at least one of you could drive your own kid to hospital if they cut themselves badly. You'd be there quicker than waiting for taxis

Then you would call an ambulance or taxi or ask a neighbour/friend to drive us, depending on the severity of the injury. Just like I'd do after drinking a cup of tea. I don't drive, so it wouldn't make any difference.

Ynbu.. A glass or two is fine, but every time to excess is wrong.

But I may be this way because exh is an alcoholic and so are 4 generations of dad's of men in his family are so I don't like my kids seeing people get drunkard drink on a regular basis.

I love a barbecue and a glass or two. Drinking from lunch until midnight would see me paralytic!
I have been to the odd party where everyone was necking booze. It made me very uncomfortable.